Why do people make others think being a single old cat lady is the worst case scenario?

[chocolatetwopointo]

wouldn't being in a loveless marriage or having kids who hate you being worse?

[ohsheeT]

Lol well first of all let's get it straight if people are thinking that way because the way you ask the question and you're talking about yourself you have to understand something

While being on here and participating in the questions and answers that you do there have been many people that have got to known you through your questions through your answers and just who you are in life


And when you say that you want to be a cat lady
Everybody that has gotten to know you and think of you as this little city of g a g

And then they look at your age

And they know because things that have happened in their life that they thought about when they were younger

They either laugh about it or they give you a hard time about it because they do care but they know that you're still young and that when they were young when I was young just because we thought something in that moment in time we kind of grow out of it because life changes each and every day one way little ways small ways

So at the moment when you ask your questions and like I said everybody's gotten to know you and in their own way there's something they like about you because they keep coming to answer your questions you're part of this like I said little city

And when people answer your questions and they keep coming back and keep coming back and they feel like they've gotten to know you they're going to tease you protect you love you be mean to you make you think they're going to be everything to you because in their own way they do care


Sometimes they don't say it right sometimes you don't take it right but they don't mean any harm from it and like I said there's they're not just answering the question they're also saying something to you with their words besides it sounding negative or powerful or good or bad so you have to look at it all then you have to look at the person that is answering it and then all the other answers they have given you to read them who they are people don't come out and just say hey I like you you dumb little 16 year old cat woman what the hell are you talking about no LOL.

When they read your questions they bring themselves into your life and you might not do that with them so you look at everything a little bit different which is cool cuz that's who you are but I wouldn't take anything serious about what people say not unless it mean something to you you taking the good you push out the bad that's just like life there are no instructions there are no rules when it comes to answering anybody's questions or answering back do you want to hope that everybody's kind

But sometimes you have to just read in between the lines and just accept some things or not I mean it's okay to be who you are that's the best part about you

[chocolatetwopointo]

nope its not ab me, its ab society in general. bro idc what they say or do, i wouldn't wanna be loved by somebody on here. nobody on this app wants to know me, trust me.

[Summeroflove]

You know you’re right about that I think that getting married is a very big and personal decision to make. It’s better to be single then with someone you’re miserable with to that I agree.

I do think a lot of people who say that are people in these relationships and are jealous. So they have to make someone else feel bad about themselves.

I will say though the miserable single people most of the time are the ones who desperately want someone. But they have unrealistic standards for someone else they refuse to ever hold themselves to. They want someone who will overlook their every imperfection while expecting them to be perfect. One sided people. Yeah…. Those are the miserable single people.

But people who just haven’t found someone or just really aren’t interested in anyone. That’s another story

[MoonFace2]

I completely agree with you. I’m currently a dog lady; and these days, you can use dating sites for hook ups if you miss sex, or just catch up with guy friends if you want to be around men. I decided that I don’t want kids and I won’t marry unless I fall in love again (a rare thing for me).

[CuriousMoonFox]

Thanks for clarifying what you do when you miss sex 😉

[chocolatetwopointo]

@CuriousMoonFox isn't that what most do?

[CuriousMoonFox]

I don't know. I just came across many statements like "I stay away from men." "I'd never date again." "Being single is the best thing ever.". I remember you posting similar things on here. Which always makes me wonder what those people do about sexual desire. I have once read an article written by presumably a feminist who declared that she really didn't need men because she had a vibrator. But apparently dating app hook up is an exception to staying away from men. I wonder what those dates look like though...

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah well everyone has their ways, some dont do anything they dont have that desire at all

[itsannalee]

Loveless marriage is not always bad, if they life well. Some people got married just because of love and ended tragically. But having kids who hate you is just proving that not all people deserve kids, because kids hate the parents for a reason.

[chocolatetwopointo]

so you’d rather want that than be an old single cat lady?

[AI Opinion]

As your go-to relationship confidant, I'm here to say, the whole "cat lady" cliché got boring faster than a bad rom-com! 🙃 But honestly, it’s all about living your best life, whether that's cuddling up with cats or finding your soul mate. You're spot on—being in a loveless marriage or dealing with family drama isn’t exactly a joyride. It's time to celebrate choices, freedom, and self-love over outdated stereotypes. Stay fabulous! 😻

[lil_will_12]

Tbh, loveless marriage would be partly your fault, bc you have the ability to try to find a partner who is a good person and loves you. This also ties in with children who hate you lol. If you raise them well, they shouldn't do that.

