What happens to lonely people? People who have no friends or family or spouse or lover at all? What if such a person never finds anyone?

Question

that’s me. I wonder what is my fate.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

You are the only one that can change your fate. I am sorry that you have to live in such a solitude. Nobody should have to suffer emotionally that way.

In order to have friends or a boyfriend/girlfriend, you must be proactive and find friends. They will not just pop up in your life without you being involved in the relation. Best is to join a club, take a hobby where you can meet people with similar interests.

If you are good at one specific occupation, then see if you can find a club or place where others meet that share that passion. The rest will just fall automatically into place. Sharing the same interests with a person is always a good start to get to know that person better because you have common grounds.

But you have to work on yourself first. That would include shyness and social anxiety if those are part of your problem.

You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.

But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again.

If you are dissatisfied with the way you look, then simple steps may have a positive impact on you. Try first to change your hairstyle and clothing. They may be one of the reasons why you feel insecure. Learn to smile because people are also judged on how they appear to others. If you frown all the time and never smile, you will be tagged as a person that is difficult to befriend or be with. Best of luck.

Gwendoline · Accepted Answer

Eleanor Rigby

Picks up the rice in the church

Where the wedding has been lives in a dream

Wait's at the window

Wearing the face that she keeps in

A jar by the door who is it for?

Father Mackenziе

Writing the words of a sermon

That no one will hеar no one comes near

Look at him working

Darning his socks in the night

When there's nobody there what does he care?

Eleanor Rigby died in the church and was

Buried along with her name nobody came

Father Mackenzie

Wiping the dirt from his hands as

He walks from the grave no one was saved

All the lonely people

Where do they all come from?

All the lonely people

Where do they all belong?

Lurix · Accepted Answer

Man, that’s a heavy place to be, and I get why you’re wondering. Loneliness can feel like this endless cycle, where you start questioning your worth, your future, and if things will ever change. It’s tough when you look around and see people with their families, partners, and friends, and it makes you wonder what’s missing or what went wrong for you. But it doesn’t mean that’s your fate forever. Sometimes people end up in those situations for reasons outside their control—maybe life just dealt them a bad hand, or they’ve been through trauma, or they’ve been burned by relationships before.

What happens to people like that, though? Some might withdraw further into themselves, but others find strength in it, even if it takes a long time. I think the key is not giving up on the idea that people can still come into your life. That might sound cliché, but you never know who’s out there, or what new connection might form. As long as you're alive, there’s always a possibility of finding someone or building a new circle, no matter how long it takes.

For now, I know it sucks, but try to take it one day at a time. Maybe focus on things that give you purpose, even if it’s just small stuff. Life can feel unbearably lonely, but your fate isn’t set in stone. Hang in there—you’re worth more than the isolation you're feeling right now.

Streetcone · Accepted Answer

Im one of those people. 39, no friends, never been in a relationship, and haven't gotten laid since 2015. As much as i can't stand it, that's my life. In my experiences, we get ignored, left on read, or forgotten about, because unfortunately nobody really cares to be reminded that people like that exist. Apparently they'd rather just go through st and leave us behind or pretend we never met, because its easier than dealing with someone that gets consistently tejected.

We all need love, and we all deserve to be loved. But nobody is obligated to love you, and everyone is just as entitled to their preferences as you are. Its entirely possible that everyone you meet doesn't find you appealing. Its entirely possible that you may never find someone who's willing to love you. Nobody is at fault or to blame. However if that happens to be the case, and nobody wants you. You have to accept that, regardless of what you think or how you feel about it. because although we deserve to be loved. That doesn't mean we willl be. Ssome of us don't meet anyone's standards.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I'm here to sprinkle a little hope and love your way! Being lonely now doesn’t dictate your entire destiny. Sometimes, life lovebombs us with unexpected connections when we least see it coming. It might take time, but meaningful relationships can bloom in the most surprising places. Embrace activities you enjoy and be open to new experiences. Your awesomely unique vibe will attract the right people eventually. Keep believing in the serendipity of love and friendships. You’ve got this! 😊

Rosexøxø · Answer

1/3 - wondering the same thing as you 2/3 enjoying it  3/3 planning and managing it as they go along. It’s their own unique decision.

Caroline91 · Answer

Hi. Human beings really aren't designed to live alone, without relationships with other people. Since you are wanting more contact with people but seem to be struggling with it, please get some therapy. It really can help. I wish you only the best. We all deserve a chance for happiness.

Lynx122 · Answer

I can do it but it depends on your inner state. In the past I didn't want to be close to people but now I do so now when I'm lonely it affects me more than before. I think you just have to take it slowly and think about what your issues are with socialising and then slowly try and experiment a bit and figure out how you can improve your connections with people. Also join groups or something that gives you more opportunities to be social.

DextroShade · Answer

You can find a man and will need to, but you need lower your standards and take a good hard look at yourself and what kind of man you qualify for a marriage with. You need to understand that men are not optional and as you get older your options decrease. You probably have a guy in your friend-zone who is more than suitable so quit chasing Chad Thundercock and give that guy a chance.

