My boyfriend and I value family so much and we are going through some difficult times because my parents don't approve of me dating him. I came to the U.S. with my family when I was in 5th grade from Korea so my parents expected me to date and marry only Koreans. However growing up and living in California (esp. where I grew up as a teen) I'm surrounded by mostly Caucasian people and so I've found Caucasian males more attractive than Koreans. I recently told my parents that they should be happy for me and for the decisions that I make. I'm 24, I have a full time job...i can support myself. Eventually we've come to an understanding that I'm not going to back down nor are they backing down.
Now my boyfriend is upset because my parents won't even give him a chance and there's nothing he can do because the reasons why my parents don't like him is out of his control. he can't all of a sudden become Korean and not be Caucasian. He's afraid that I'm going to either leave him later on because I can no longer fight with my parents and give up or he's gonna have to deal with being hated and disrespected. He doesn't want to be the cause of the problem and have to break apart the family. What I want him to understand is that I'm not doing this for him. The difference between my parents and I are too big and I'm just fighting for my happiness.
What the F* do I do now?
My parents are unhappy. They are angry at me for not listening to them. Not obeying them.
My boyfriend is upset that my parents are racist and worried at the same time.
I can't turn to my parents because they are upset at me. What do I do?
Now my boyfriend is upset because my parents won't even give him a chance and there's nothing he can do because the reasons why my parents don't like him is out of his control. he can't all of a sudden become Korean and not be Caucasian. He's afraid that I'm going to either leave him later on because I can no longer fight with my parents and give up or he's gonna have to deal with being hated and disrespected. He doesn't want to be the cause of the problem and have to break apart the family. What I want him to understand is that I'm not doing this for him. The difference between my parents and I are too big and I'm just fighting for my happiness.
What the F* do I do now?
My parents are unhappy. They are angry at me for not listening to them. Not obeying them.
My boyfriend is upset that my parents are racist and worried at the same time.
I can't turn to my parents because they are upset at me. What do I do?
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