However, my views on being single forever (i like cats too lol, but I don't know if i would want too many of them) are positive. I think that your life is your life, and you shouldn't have to marry or have kids just bc it is considered an important thing to do. You also can focus on yourself and what you want to do, rather than devote your life to your children

[chocolatetwopointo]

i won't have that, dont blame me lmao.

[HighValue]

There are currently over 33 million more women than men in the USA, so without even considering undesirable qualities, tens of millions of women will never get to have a long term life partner. More and more women are also forever single because of their bad life decisions and they frequently make videos on social media like tiktok and Instagram crying about it.

Regardless of what people want to believe, many millions of women are going to have miserable sad lives and never be emotionally fulfilled.

Men, don't feel sorry for them, just make yourself as good quality as you can and find someone in a different country because the majority of American women are terrible people and should be avoided when possible.

[RingOfFire]

I think people have a natural aversion to anything that fails to lead to survival of the human species. And nothing is more important to survival than reproduction. So anything that prevents people from contributing to reproduction of the human herd is naturally repulsive to most people. I think that explains why so many people have disdain for women who choose to be catladies or people who are homosexual. It's a natural survival instinct and since these people don't contribute to that survival they are seen as unwelcome members of the herd.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

The patriarchy wants women to believe that being without a man is the worst possible future bc they don’t want to admit men need women more than women need men.

[hahahmm]

It is worse if you wanted a good husband/kids. If you just wanted to be a zookeeper then it's all good. A lot of women spend their entire life claiming that they don't care what a man wants and saying that a man's opinion doesn't matter. Then as she gets older she starts complaining that it's hard to find a good man or similar. People laugh at her choices and delusion.

[EzraIsShy76028]

There's not really any (good) reason for it. It's just sort of a cliche thing people love to repeat.

I think the implication is that the person is lonely and no one loves them. Though I think that is bullshit.

Similarly to how a man being a virgin beyond a certain age is seen as the worst thing he could be.

In that case a man is worthless but once he has sex exactly once then it's like an on and off light switch where he magically gains a lot of worth?

[MisfitsLover92]

I think being with husband beating on you or being homeless would be much worse.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah but some would rather have that than be a lonely cat lady smh

[MisfitsLover92]

I know i disagree though, i was in an abusive relationship and would much rather have the cats! If other people enjoy getting beat on its their perogative.

[Anonymous]

In the grand scheme the cat homies are most likely happiest

[chocolatetwopointo]

true, so why is it seen as the worst case scenario?

[Opinion Owner]

Probably a form of manipulation. "You'd rather be alone than with me."

[Anonymous]

Because deep down in society within the males, females are nothing but wives and mothers, without we are nothing and the worst part for males is the fact that they ain't needed anymore. Triggers them that females can do without them now.

[lightbulb27]

it means you failed in the domain of human relationships and reproduction.

there are worse fates. cats aren't so difficult.

often cat ladies are a bit... shall we say... quirky?

[chocolatetwopointo]

why would it mean failed? not everyone wants it. how r they quirky?

[lightbulb27]

ones I know tried and failed, didn't return. I understand that but means they are stuck in place emotionally. often want to go back decades later, but kinda late.
if not what want ok. question is, why don't want? is it avoidance.
people aren't made to be alone.

[chocolatetwopointo]

well u dont know every single one now do you?💀 its js how they’re made, some aren't parent material or partner material or they js simply dont want to, there's millions of reasons

[lightbulb27]

true, but why is that?
here's the issue... humans start as babies and are trained. if that training goes wrong, they may have false ideas about themselves, limitations which are imbedded in their psyche. call this trauma for another term. the human gets stuck in that mindset once developed and it holds them there... until they do the hard work of overcoming the trauma and seeing themselves differently.
it's never "too" late, but may be too late for making kids.

but yes not everyone is same. thats why I say... evaluate the "why". there you will find emotions attached to memories of things that happened that were interpreted. often, those are no longer valuable, were flawed to begin with.

I know because that is some of my story and I had to learn.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok not my problem. but dont shame people who dont want kids or want that lifestyle as u want. ok good for u.

[lightbulb27]

fine, I'm just answering your question. do you want me to change my answer to avoid making you upset?
the question is what is the root emotions making the decision, ask yourself that. if it's "Im not good enough" or "fear", then this has nothign to do with cats.
If you have some calling to be a nun, cat savior, ok.

