What's the worst type of person you could imagine falling in love with?

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For me, it's a pedophile. I would feel Godawful to find out I fell in love with one. My heart goes out to the wife of Jared Fogle.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

This question feeds into one of the most ignorant trends in the media today: the idea that people are defined by one single trait. Worse, if you like them, then you’re usually singling out the greatest thing about them and ignoring the terrible things. If you don’t like them, you’re singling out the worst thing about them and ignoring the good things.

To your example, pedophilia is a condition, not a behavior. Let’s try a simple thought experiment: who is worse in your opinion, someone who is sexually attracted to children, but has never groomed a child, let alone touched one inappropriately, or someone who has repeatedly raped adults? You don’t need to answer publicly. I’m just making my first point. Hating someone for what they are, rather than what they’ve done, is called “prejudice”, and it’s widely condemned for good reason.
It’s very difficult to treat people with paraphilias because of our societal trend to make them taboo. We fear what we don’t understand and we can’t understand things we refuse to talk about. When it’s culturally inappropriate to discuss paraphilia beyond flat and broad condemnation, it becomes impossible to help people, even if they are brave enough to risk their lives and livelihoods to ask for help.

Even if you fell in love with a pedophile, based on your statement, you wouldn’t be falling in love with the fact that they are a pedophile. And even if you did, say you were the kind of person who falls for people you feel compelled to “rescue”, you almost certainly wouldn’t fall for the same person if you knew they were a rapist. Furthermore, that person isn’t ONLY a pedophile, or even a rapist. They have many other qualities, mostly normal and at least a few very becoming traits that might attract you to them. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. That’s normal.
Nobody is all good. Nobody is all bad. Understanding that you can love someone and not accept everything about them is a part of growing up. Too many divorces happen because adults hold onto a childish fantasy of love and “happily ever after”. They seem to think that they can’t stay married if their partner and relationship aren’t storybook perfect for every moment of their lives.
Imagine being a parent and finding out that your kid is some kind of degenerate criminal. You can take back your love and commitment when you fall for someone, but that kid is your flesh and blood. There’s a nigh unbreakable bond there. How about another thought experiment? Seventy-five years ago your kid comes out as gay. Can you imagine how you would have felt in that era? It’s sometimes difficult to remember how societal values change and have a direct impact on our personal values. Then it becomes difficult to forget how we’ve been conditioned and imagine how we might have behaved differently in a dramatically different time and place. Nobody wants to admit that they would own slaves, but many people did. What if instead of being gay, they fell in love with a black person? What about both? Even if you can’t imagine a world in which you wouldn’t condemn them, how might you try to protect them from those who would? How would that behavior compare to actual condemnation?
How different might your perceptions of a person or group of people be a century from now?

What if you had a kid who turned out to be a pedophile? Can you imagine loving someone like that now?

It’s understandable to feel hurt and betrayed when you find out that someone you thought hung the moon knowingly hurts people, repeatedly. Especially when you are one of the ones that they hurt. I have had to come to terms with that fact more than once in my lifetime.
I don’t hold people’s past against them unless they continue to embrace bad behavior or the value systems that condone it. I don’t hold people’s natural conditions against them unless they use them as a copout for their bad behavior. This one is particularly difficult as it pertains directly to me. I’m still better at forgiving others than forgiving myself.

Still-alive · Accepted Answer

Yeah what you said but not just that, when they hide it from you for decades and then you learn when you're like 15-20 years into the marriage. this whole time you were married to a monster.

avery58 · Accepted Answer

I'm never going for someone with emotional baggage again. I tried it once and just ended up getting hurt. It's not my responsibility to heal anyone or help them trust others, if they aren't ready for a relationship then they just shouldn't lie to themselves or others that they are.

Some of them do improve, I know, but I'm just not taking that risk.

KittygosMeoWW · Accepted Answer

Pedophile, abusive person, a liar, and someone secretly bi or gay

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Falling in love with someone who hides a dark and harmful truth like pedophilia is a chilling thought indeed. It's like a nightmare where the person you thought was your dream partner turns out to be someone entirely different. The betrayal and shock of such a discovery can be profoundly damaging. It's a stark reminder of the importance of truly knowing who you're letting into your life and heart. Love should be a source of joy and trust, not a dark well of secrets and lies. Keep those vibes positive and always trust your gut feeling – it's your emotional compass in the wild journey of love. Stay bright and loving, and may your heart always lead you to the right people.

razelove · Answer

I think it would be a TikToker who does the food videos. Maybe I should start playing the Sims and Project Zomboid on one of those to make a couple nickels off my gaming time and become my own worst nightmare...