The alternative is misery, as single, childless women over 40 are the largest consumers of psychiatric medication. Spending your final years alone is also a horrifying prospect with no one to visit you or be with you in the hospital.

Goahead76 · Answer

This is tragic in so many ways. So I think the key thing for people who find themselves in this situation is creativity. People who have creativity or a passion for a musical instrument for example, who end up making connections and touring with their music group. The same goes for theater groups, cast and crew, the networking the friendships you make for life. There almost isn't enough time in this lifetime when friendships like this start to snowball. Plus with music or theater you're adding something we definitely need more of. So maybe it just takes a radical change on your direction in life.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Higher risk of depression, impaired immune system, higher risk of chronic diseases and increased mortality.

Lynnzee · Answer

It's hard out here and this is coming from someone whose been single a long time. If you are speaking of yourself do you have any hobbies that may connect you to people or try going to a place near your home or job. If you go often sometimes people just start speaking to you cause you are familiar. You can follow or message me.

Crimsyjo · Answer

You either fill your life with passions. Live in your head (fantastic life) or online. Be content not to deal with other people's drama! You can find a peace and calmness in having your own little bubble world.

Or you can choose to get out there and meet people. And at first it might not feel great. But eventually the fodder falls away and the people left standing are the people who are your people or accepting of you. It takes effort tho. Relationships are a two way street.

Berethor · Answer

They can find friends on GAG, or become like Jiren, do you like Dragon Ball Super? :)

ManInChains · Answer

I know multiple people who never found love. They seem far more content with their lives than those who are married or have a partner. One guy gets to go fishing with his cousin. Another guy gets to do whatever the fuck he wants. I strive to live th same life that these men do.

Brendlolita2 · Answer

That's me too. Welcome to the club (unfortunately).

I am still trying to figure this out, and how can I live with this feeling and state, for the next 60 years of my life.

I am already exhausted and want to go to sleep already, and never wake up again.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Loneliness is a choice. Only you can choose not to be lonely. And as any human, we tend to become settled in habit as we get older. So that choice to change becomes increasingly more daunting and unimaginable; the years become shorter and time accelerates with the most careless indifference.

id rather love and fail and love; then having never loved at all

You have time. Make that choice. You’ll be glad you did.

morganherrel · Answer

sorry you feel lonely :/

I'm pretty sure being truly alone is not sustainable for the human mind;

so eventually you will find companionship somehow;

maybe you start doinghobbies or activities and seek out like-minded people who share your interests;

if it's a boyfriend you want, that should be pretty easy if you're a female in the U. S;

so unless you have a super ugly face or have a really unpleasant personality, I think you'll be fine (:

homegal99 · Answer

I know a dude that got a mail order girlfriend from a foreign country and that bitch sucked up all his money and refused to leave his side. He believes its because she loves him. Briefly dated him because he kept that a secret. He kept both of us around and then i broke up because she refused to accept the fact that he was tired of her and wanted to break up. After all he was her passport here.

Gerard567890 · Answer

You've just described my situation. I feel totally isolated. I've met others, but I've never felt complete with them. I've always longed for someone to connect to and not feel empty (a friend or closer) but I have no one. It's really hard to be alone.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Loneliness... Bah! Humbug!

DrPepper12 · Answer

They find all those things  OR They learn to be ALONE but not lonely

SugarSugarplum · Answer

Social skills are skills. If it's truly important to end your loneliness, you'll take some chances and learn them. Otherwise, you're actually *choosing* to be lonely.

Curmudgeon · Answer

You are not alone in this, as trite as that may sound:

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Usually if no effort is made to change that, they become depressed and eventually kill themselves, if not become a very paranoid kind of shut-in/agoraphobe.

Billlewis · Answer

I just started following you, and I'd like to invite you to follow or message me, as well, if that's alright. Thank you very much.

Unnaturalthinking76 · Answer

These people will cling onto anyone that they can get. Right now I’m having trouble with a family friend who doesn’t respect boundaries and treats me like a personal therapist because she isn’t married

genericname85 · Answer

the same that happens to everyone eventually. death. but before that, they can do with their life whatever they please. i mean at least they don't have someone else limiting their options.

BobbieBoy666 · Answer

Lonely heart club I'm in the same boat welcome. 💔😇

exitseven · Answer

I really do not know. Some people can function very well by themselves and some become crazy cat ladies.

Radiate143 · Answer

The better question is why don't you enjoy your own company?

jojouzumaki · Answer

I guess they’re fine with where they at and in case they wanna change it they will.

gatixek710 · Answer

I don't know how people are so unable to make connections anymore.

Iron_Man · Answer

They’ll probably die of a broken heart just like I will

Blacksnake285 · Answer

Have you ever had a lover and why do you think you’re alone at the moment?

Account · Answer

You have yourself. Shouldn't that be enough?

JoeRob67 · Answer

I wonder the same thing about myself

scott04sa22 · Answer

Welcome to the club

shortster · Answer

We become more lonely

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

they live a peaceful life js like everybody else

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

YOU LITERALLY JUST DESCRIBED ME

In_Trance · Answer

Absolutely nothing

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