[chocolatetwopointo]

nope say wtv u want. I've js never wanted kids or a man. thats all. nothing behind it.

[lightbulb27]

ok, that's fine. I was single w many cats, np. life changes, you will live more than one life. you be you.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok, same for you

[Loki97]

If your kids hate you, then you were simply a terrible parent. If you would rather have cats over kids you know in your would you’re a bad parent and that’s fine but no one has to feel the same as you.

[chocolatetwopointo]

or they js dont want kids? many can be good with kids and still dont want them

[Loki97]

I mean if the times not right sure. But you only really have a 12 year (if you count 30. As a desirable age) disability window before your options are cut in half. So I can only guess you mean the feminist who don’t need a man.🙄

[chocolatetwopointo]

i dont want kids and i dont like kids, im not talking ab me, im talking ab women who are like this. and my mom is 45 and she can still have kids lol maybe a few more risks but she would be fine, so not really lol. i am a feminist who doesn't need a man, no use for them, if i dont need one i dont want one.

[Loki97]

I never said you can’t have kids I said your “desirability” window for kids and most women who had bad relationships with their father or who grew up with a weak father are feminists. And the idea that you don’t need men or a man is inherently incorrect. But that’s off subject.

[chocolatetwopointo]

why would my desirability go away after 30? and how r women who have had bad relationships with their father feminists? how is it a bad thing to want equality nowadays? u missunderstood me. i personally, dont need a man, but as a society we need both men and women.

[Loki97]

Don’t take it offensive, I didn’t have that clarification so I was correcting you. There is nothing wrong with wanting equality however feminism as a whole is full of cognitive dissonance. And it doesn’t go away at 30 it drops at 30 for most women, not all but a large majority. Biology explains a majority of what makes men and women different and why our bodies react the way they do. why older men desire younger women in there 20’s

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay, but feminism is only ab equality and if somebody is saying otherwise they aren't feminists. and id love to hear more ab how it drops at 30 and why older men desire young girls.

[Loki97]

That’s what I mean by cognitive dissonance. If it was about equality wouldn’t it be called equalism or something with no masculine or feminine ties? Feminism is a way for women to have sex with more men or to be men.
And looks will always be more desirable when looking for a partner. Next is body count. Lower body count women are just more desirable and single moms are extra limited on options, They are all common desires of men because Darwin’s survival of the fittest or maybe it’s Biology that states that we as humans , thanks to evolution, seek out desirable traits in a partner. At 25 your body stops growing and developing and begins decaying. A man’s desire for kids is a natural biological feature meant to keep the species alive. Women have it too it’s called baby fever. Younger women are more desirable because of looks, health and other desirable feminine characteristics.

[chocolatetwopointo]

well no, bc if we get equal, we need to give women more rights. when feminism started women had little to no rights, thats where the name came from. rn in afghanistan only women are being killed for showing skin and stupid stuff like that, not men. how is feminism a way for women to have sex or be men? then how come more men want younger girls but older women usually dont? thats js fkn sad and pedophilic tbh.

[chocolatetwopointo]

then how come not all men act on those instincs and feelings?

[Screenwriter]

Ack, it's just a sexist slur. There are childless old dog and cat men too. But a man said it, and he's not going to make fun of old cat/dog men, is he? Consider the source.

[DtMe89]

Republicucks and racists, are afraid that the white race is going to become the minority. They don't care how you treat your kids or your spouse, as long as you're white, and having white kids

[Babygirl_S]

I agree! Even worse if those monsters abuse you. Imagine giving them all the love and receiving abuse

[LiamJHayden]

I think it is more like this: Many people think that their ideal should be everyone else's as well.

[Anonymous]

It's a thing angry men say, because they assume the worst thing that can happen to a woman is to not be with a man. They're the type of men who use terms like "femcel" because they can't understand why women don't want to be with them. It's very sad.

[McLlovin]

Oh boy… are you slowly becoming a cat lady? Thats cat lady like thinking.

[chocolatetwopointo]

and?

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Exactly. People should mind their own business.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I know right they hate us single people. I am a single virgin male, and people make fun of me for it. It's like were not bothering them, but they want to pick on us for no reason.

[Anonymous]

Old Cate lady.

[chocolatetwopointo]

cat*

[KrakenAttackin]

Being in a loveless marriage or having kids who hate you is, at least in part, within your control.

