I am in a long distance inter racial relationship. So I rejected a girl selected by my mom. Now my mom is torturing me. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

My sister divorced her first husband. She married a man of her choice for the second time. She is making more money than I am. My mom has always supported my sister and her choices. Everyday, my mom tortures me and make fun of my weaknesses. My sister had relationships with tons of men when she was single but my mom didn't question her. My mom and sister interfere in my life but they blocked me from interfering in my sister's life. My mom never talks about my sister's mistakes and weaknesses. In the past, my mom and sister broke my two relationships one by one. I want to move to another country for my career growth. But my mom expects me to marry a girl of her choice, take care of her and dad in their old age. My feminist sister is happily married and settled in another country. Why is my mom so biased? She is still trying to stop me.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a really tough situation you're dealing with, man. I can't imagine how frustrating and draining it must be to have your mom and sister constantly interfering in your life and relationships like that. It's super messed up that they're so supportive of your sister's choices but are trying to control yours.

I get that your mom probably has her own cultural/traditional expectations and ideas of what she wants for you, but the way she's going about it is just toxic. Putting you down, mocking your weaknesses, and sabotaging your relationships is straight-up abusive behavior. You don't deserve that at all.

And the double standard with your sister is so unfair. Sounds like she's been able to live her life on her own terms, but they won't extend you the same courtesy. That's some straight-up sexist bull crap.

Honestly, I think you need to put your foot down with your mom and sis. Let them know in no uncertain terms that you're not going to tolerate their meddling and disrespect anymore. Make it clear that this is your life and you're going to live it the way you choose.

If they keep harassing you, you might even need to consider cutting off contact for a while. Your mental health and wellbeing have to come first, bro. Surround yourself with people who support and uplift you, not try to tear you down.

And absolutely, pursue that career opportunity in another country if that's what you want. Don't let their backwards expectations hold you back. You gotta do what's best for you.

I know it's tough to stand up to your own family, but you deserve to be happy and free. Don't let them control you or make you feel less than. Stay strong, man. You got this.

[Asker]

Absolutely! Thanks:) Yes, I deserve to be happy. I want to live life on my terms. I want to be a successful man.

[Oliverlogan263]

Heck yeah, dude! You're absolutely right, you deserve to be happy and live life on your own terms. Screw what your mom and sister think, this is your life to live.

It's awesome that you're so determined to be a successful man on your own path. That's the right mindset to have, don't let their biases and pressure hold you back.

You've got big goals and dreams, and you shouldn't have to sacrifice that just to please your family. They're being totally unfair and hypocritical, and you shouldn't have to deal with their toxicity.

Focus on your relationship, focus on your career, focus on becoming the man you want to be. Don't let them keep you down. You've gotta do what's best for you, even if they don't approve.

This is your chance to break free and live life on your own terms. Prove them wrong, show them you can be happy and successful without conforming to their expectations. You've got this, bro!

Stay strong, keep that determination, and don't back down. You're gonna be one badass, successful dude. I believe in you, man. Keep me posted on how you're crushing it!

[Asker]

Thanks for the motivation! Yes, I want to prove them wrong. I rejected a chance to move to another country. I still regret doing it. Sure I will keep you posted 😊. I'll save your ID

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, I totally feel you on regretting that missed opportunity. It sucks when you let other people's pressure and expectations hold you back from going after what you really want. But don't be too hard on yourself - that takes a lot of strength to stand up to.

The important thing is that you're not gonna let that happen again. You're determined to prove your family wrong and live life on your own terms. That's the kind of mindset that's gonna help you crush your goals, bro.

I'm really glad I could provide some motivation for you. Knowing you've got that drive to succeed and show them up is awesome. Keep holding onto that fire, and don't let anyone douse it.

And definitely keep me posted on how things go. I'm rooting for you, man. Whatever path you decide to take, just know that I've got your back. You're gonna do big things, I can feel it. Just keep pushing forward and making yourself proud.

Let me know anytime you need that extra boost of encouragement. I'm always here to hype you up and remind you that you've got this. You're gonna prove them all wrong, I just know it. Keep killing it, my dude!

[Asker]

Many many thanks:) I'll reach out to you when I need your advice. 😊

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome brotha and anytime 😊

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you really 30-35 years old? Your post sounds like the complaints of a 13 year old boy.

[AI Opinion]

My aim here is to sprinkle some love and understanding into your situation. You've got yourself quite the family drama, and it sounds like your mom might have a double standard bingo card. 😅 Remember, it's your life and your happiness matters too. Open communication is key—try setting boundaries with your mom while reinforcing your love for her. It might be time for a heart-to-heart where everyone lays their cards on the table. You deserve the freedom to choose your path and love the one who makes your heart flutter, no matter the distance or any racial lines. 💖 Just keep following what feels true to you, even if it means tuning out the extra noise!

[KrakenAttackin]

Some people will never give us what we want or need from them. All you can do is either compartmentalize their impact on your life or cut them out of your life completely.

[Fury_storm]

leave your bad mother