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How do I mourn the person he used to be?

Firstly please be kind when responding to this, I am very sensitive right now and don't need any hateful or rude comments.

How do I move on from and mourn the loss of the person my ex boyfriend use to be? When I met him he was the most kind, humble, warm, gentle, generous and compassionate human being. We were together for 3 years and we started living together within the last 6 months of our relationship, he always remained so sweet but in the last few months he became cold and a little mean. About a month before we broke up he told me that he slept with a co-worker but we decided to try work through it because we loved each other. But ultimately the guilt was too much for him so he broke up with me. We stayed in limited contact for a couple of weeks but lately he's become even more cold and nasty, more with his friends than me because we've gone no-comtact. Our friends have said he's had a total personality switch and is now very cruel, egotistical, hostile, rude, insensitive and heartless.

Now I know that I should not care what he is doing and all of that, but I (and his friends) are very worried about him because he is just so opposite of what we have known him to be.

I know I need to move on and but it just seems so difficult and different from my past relationship breakups. I feel like I'm mourning the loss of 3 people, not only the partner whom we planned a whole future together with but also my best friend and just him as a person.

And how do I let go of the hope of us finding our way back to each other, I so desperately believe that we were meant to be together like we just fit together so perfectly before his personality switch.

How do I mourn the person he used to be?
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