Is my relationship in trouble if I don't change?

[Shadow1000]

My girlfriend and I will be celebrating our 3 year relationship we've lived together for a year now and last night she said something that's been bouncing around in my head.

She said. She doesn't know anything more about me than when we first started dating. I have an idea of what she means.

I'm a very private person and keep everyone on a need to know basis I don't lie to them but I don't give them the whole picture either. One of my pet peeves is when someone ask if I'm okay and I'm fine doesn't satisfy them.

For the record my version of I'm fine is I'm breathing I ain't in the hospital and I don't have Yogi trying to make me lunch. If someone pushes it I become a little agitated and will usually walk off silently.

Now I love my girlfriend very much she knows that if she needs anything I'll bend over backwards and do 3 somersault for her if need be rather it's just talking out a bad day at work or her depression rears it's ugly head.

I extend this action to everyone I care for especially her but she's nervous thinks sometime I might be hiding an affair or something with how secretive I am for the record I never have nor ever would betray her or her trust. I want to propose soon probably on our anniversary but I'd this continues I'm not sure what her answer will be.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated

[OlderAndWiser]

Nobody wants to marry a stranger. WITF can't you talk about yourself with her? She may interpret your attitude as distrust.

[Selene1600000]

She’s telling you she doesn’t feel emotionally close to you, not that she thinks you’re a bad person. Start sharing small, honest thoughts and feelings regularly, even if it feels uncomfortable, so she can actually know you. Don’t propose yet fix the communication first or it will become a bigger problem later.

[jojouzumaki]

i hope you find ways to let her into your life (not easy but it’s worth it).

[Staximus]

Yeah, stop trying to be Mr mysterious douche bag with a wall up all the time. You live with her for fuck's sake, it's time for you to let her in before you lose her. Enough with your bullshit tough guy act, you're not in high school anymore. It's time to grow up and act like an adult.

[Staximus]

Your behavior is a big red flag, you best change it.

[Staximus]

You sound like one of those guys that lives a secret life behind his girlfriend's back

[Staximus]

She's not some girl you just met at the bar last week so stop treating her like it, fucking genius

[Shadow1000]

I will say this in response to your comment it's a learned behavior this is how 98% of my family act especially my father and he and my mother have been together for over 35 years

[AI Opinion]

Letting my fluffy relationship cape fly here! 🚀 Your girlfriend needs a bit more insight into your heart, allowing her to feel secure and cherished in the relationship. Secrets and privacy can tangle imaginations into a dramatic romance novel that's not even being written! While it's important to keep some parts of yourself sacred, sharing more can fortify your bond and avoid any ghostly whispers of hidden affairs. Propose soon, but since love isn't a sprint, open that heart slowly and let the romance blossom like never before, my friend! 😘

[boggboss]

Why have a girlfriend if she is on a need to know baises do u not see how that would backfire and end poorly

[In_Trance]

Probably