My guy friend has been dating his girlfriend for nearly 2 years. I, like all my friends, thought they were super happy together because there was no indication otherwise, but he told me that she recently told him that she had doubts about continuing on in the relationship. He said when he asked her why, she couldn't really pinpoint one thing which, I mean, even hearing him tell it, I was like, what do you even do with that? How would you handle it if your long term partner said they had doubts?
Honestly, I think that's most likely code for there's someone else in the picture. She's most likely looking for an out so she can pursue a relationship with another guy, if she hasn't already started something. I would suggest he outright ask her if she wants out. Even if asked directly if there is someone else, she is unlikely to admit it. If she continues to not give a reason, let her go and move on, even if it is hard to do. It's so not fair to tell someone you have doubts about them and then not tell them why. How crazy making is that?
Sounds like it's already over. He's made the shift. The truth is probably something he doesn't want to admit it might be from guilt or it might hurt her. You won't know unless he shares it. But I'd say they are done.
Pretty much everything @Caroline91 was what I was going to say, yeah. Seems pretty weird that they've been together for quite a while and now she's talking about having doubts about him, and can't pinpoint what those are. Yeah, it pretty much sounds like she got interested in someone else or has already been seeing that person. That's a grimy thing to do, and then come with a cop out that she's "having doubts" about him now.
Frankly I'd be insulted. But hopefully have the presence to tell her to make up her mind and decide carefully her next move because i'd rather know now than later if I'm wasting my time. There no power in building with bad materials.
She isn't wrong to question a two year old relationship but she needs to read carefully because he gets to do the same.
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Many people will go through this for years and even double down and get married knowing they ain’t the one. Sounds like she needs encouragement to break it off.
Regarding this I like what my boyfriend told me once.
He told me that "always keep the doubt but give me opportunities to prove them all wrong to you".
So having doubts are ok. That should be. But it's the signal that about which things we should be getting concerned. And after that it should be discussed and should be made efforts to get the solution.
It just means they're not ready to commit. For whatever reason of theirs, they're finding it difficult to see you in their future. If that's the case, it's time to part ways. There's better out there for both of you.
Been there and done it, when I’m in a relationship, I will usually get to a point where I don’t want to commit and just break it up, often it’s like this, nothing specific but just that it needs to end.
She probably couldn’t pinpoint anything bc it was a lot of small things just piling onto each other. A joke that she fake laughed at but didn’t like, some comment about another person that made her question how his mind works, etc.
2 years is usually the perfect point when you realize they ain't "the one" and you don't want to spend your whole life with them. She should just break up no need to waste time lol.
If they had doubts but couldn’t explain why I’d likely end the relationship. There is just too much wrong with a situation like that.
She couldn't pinpoint? Bullshit. She is wants to be a whore and doesn't want to admit it. She'll likely ask for a break or an open relationship next.
Time to move on.
or continue… married… then divorce.
or make changes to work things out.
I would give my partner space as much as they needed, then they'd either realize they don't have doubts or find someone else. Either way works out for me
If she said she was having doubts but couldn't articulate a single tangible reason why I would assume she's cheating and tell her she can leave.
I'd break up with them. Just don't want to put up with that kind of thing.
m it happens n they could prove the doubts wrong together
Sounds like the typical idiotic female response to being "bored" Best he leave now and not look back. she's not worthy of him.
I would ask why she had been with me for so long if she had doubts.
I probably wouldn't handle that well to be honest.
To have them elaborate.
I scream at her like a real man
