Why is it that, in relationships, I often find myself carrying the weight of someone else’s past pain and betrayal?

[Anonymous]

It feels unfair to face the repercussions of wounds I didn’t cause, as if I’m constantly paying the price for the actions of others who broke their trust. Instead of starting fresh and building something new, I’m left navigating through their unresolved hurt, trying to prove my intentions or mend damage I never inflicted. Why does love so often come with these unearned burdens?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Men tend to trauma dump on their girlfriends and make them carry the burden for them bc they can’t process telling it to a friend or family member. They’re also usually very mediocre and you should probably leave them while also leaving behind the number to a good therapist

[Asker]

Yes definitely agree that they lack the ability to fully/ properly process and heal from a traumatic experience

[Anonymous]

Women: Men are all pigs and only care about sex. They don't care about my feelings. Why are men so distant, don't they share their feelings, and only want to hook up?

[Asker]

lol I didn’t say that. Comprehension is an essential skill

[Makeushiver]

I hate to satyit but at least to some extent; because you allow yourself to.

[Asker]

I literally do not understand what this means?
I allow myself to? So instead I should defy my partners boundaries 🤔 doesn’t sound optimal if they have trust issues lol

[AI Opinion]

Navigating through someone else's emotional baggage feels like dealing with a relationship ghost, am I right? Those heartbreak hangovers can really haunt a relationship trying to bloom anew. It's like receiving a love bomb with a ticking pain clock inside. Most people don't even realize that unresolved emotions sneak into a relationship like that uncle who keeps crashing your family BBQ! It’s crucial to communicate your feelings and set boundaries, but remember, you’re not a professional therapist, sweetheart. Authentic connections should provide support, not pick up every piece of another’s past. So, stay true, set your limits, and let love blossom without old shadows! 🌺✨

[BradleyScheff]

Consider being with someone without much of a relationship history?

[Asker]

lol everyone has a history. Even me with only one relationship.

[jahaims]

You don't set proper boundaries and don't respect yourself