I don’t trust my girlfriend how do you deal with doubts like this without ruining the relationship?

[civic]

I'm constantly overthinking everything, what if he's hiding something or not being honest with me? It's tiring because I don't want to accuse him of anything but these doubts keep coming up. I feel like if I bring it up too much I'll push him away but ignoring it just stresses me out even more.

[PeachyPie93]

If the person hasn't done anything suspicious, then there should be trust in the relationship.. If you can't trust them then you need to work on yourself and also pull away from them a bit because you are probably a little obsessed. Things will feel much more calm and easier if you learn to give them the benefit of the doubt and stop caring if they do something, because if they do cheat just breakup since there is no stopping someone if they want to cheat.. if they do it isn't the end of the world.

[MemeSupreme]

honestly idkk besides obvious shit like therapy bc they'll tell you what habits of yours is like reinforcing that behavior or just the best way to cope with it

ik it's exhausting it tho and have they done anything suspicious or is it just paranoia

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I'd consider decomposing two areas here.

Your relation with yourself, that is within you and possibly with professional help if you feel like it.

Your relation with your partner, depending on how is established this communication between the two of you, if it's safe enough for you, then you can share your concerns. You don't need to share everything, nor at the precise extent, you can also approach that slowly with them.

[DrPepper12]

Has your instinct proven right before and you were hurt by someone? Total honesty, at 37 those feelings seem to me more like something that most people gave up in high school or college. Although, anxiety knows no age limit

[AI Opinion]

Hi, relationship coach here to add some spark and wisdom to your life! 😎 Trust issues can be like annoying, clingy shadows, right? The key here is to communicate openly but gently. Share your feelings without accusations. Think of it as a heart-to-heart, not a courtroom drama. Express your concerns and ask for reassurance. You might just find out there's nothing to worry about. Remember, love thrives in honesty—and a little flirtation doesn't hurt either! 💕 Stay fabulous!

[IslaTheWitch]

so... is it a girlfriend or him?

you have to find the root of your insecurities... and work on it... there is no other way... the insecurities grow with time and, in extreme conditions, can even cause some mental disorders...

[celticman]

My friend, constant doubts can mess with your head and your connection. Pause and think, did he really do something shady or is it just fear talking? Share your feelings honestly, without blaming him. Trust takes effort, but if the doubts persist, maybe it’s time to take a deeper look at what’s causing them in you.

[civic]

Absolutely true, sometimes our fears can distort the truth. Thank you for your advice, I will try to share my feelings calmly. Building trust takes effort, I guess I need to understand myself first.

[chiquita]

Bro, overthinking will destroy you and your relationship. Did he really do something or is it just your imagination? Talk to him but stay calm, don't accuse him of anything. Building trust requires effort from both parties. If the doubts don't stop, maybe it's time to figure out why you feel this way.

[civic]

You're right, sometimes what we imagine in our minds may not reflect reality.

[candycane]

If you don’t trust your girlfriend, it’s hard to ignore that feeling. Doubts can eat away at a relationship, and pretending that everything is fine will only make things worse. Eventually, it will catch up with you, whether you confront it or not. If you can’t shake the insecurity, it’s important to find out what’s causing it. Otherwise, it will continue to ruin everything, and no relationship can survive on constant suspicion.

[civic]

Thank you for your advice, I will first question my own feelings and try to resolve this situation. Trust is essential for a healthy relationship.

[Texaskid1]

While she is sleeping insert a small on tag on her. Now you know where she is at all times. Then , to find out if she is meeting with others and whom - hire a private detective to follow her around for a few weeks.

[Abbycado]

This relationship will fail unless you can ditch the insecurities and gain some trust.

[Nikki1989]

You are 37. You should have gone past the immature and insecure stage 20 years ago.

[animesenpai]

You can't be happy with someone else if you aren't happy with yourself

[Anonymous]

Break up with her, then walk away then make lots of new friends then turn them into friends of benefits 😎. A homeless guy from YouTube gets pussy every week! Enjoy!

[Kingofkings1992]

You say “girlfriend” then refer to the person as “him.” Seems very strange

[PeachyPie93]

He probably isn't from an English country since I see that mistake often with people who aren't native English speakers.

[LukeAurelin]

What made u get those thoughts?

[jahaims]

Don't date if you don't trust

[CarolinaGirl5]

Grow tf up