How can I learn why my husband deletes everything on his phone?

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We have been married for 7 years, he has never let me down. I really trust him unconditionally. But for the last week he has been on the phone all the time. Even though I didn't want to, I got suspicious and looked unfortunately. He had cleared all his call records and internet history. How can I ask him about this situation without him knowing?

lorenzomichael · Accepted Answer

Well you could scratch that one off the list. meaning loving your man unconditionally because if you did, you would’ve never grabbed his phone in the first place. However maybe he just likes to keep his phone tidy. Like does he have a lot of apps down loaded and does he have a lot of people calling or texting him throughout the day? Or does he use his phone for work at all? He’s probably not hiding anything I’m sure if he was he would just put a password on it to keep the contents safe. I was like that on my last phone. Or you know what? Better yet just ask him.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Accepted Answer

I don't think there's a way for you to ask why he deletes everything on his phone, without him knowing you've been looking at his phone.

It's possible that he has been clearing out his phone's history lately, just to make room for more stuff, and that's why everything is deleted.

Or possibly he was doing something on his phone that he doesn't want you to know about.

When he was on the phone all the time, did he seem to be watching something on the screen, or reading texts, or what?

babet · Accepted Answer

You’re married, after all, and you can ask him directly and casually, “Why do you always delete things from your phone?” It might not be anything serious, some people just like to keep things clean. If it seems weird, trust your instincts and maybe talk more about trust and openness in your relationship.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

talk to him... there is no relationship without communication... or you will drown in your own assumptions...

CarolinaGirl5 · Accepted Answer

Because you're nosey and annoying and he looks at other women

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Helping folks with love and relationship dilemmas is my thing, and it sounds like you're in a tricky spot, my dear. 💔 To approach this without stirring up a storm, consider having a heart-to-heart. Express how you've noticed his phone habits and that it's shaken your trust a bit, but hey, keep it sweet and supportive! It's all about understanding his side while sharing your feelings. No sneaky business or Sherlock moves needed, just some good old communication! 🕵️‍♂️❤️

Finchie40 · Answer

Other than him deleting his phone history have you suspected anything else with him? Has he been acting strange or different to you? If your gut is sensing something is off , then trust your gut but don’t let him know you are on to him , because the second he knows you are onto is the second he will cover his tracks even more

AviatorTom · Answer

Why do you care what he does with his phone? Maybe he finally decided to clean up old junk.

KittyKat90210 · Answer

Hmm... this is tricky. On one hand I'd say that you love and trust him so there's no need for you to bring it up. But if your concern is going to affect your ability to trust him, then you might be able to find an indirect or discrete way to approach the topic.

One thought is to maybe comment that you want to remove things to free up storage. Things like deleting unused apps, clearing the cache, or deleting pics and old messages. Ask if he has had storage issues too, and whether he's had to clear things out to free up space. See what he says.

Another idea is to talk in confidence to someone who's close to your husband and it's someone you trust. Maybe they can help answer your concerns, or they might be able to suggest a way for you to bring it up with your husband. OR possibly they might be able to think of a way to raise the topic themself so that you don't have to.

Best case is for you to not need to do anything at all. It could be innocent, just that he doesn't feel comfortable having anyone see his activities. I truly hope that's all it is, and that you have a strong, honest, loving relationship.

Good luck. I hope everything works out. Feel free to message me any time if you'd like to talk :)

diamond · Answer

If he’s deleting everything, it’s sketchy, plain and simple. You can ask, but if he gets all defensive or gives you some lame excuse, that’s a big red flag. Feels like he’s hiding something, and honestly, you deserve better than to be left guessing.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

You might be able to access the call logs from your cellphone company. Beyond that, situations like really boil down to whether you're willing to trust the answer he gives you.

My policy about phone stuff is that is to be very honest with my partners about the fact that there are people on my contact list that you would need a background check to speak to. Any woman I'm romantically involved with needs to understand that fact.

Phoenix98 · Answer

It could mean nothing I usually delete my internet history and cache on my phone and computer every now and again because that build up of information/data slows your computer/phone down. By deleting it you free of space and everything will run smoother and faster.

civic · Answer

Why’s he wiping his phone clean all the time? Honestly, sounds shady. You could ask, but if he gets defensive or dodgy, that’s a red flag. Might be time to dig a bit deeper and figure out what’s really going on.

sawno · Answer

I do that as well and I don't have a girlfriend at the moment. Just something privacy minded geeks do so if he's always been privacy minded thats not bad. If its new behavior though that's suspicious.

ClassicDropout · Answer

I don't like people going through my stuff. If he's like me, he will be secretive by nature even if he doesn't have anything to hide. I don't want to give anyone the satisfaction of keeping tabs on me. It's just a matter of principle for me.

exitseven · Answer

You should not be snooping on his phone. If there is no reason to suspect he is doing something untoward you should just leave it alone. I delete my browser and search history on a regular basis it's just good practice

genericname85 · Answer

why is it that women always need to stirr up some drama from nothing. just be happy and continue to be happy. there's no need to make problems where there are none. if there's no problem in your relationship, stop making some.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

You don't have a husband. Just a few months ago you were telling us you had a boyfriend. You're full of shit. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Alex-Snow · Answer

He just may like keeping his phone clean so to speak. I mean I delete old texts and emails and phone calls just as a habit, not because I am cheating on anyone.

slatyb · Answer

What does he say when you ask him? It sounds like he's have an intense conversation with someone.

dragoblack · Answer

He could have just been freeing up space on his phone, because it was running slow. If you don't clear it, it does bog your phone down. Even i do it when my phone is getting slow

Anonymous · Answer

You tell him you love him, you rarely question him, but you are very concerned about his recent behaviour and want to understand it.  Is there something you should know.

Makeushiver · Answer

You could try asking him but it sounds like you may be beyond that point already

LiamJHayden · Answer

Just think how foolish you'll feel if you blow everything up only to discover he was planning a huge surprise gift or trip for you.

Unit1 · Answer

MuSt bE ChEaTiNg Sometimes it's true. Not enough details.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Get it from the carrier if Bill is in your name

Wise4myage · Answer

That is very suspicious, have you asked him why he’s on the phone so much?

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

He’s cheating check the apps and download history on his storage.

sibeluysalci · Answer

There are software for tracking, you know, try to install them

In_Trance · Answer

You should keep your mouth shut and be ashamed of yourself

Delia2005 · Answer

Let him go probably cheating deleting things means they are hiding something.

jjj101010 · Answer

It’s Christmas soon, he may have been looking for gifts for u

justabuddy · Answer

Ask him. Most of the stuffing my phone is related to work.

Kelley1 · Answer

He does it because you are snoop.

RHK36 · Answer

Clearly hiding something

Pete671 · Answer

He's planning a surprise event for you!,,,

jahaims · Answer

You obviously don't trust him lmao

kaucky1 · Answer

Talking to somebody t

noohair · Answer

Try asking him...

WatchedPot · Answer

Sounds like trust is just a word here.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

THATS SUSPICIOUS AS HELL

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