Are you good at settimg boundaries?

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I try and i have my moments of being assertive. But I find it hard to say no or go back on my boundaries if someone comes up to me direct?

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I am excellent at setting boundaries and in the meantime, those that know me know exactly not to mess with those boundaries I have set.

I only have issues with those that don't respect my boundaries and always try to flirt. We all know why people flirt and that is something that totally puts me off. Flirting is, by definition

"a sexual behavior involving spoken or written communication, as well as body language, by one person to another, to suggest interest in a deeper relationship with the other person".

Now, I am not into sexual relationships and those that know me know how to behave with me.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

For most people, yes. However, some people have a way of getting around me.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Accepted Answer

I've learned it the hard way. Balance requires efforts and self-awareness, always. As it is not a given, it is a motion.

The concept of is interesting on both accounts, it is interesting to detect that compliance tactic from others but ALSO from inside you, especially when it is working against you😏

LiamJHayden · Accepted Answer

I'm good at enforcing them. Not sure I am good at explaining where they are beforehand, which helps explain my high relationship failure rate.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, I aim to help you master the art of setting boundaries while keeping it spicy! Saying no is like exercising a muscle; the more you do it, the stronger it gets 💪. It's not just about saying no; it's about protecting your peace and avoiding red flags. Remember, your time and energy are precious commodities. So, embrace those boundaries and protect them like they're your favorite snack, because who wants to share that? 😉

Finchie40 · Answer

Boundaries should be set together before entering a relationship with anyone , if your partner can’t follow the same boundaries they expect you to follow for them? then they are a selfish person that only cares about themselves, which sadly ends a lot of relationships. Basically what you don’t want your partner doing to you , needs to be the same boundaries for you as well , not the other way around. Selfish people break boundaries all the time, because they do not know how to give the same way they want to receive , you are best to kick them to the curb, if that is the case. Yes I am good at setting boundaries with a girl that values me the same way I value her , if she chooses to break those boundaries we set together , I show her the door

Account · Answer

Outside of work, yes.

When it comes to work and responsibilities, it depends. If they are polite when they ask me something that is not amongst my responsibilities, I find it difficult to say.
If they are direct, I find it incredibly easy to say no.

Lately I managed to say no to something work-related and it made me feel relief.

sawno · Answer

Good at it when I need to but I have the personality type of easily going above and beyond for others because I want to. So that makes me kinda hit and miss on the boundaries part.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

For stuff like this, getting irritated/ a little mad makes it easier. It shoves down any pestering from your subconscious and puts the anxiety on a leash.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

yep... just... sometimes I'm too soft... but I learn fast :D

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Yes! I've gotten very good at setting boundaries.

ManOfHonor · Answer

I try and yes I fall back but I again try to be as certain as possible. It's very healthy to have boundaries honestly

mobiusforniner · Answer

Getting better at it in my 30s. As one of the senior executives of my organization told me, “son, sometimes a good fuck you is warranted.”

Kayleigh2005 · Answer

Yup it's morning get out 🤣 every Saturday 🍸morning

Anonymous · Answer

I also have that problem can't say no sometimes,, but if it's must.. I straight forward... re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Yes. I learned to protect myself from needy people.

MicahRaine · Answer

I suck at setting boundaries for my wellbeing (I'm changing that) but I'm pretty good at setting and respecting boundaries for the wellbeing of others

Emmytexrex · Answer

Yeah I tell people straight to there face what I like and dislike but some people see it as harsh or pride or too straightforward it's just me setting my boundaries

Pterodon · Answer

Very good at it. I’ve told my own mother to get out of my house and made her leave

Juxtapose · Answer

I can sometimes struggle with that too but I keep in mind: "Would THEY let me get away with this if I do this to them?" That helps put things into perspective

supercutebutt · Answer

In a gloryhole situation or in all situations?

DrPepper12 · Answer

I am now. Estrangement is wrenching but self preservation is the primary goal of every life form.

Unit1 · Answer

yes. There aren't really many of those and if those are violated, it simply means that person is toxic.

SunnyRS · Answer

I think I am.  Where do you think you lack while setting boundaries. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Rockey_the_bicker · Answer

Ohh yes... am good re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

YevBor · Answer

When you set your boundaries, don't forget to mention why you set it.

Penelope79 · Answer

I am took me 40 years to cut toxic people out of my life.

MoonFace2 · Answer

Yes, but I hate doing it

Anonymous · Answer

Yes but she was never good at keeping or respecting them which lead to many fights between us

BarryLiverstone · Answer

I’m getting better over time

WhitneySnow · Answer

I’m pretty good at it

jazzy34 · Answer

Yes. I just had to do that with someone.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Not if I like them, otherwise yeah.

Lynx122 · Answer

I'm too good almost :'(

elizamichale1 · Answer

No i m usually quite accommodating tbh

DerekC321 · Answer

No, I wish I were better.

Dan290290 · Answer

No, I'm working on it tho

NathanDavis · Answer

Yes.

bananathunder · Answer

yep... I like to have them set early too

CubaPirate · Answer

Yes it comes with maturity

Cheerfull009 · Answer

I have certain boundaries

Miristheiss · Answer

Yes.

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap

noohair · Answer

Yes I am.

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