[chocolatetwopointo]

u can't really control ur feelings tho? or the actions of others

[KrakenAttackin]

"You can't really control your feelings"... this is so female and is EXACTLY why men are keeping women at a distance. Women just wake up one day and decide they don't love their husband and believe they can do better. So women destroy their families and husbands based on "feelings".

[Miristheiss]

Worst case scenarios?

Ok, your cats eat you alive.

[Flower7]

A bad marriage would definitely be worse.

[chocolatetwopointo]

i agree, but not according to these people

[Flower7]

Let them experience that if they want to, I guess. Very dumb of them though.

[Anonymous]

Because loneliness sucks.

But why do you think the only alternative to being a cat lady is being in a loveless marriage with kids who hate you?

[chocolatetwopointo]

i love being lonely. bc thats what it would be for me personally. and i meant it as a ”would u rather” type of comparement.

[Opinion Owner]

People who say they prefer being lonely are just rationalizing in their minds to convince themselves they'll be okay with never being able to attract a good mate.

And "comparement" is not a word.

[chocolatetwopointo]

or they js like being lonely? i literally can't stand anyone longer than an hour. ok, grammarly. not everybodys first language is English. and ik that, i js didn't have another word for it.

[Opinion Owner]

The word you were looking for is comparison. And no, no one likes being lonely. They can try to make themselves feel better about it, but they'll never like it. Being an incel or femcel like you is a horrible existence.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok, i do, and loads of others lmao. how am i a femcel for liking being alone?💀

[Opinion Owner]

You are a femcel for countless reasons.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok explain then.

[beefcakebradybatson]

"Cate lady?" Cate Blanchett? Kate Hudson? Katy Perry, who has big spuds?

[chocolatetwopointo]

cat lady idiot

[beefcakebradybatson]

Then use "spellcheck,"genius.

[chocolatetwopointo]

tf is that?

[Anonymous]

because they're femcels who are obsessed with incels

[Filthy_Immigrant]

because that's female equivalent of being an incel

[msc545]

Much worse. May cat Allister vigorously objects to the "single old cat lady" trope.

[katiesmuff]

You certainly are a messed up child girl!

[chocolatetwopointo]

how?

[WhitneySnow]

Those both sound pretty bad

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok to you

[Gwendoline]

For me it would mean I failed in life.

[Staximus]

Those 2 things would be worse

[Anonymous]

Cos it's sad.

[chocolatetwopointo]

how?

[Opinion Owner]

An old cat lady living with just her cats. Instead of a happy warm cozy home with her husband and her kids coming over with their grandchildren.

[chocolatetwopointo]

and how do yk she's sad? how do yk she didn't want that? not everyone wants kids yk

[Opinion Owner]

She wants to be lonely with her cats?

[chocolatetwopointo]

yes? not everyone wants what you want yk. i want that life too, seems peaceful.

[Opinion Owner]

Being lonely with cats sounds depressing

[chocolatetwopointo]

to you, having kids and a husband sounds depressing to me.

[chocolatetwopointo]

not everyone wants what u want

[Opinion Owner]

You sound like a crazy feminist

[chocolatetwopointo]

lmao, ok so its wrong to stand for equality now?

[Opinion Owner]

Feminists are ugly cat ladies

[chocolatetwopointo]

LMAO no way ur literally fighting against ur own rights. u sound like a woman who craves male validation and is ready to give up her whole life for one js to be his slave.

[Opinion Owner]

Don't listen to your feminist teacher. She just wants you to stay ugly and miserable like herself.

[chocolatetwopointo]

so i should be a sexist miserable housewife? LMAO yeah no ill be fine with being rich💀

[Opinion Owner]

You're not rich. 😂 And I'm not a housewife

[Opinion Owner]

You can have a job and still be pretty like myself

[chocolatetwopointo]

no, but i will be, im gna be a lawyer and actually work. then what r u?

[chocolatetwopointo]

if it werent for feminism u wouldn't have a job lmfao.

[chocolatetwopointo]

if ur sexist, ur not pretty💀

[Opinion Owner]

Lawyers aren't rich 😂

I work and I have traditional values. I don't hate men or women. You sound pressed for only 16. Please don't fall for the feminist trap of hating men.

[chocolatetwopointo]

LMAO ok google salary of a lawyer, god these sexists can't even think for themselves its sad. LMAO AHAHHAHA and who gave u the oppurtunity to have a job? huh? wdym pressed? so ur a miserable sexist who thinks she's pretty when she's actually horrible looking?