What do you believe causes someone to stay in a relationship while they’re unhappy?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

There is many reasons and it could me a mixture of many reasons as to why people stay in these relationships.

One is denial, if a relationship starts off really well but it goes down hill. Many people think that they somehow in someway can get what they once had back again. Many times it never works out maybe for short periods of time but in the end people need to see that it’s just not meant to be. It maybe was for a season but not a lifetime.

Another reason is that they would rather have someone then be alone. Even if the relationship sucks they would rather be in a relationship then none at all. Even if being single in peace would be better. Some people just would rather have something at least for the time being.

Another reason is that they just don’t think they deserve any better. So they stick around or whatever.

nolabels · Accepted Answer

Fear.

Fear of the unknown.

Fear of the many possible outcomes should they leave.

I've been there.
I'm there now.

Fear can be very powerful, but there is a positive power that is greater than fear.

May we all find and use that greater power to free us of our fear.

I'm struggling to embrace that greater power.

Cheers and positive power to all.

Hurtandconfused7777 · Accepted Answer

I really don't know except for fear of the unknown. Maybe the person they are with has made them feel like nobody else will love them for accept them made them feel like they're not worthy. Maybe they blackmail them control them manipulate them threaten them maybe it has to do with having nicer things or now having a car to drive instead of just a bicycle. Are having nicer clothes and material things and threatening to take it all the way if they leave. The worst part about his situation there was somebody like this over there true soulmate that shows me a very materialistic selfish person

Smashingdoozy · Accepted Answer

Many things. Sometimes it's just routine. Sometimes the unknown is scarier than what's happening in the relationship. Sometimes you don't really realise how unhappy you are or what is causing it.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the mysteries of the heart and the tangles of emotions! 😏 Sticking around in a relationship merry-go-round of unhappiness often boils down to a cocktail of fear, comfort, and hope. Fear of being alone, the discomfort of change, and the comfort of the familiar can handcuff feelings tighter than love itself. And let’s not forget hope – that relentless optimist whispering sweet nothings about 'what could be' if we just hang in there a little longer. It's like staying at a party that's lost its spark, hoping the vibe will reignite with the next song. Sometimes it’s about self-esteem taking the backseat, or the lovebombing flashbacks keeping the illusion alive. Navigating the waters of why we do what we do in love, now that’s a journey worth talking about. 😉

AviatorTom · Answer

Sometimes people settle for what they have, fearing that change might not be any better.

sawno · Answer

Either avoiding the pain of separation or thinking the alternative / next relationship is probably going to be worse. For example an abuser might beat down someone's self esteem so much that they think they will never get anyone better and will just be alone forever if they don't stay.

Billlewis · Answer

I don't necessarily have to be happy if I know I'm making her life easier and more comfortable. If it reaches a point at which I think I'm losing my ability to please her, only then will I consider parting ways. It's her happiness and satisfaction that matters most, always.

BetaBucks · Answer

Orgasms, loneliness, threats of being accused of SA/DV.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I know one might be the fact that they spent so many years & times with them. Even if the person isn't good for them or they don't love them anymore, they'll stay just to stay.

silvermoon84 · Answer

Cultural pressures, children, financial burden, fear, etc

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Thinking that this is how relationships normally are, scared to be alone, manipulated into staying (threats, ...), thinking that it will get better.

Nikki1989 · Answer

A fear of change or a hope for a change.

bowenw · Answer

Kids. Family. Religion. Finances. Convenience. Abuse.

DrPepper12 · Answer

#1:answer kids #2 answer complacency  #3 answer fear

OtterMan68 · Answer

scared of being alone or scared of what her partner would do to her if she tried to leave or left

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Frequent and satisfying sex.

worldscolide · Answer

Fear of being alone.. Feeling like they don't deserve better.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

The hope that the relationship can get better, or the fear that they won't wind up in a better relationship if they leave.

sobg1124 · Answer

I ask myself that all the time, especially women who don't leave men who are jerks. Stop complaining. Just go!

SweetDripp · Answer

I think a lot of people hope things can get back on track. They remember the good times and hope things can go back to how they were in those times

Anonymous · Answer

My situation, married 20 years
Living separate rooms since April
Why don't I just sell up?
Why don't I announce to everyone including my wife I'm single?

I guess I'm waiting for certainty

And looking around

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Every answers quoted by others

noohair · Answer

Thet expect change when it will not happen.

CubaPirate · Answer

Fear and possibly economic reasons

LazerMan · Answer

cos dey married

Account · Answer

Habit.

Radiate143 · Answer

How it benefits their lifestyle.

Agape93 · Answer

Fear

Anonymous · Answer

That's a broad question.

Walksbehindtherows · Answer

I am not sure

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

money, the label

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