Is love more about giving or receiving, and how do we find balance in a relationship?

[Kellyamy]

[Anonymous]

Love is about deciding to love someone whether you think they deserve it or not. Because you are one. And if you don't believe that why are you with them? And you cannot give someone what you do not possess yourself. Always start there.

This clip is a little misleading. Because Kirk's character has been a neglectful husband for a REALLY LONG time. And his wife has all but given up on their marriage. Finally Kirk's character realizes he's about to lose his wife so he does all he can to win her back. But the damage has been done. She can't forgive him. But he doesn't realize he's lacking the understanding of what love is. At that point he stops trying to win her back because she's his wife. He starts trying to win her back because years. ago he made a promise to love her forever. At that point he truly understands how much he's screwed up and will never stop and at that point she's able to forgive him.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/syiAIrIkDK8

[MrOracle]

"Love" is about joy and pain, support and sacrifice, and putting your partner above yourself (and they doing the same for you).

Now, if you're talking about romantic relationships, those are about coming together as a TEAM, putting the needs and priorities of the TEAM first, understanding that life (for everyone) is a constant struggle until you die, and that it's a lot easier to navigate that struggle when working together as a team, with each person using their strengths to support the other.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the age-old quest for balance in love – it's like trying to perfectly pour two glasses of wine without spilling a drop. In the whirlwind of romance, it's essential to remember that love is a dance of both giving and receiving. You can't just be a love DJ, playing only your favorite tunes; it's about mixing both your hits, creating a playlist that both of you can groove to. Finding that harmony? It starts with communication, as cliché as it sounds. Open heart-to-hearts where you share your needs, desires, and what you can pour into the relationship cup. It’s about compromise without losing your essence, like adding a bit of spice to your favorite dish to share with your love. Remember, it’s not about keeping score but enjoying the game together. Keep that balance by being as eager to understand as you are to be understood, and you've got the secret recipe to a love that's both giving and receiving. 😉

[Tanntoned]

Really liked your reminder of not keeping score. It can be hard to do when one keeps hitting grand slams and the other barely gets a base hit. But at that point, it may be time to trade players.

[sawno]

For me its more about giving, the balance is easy for me since being giving is one of the must haves for me in a partner. If I notice she's a taker she doesn't get in a relationship with me in general and the more someone wants to take the less I give.

[normalice]

I think love is about symbiosis. The things needed by one are produced naturally in abundance by the other, and vice versa, so that no on has to think about what they need. Because thinking of needs is errosive to the thoughts that need to accumulate for love to happen.

[normalice]

Oh, I suppose it is worth mentioning that sometimes what a person needs isn't a a tangible thing, but rather they need to moderate their own ambitions. Love would be showing them that the new lower expectations they set for themselves are still admirable and attractive.

[Caroline91]

This is expressed. beautifully and I totally agree. If you are constantly having to look after your own needs because they are being neglected, it is impossible to be as giving as you could be. It puts you in a kind of defensive posture, which is the antithesis of loving. I would much rather be giving to the other than having to look out for myself all the time.

[Caroline91]

@normalice Random question: Do you know Otavalo?

[normalice]

I do not.

[Fireguy17]

for me it is more about giving.
I will happily work hard so my wife doesn't have to.
I like the things we can do together, what I can provide for her.
Finding a balance will usually work itself out over time.

[DrPepper12]

You're never going to get this mythical balance. Each one carries the other one when necessary or it settles into a division of labor that both are generally content with even if it's slightly unbalanced.

[ProbablyClueless]

The best relationships seem to be about both in equal measure. I think the secret to finding balance is to reciprocate the other person's energy.

[MicahRaine]

100% giving and 100% receiving.

No relationship should be one sided. Both sides need to give 100%

[Caroline91]

@MicahRaine Do you realize how few people understand that? The talk is usually about 50=50, which means you need two people to make 100% when it should be 200%. And that it is BOTH giving and receiving on both sides. If you understand that at 20, you are an amazing guy!

[MicahRaine]

Haha yeah, it's unfortunate that ao many people are taught that a relationship should be treated like a mediocre business contract.

Thank you :)

[DryGermanGuy]

Whatever it is, I am sure it's unrelated to posting stolen internet pictures.

[BarryLiverstone]

Love is an action word. It’s about giving and receiving. It’s a daily call to action and deciding to show up for that person everyday. But also allowing them to show up for you

[BarryLiverstone]

A relationship will never be a 50/50 balance. However through open/honest communication, setting health boundaries, and working on conflicts and forgiving we can make relationships work for us

[dragoblack]

Its about being best friends with romantic benefits. There is no focusing on give & take. Focusing on give & take will only make for an unstable relationship

[Likes2drive]

It’s supposed to be even but one usually does more than the other because of different personalities and upbringing

[LiamJHayden]

Love is giving. The balance comes from both giving to the other.

[katiesmuff]

It's a fine balance between the two

[RedInnocent69]

Anything you say.

[Ariesman81]

🤣🤣

[kaucky1]

69 both same time is balance

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'd say it's more about giving than receiving