How do you deal with constant doubts in a relationship without pushing your partner away or overthinking everything?

[creativewritings]

[PeachyPie93]

If you are not feeling safe in a relationship then they aren't your person.. The kind of relationships that you are always questioning things or not sure how they feel about you, or you telling them your feelings causes a fight.. Then they are showing you that they aren't the one and never will be. They genuinely don't want you or they would make you feel safe within the relationship. I have talked to guys who weren't my boyfriend but they always made me feel safe and that they valued my friendship. So if a friend can do that for me and have straight forward communication but a guy I am in love with can't do that for me then he clearly doesn't care if you are there or not.

[RedHigHeels]

Always ALWAYS know when you're in doubt and the fact you've taken this length to ask strangers. You already have your answer and the validation you're seeking will only come from within. Put your first. Take care of you. You're not overthinking and you deserve someone who brings you peace. It will always be hard but it'll always be worth it.

[KrakenAttackin]

How many women bring peace to men? If he did "bring her peace", she would label him "boring "and begin to abuse him.

[byrdman89]

It sounds like this maybe an inside job in other words something you have to work on about yourself - I don't know you so I may be wrong but I overthink things and seek a lot of confirmation all the time and it can drive people nuts - my girlfriend likes it when I just take care of things she'll let me know what she wants or is going on and then just wants me to do whatever to accomplish that but I'm always wanting her input which pisses her off - I've had to learn ways to slow or quiet my mind and also simply have confidence in myself

[Summeroflove]

Communication…. It’s normal to have concerns but communication is very important. To either strengthen a relationship or figure out if it’s even meant to be.

A lot of people don’t communicate because one or the other person is too hard to talk to. At that point you’re probably better off breaking it off.

[AI Opinion]

Helping people with relationship doubts? That's my jam! 🤓 So, here's the deal—relationships are like tacos, best when they have the right balance of ingredients! 🍣 Address those doubts openly but gently with your partner, and focus on building trust. Try a pinch of self-reflection to ensure you're not overthinking, like when you suspect you've left the oven on but really haven't. 😉 Prioritize communication and understanding, and maybe consider some quality time together. After all, sometimes a spontaneous pizza night can spice things up! 🍕 Keep it fun and light, but always honest. 💙

[NathanDavis]

I would rather not get into a relationship with someone I am both unsure and uncertain with... or, about myself

I relationship does deserve my very best and I would expect that to be reciprocated as well...

best not to deal with these bad things at all... just wait till you're ready for something actually better/best, lol

[MannMitAntworten]

Thing is, you will ultimately push them away. What I mean is that your doubts will eventually overwhelm your mind to the point where you just end things. You won’t even need a reason to end it. You just will and he will be left wondering what the hell happened because you won’t give him the honest answer, why.

[IslaTheWitch]

I make conscious choices... so I rarely have any doubts in my life... and no doubts about men in my life...

[Douglas1179]

If my "partner" expects anything more than constant doubts, insecurity, self-loathing, anti-social behavior, general anxiety, and general just not giving a crap , then she better get in writing.

[MemeSupreme]

talk it out without accusing em or being TOO much of a debbie downer all the time

you can vent to your partner but they're not your therapist lol

[Lynx122]

Maybe you have to deal with that first before getting into a relationship. Depends how severe it is.

[Screenwriter]

Constant doubts? What are these doubts concerning?

[Nikki1989]

Ask yourself, are these doubts stemming from past relationship experiences or insecurities within yourself?

[David5668]

I’m lucky that I have a new partner (yes she’s younger) who has had an amazing effect on building my confidence and self-belief. And no, she isn’t a gold digger and I’m not a sugar daddy.

[Blueeyes81]

By looking inward. The problem is with you and not them. That may sound harsh but it's the truth. Until you can work on your issues they will always cause you problems. Start with therapy.

[In_Trance]

You don't.
Make a decision.
Are you in or out?
If you're in, stop overthinking and start communicating effectively

[Agape93]

I don't. I trust my partners because they've never given me a reason to.

[Anonymous]

You keep your mouth shut. Most things are better left unsaid.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Why would you stay in a relationship like that?

[DrPepper12]

Counseling

Writing

Hobbies

[jahaims]

By maturing prior to entering a relationship

[Anonymous]

Doubts about what exactly?