HawkPerception · Answer

I don't know if there's one. There's tons of people that would be terrible falling in love with, but if they are those types of people, I wouldn't be falling in love with them in the first place.

AviatorTom · Answer

It's never gonna happen, but the absolute worst would be a grossly obese woman with no morals and even less intelligence.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Dual diagnosis: alcoholic/drug addict, and borderline personality disorder.

Finchie40 · Answer

My ex , a toxic selfish , Bi polar bitch

Luopio27 · Answer

Pedofiles, murderers and rapists are the worse of the worse. But they are not the only ones. They are the no go zone for me even in the name if friendship. These people in times of war can get released, armed and geared up for war in exchange for shorter prison sentences. Those polititions who support unleashing the demons, are no better. If rules and laws in times of peace dont stop them, it won't be stopped in times of war.

A deal breaker for me, is
- Debt collectors and polititions who gave them tje right to turn people's failures into personal profit.
- Psychiatrist, and all their acolytes. egs, Psychologist and therapists.

Government debt collectors dont turn it into profit, the tax payers pay their salary!

adriana_wife · Answer

The worst type of person to fall in love with would be someone who’s manipulative and emotionally unavailable. They’d make you feel like everything is your fault, constantly play mind games, and never truly open up. You’d always be left questioning where you stand, feeling emotionally drained and like you're not enough, no matter how much effort you put in.

lonelyboy_08 · Answer

Machiavellians are the worst, being there so, i have a wonderfully worst experience where she made me feel every time that i was not worthy of her but, in reality kt was exactly opposite. Plus she was a great at twisting the facts. So Beware of them cause they don't care about any 1 but only their own -self intrest.

Caroline91 · Answer

Anyone hiding something major because that would mean I feel in love under false pretenses. I would fall out of love pretty much immediately.

Sweetascandy1990 · Answer

A narcissist and abusive person would be the worst person to fall in love.

Anonymous · Answer

I heard a story I’m not sure it’s true though. It’s about a family went a vacation. A teenager found this older guy probably in his 20s or older. She lied about her age in the bar. She lied to her parents and family about the “new boyfriend’s age”.

Anonymous · Answer

For me it would be a modern feminist.

I actually had this happen years ago. I dated a girl who started out as moderate liberal and then when full radical when she made a bunch of friends from the wrong crowd.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Psychopathic personality, probably. But it's extremely unlikely to happen, given the prevalence and my awareness lol

LifeHitMeandRan · Answer

A bipolar depressed schizophrenic chomo narcissist with OCD who uses PCP.

LiamS95 · Answer

Even worse in my thoughts is an incestuous pedophile.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Pedo, trafficker, animal abuser, someone who practices human/child sacrifice.

MK1997 · Answer

Someone suffering from toxic masculinity or a psychopath

CB-Raido-Time · Answer

A feminist, but that would not happen by default.

msc545 · Answer

A woman with borderline personality disorder, or a MAGA

Anonymous · Answer

I'd have to say a ladyboy. EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

Anonymous · Answer

Girl who doesn't like me back (story of my life).

exitseven · Answer

A drug addict.

Anonymous · Answer

I once knew a man and he was caught being a pedo by his wife. He then died in about a year.

LostandFound__x · Answer

Someone who’s not emotionally available.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

A GOLD DIGGING BARRACUDA !!!(Robin Givens, Loni Anderson, Toni Braxton and their ilk!!!)

Kelly6 · Answer

@simslover92 Pedo and criminal and abuser

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Atheist or cruel p. o. s

ManInChains · Answer

A feminist

Anonymous · Answer

A woman who's an opportunist.

Anonymous · Answer

Serial cheater

TsundereMatrix · Answer

That’s a long list!

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely a feminist.

jazzy34 · Answer

A phony.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

My first fiancé.

Anonymous · Answer

A Trump supporter.

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

Your therapist

Texaskid1 · Answer

A feminist.

Thot_Stomper · Answer

Myself

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

A frigid bitch.

Anonymous · Answer

A black person

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