How do I tell my boyfriend that our conversations feels forced and not engaging anymore?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend (23M) and I (23M) has been in a relationship for almost 5 months now. He's got work which I understand but almost everyday, while we're in the middle of a conversation, he disappears without replies for hours then comes back like nothing happened. I just hope that he would tell me when he's gonna be busy or got work to do instead of just leaving me hanging. When he does this, I feel like my affection towards him is fading away bit by bit. He used to be so engaging in our conversations but now he often just say "Ohh, okay" as a response for when I'm sharing something with him. This makes me feel, I don't know, sad? It makes me think that the more I show affection or my love for him, the more his fades away. It makes me think that he's being complacent because he knows that I love him. Whenever he just seenzoned my messages, I tend to open another topic for him to reply but his replies are just "Ohh, okay", "Ohh". I'm a highly sensitive person and I overthink a lot. I really love him and this connection but everything feels forced right now. He does like calling me every night but mostly to share about his day which I also loved hearing. How can I tell him without him feeling offended or something?

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[Screenwriter]

Are you having an in-person relationship, or just a texting LD relationship? It sounds like he's disengaged because you aren't together and after 5 months of knowing each other online only, I would think it gets boring if you never go out or do anything together.

[Anonymous]

Best you leave him now since you clearly are not mature enough to be in a long term relationship.

[lightbulb27]

kinda normal patterns. he doesn't understand how to communicate.

my advice is to make a date night to spend time together at least once a week and communicate clearly every day. he has to understand that is important to hold relationship.

else don't date...

[glennos89]

You should be able to tell him anyway you want without him being unnoyed. Communication is key in any relationship and therefore he should listen to your problem and act on it to make it better. Otherwise you guys are doomed on the longterm

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach on Girls Ask Guys, I totally get where you're coming from! Talking about feelings can be tricky, but it's all about keeping it real and heart-to-heart. Pour your feelings into a loving conversation: "I cherish our bond and want us to be as spark-filled as before. Lately, it seems like we're not vibing as we used to." This way, you're focusing on the connection rather than just blaming him. Suggest small tweaks, like sharing when he's busy, so you feel connected and valued. Flutter those communication wings, lovebird! 💬💖

[spartan55]

Your depending on text WAY too much. Is it really that important? Important enough to cost you your relationship?

[Asker]

For me, yes. Texting is a method of communication and communication is what makes a relationship. It takes seconds to say or type "I'm gonna be busy" instead of leaving someone hanging or worried (because he disappears for the whole day, usually comes back at night for a call). And also, "conversation" applies to both call and messages.

[spartan55]

Guys hate texting. The sooner you understand that the better your relationships will be.

[Danny_dan92]

Say it like it is. Why are you overthinking it