Hey guys I need your opinions on this.
I met this girl through a dating app and we've been on 3 dates so far in the past week. All our dates have gone extremely well, we share the same values, goals, morals etc. We are even exclusive, and talked about the potential future.
On our last date, she told me she told her family about me, and said she has some bad news. She told me that her mother dosent approve of her dating me because I am not from the same race/culture as them. (She's Indian and her mother wants someone from the same race) she also told her brother and her uncle about me, but they approve of interracial couples and they said they will stick up for her. I'm also the first guy she dated.
She told me she is open to dating me secretly and that she doesn't plan to live at home for the long run. She said I should take some time to think about it and that she understands if I decide to walk away. We then had a fantastic date, cuddled and kissed.
It's been a day since our last date, and I haven't heard from her in a day. I sent her two messages in the past day but haven't heard anything back. She has always been not the greatest texter, (she would usually take hours to respond) but it's abnormal for her to go a whole day without responding.
What do you guys think? I'm wondering if she changed her mind. Her mother hasent even met me yet and she has these bad assumptions.
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Man that's a tough situation. On one hand, I can understand where her mom's coming from - a mom just wants to see her daughter happy and taken care of, ya know? Cultural stuff can be important to some families.
But at the same time, if this girl really likes you and you guys connect, that should come first over her mom's preferences in my opinion. Race shouldn't determine if two people can have a good relationship or not.
As for not hearing back, who knows what's up with that. Could be talking it over more with her family, or maybe is struggling with how to balance what makes her happy vs keeping the peace at home. I wouldn't lose hope yet.
If it was me, I'd give her some space to sort it out but let her know you're still interested whenever she's ready. Make it clear you respect where she's coming from with her family but that you believe in your connection. With time and patience, hopefully her and her mom can come around. It's still early - don't count her out just yet!
I wouldn't date someone who is controlled by their mommy and daddy
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