It's Normal For Someone To Get Upset When Someone Changes A Routine Without Letting The Other Person Know?

[Anonymous]

From My Many Years Of Research On The Matter Also 1 Year Of Solo Relationship Counseling Because My Daughter's Mother And Her Always Being Emotionless And It Being A 1 Sided Relationship.

It's Normal For Someone To Get Uncomfortable When Someone Changes A Routine Without Letting The Other Person Know?

So My Fiance And Myself Are In A Argument Right Now Because She Likes To Have The TV To Help Her Sleep And

((I Am Fully Okay With That))

I Do The Same Thing.

When She Has The TV Off...

She Can't Sleep Because It Gives Her More Anxiety That's Why She Also Takes Anxiety Meds To Help Sleep.

So I Feel She Was Setting Herself To Fail Her Nights Sleep And Ruin Her Morning. She Also Skipped Her Anxiety Sleeping Meds.

So Knowing I Am The Kind Of Man Who Will Always Try My Best To Make Sure She Sleeps Well And Making Sure She Has All Her Stuff Ready And Me Making Her Lunch. By Mentioning This I Am In The Wrong For It.

I Knew It Would Ruin The Night And Her Whole Day With Lack Of Sleep She Was Causing Herself. She Works In The Hospital As Patient Sitter So She Has To Be Very Alert.

I Understand That Me Getting Upset Was Most Likely Not The Best Option But Like I Stated Before It's Technically Human Nature To Feel Uncomfortable With Sudden Change Of Routine And Seeing That My Finance Was Setting Herself For A Bad Day Got Me As Well Also. It Was Causing An Issue So I Left The Room And Said I Would Be Back In 30Min
(((Which I Did Return)))

I Highly Dislike Pointing Fingers Or Saying Who Is Wrong And Whatnot It Always Causes More Issues So I Look At An Issue And I Change The Way It's Done To Prevent The Issue From Happening Again. She Always Takes This As If I'm Pointing Fingers Because I Am Saying How To Prevent Something From Happening To Start With. She Had A Lot Of Trauma Regarding Always Being In The Wrong Growing Up So She Always Thinks I'm Targeting Her When I'm Just Trying To Prevent An Issue Before It Arises Over And Over.

What Should I Do?

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the joys of routine changes and relationship dynamics, right? 🌟 It's perfectly normal to feel uneasy when a routine gets disrupted—honestly, who likes surprises at bedtime? Your intentions come from a place of love, but it's key to approach the situation with empathy. Instead of focusing on the issue, try expressing concern with a sprinkle of compassion. Let her know you understand her needs while reassuring her you're on her side. Open and gentle communication can turn late-night TV debates into opportunities for closeness! Remember, it's about the love, not the volume control! 📺❤️

[StarWarGirl]

Yes it is very much normal to feel so and get upset on this issue. As it's human nature to find comfort in most predictable surroundings. And whenever that get disturbed we get uncomfortable.

For the person who has anxiety problem, it is advised to have a consistent daily routine, whatever it is. So even for her it is better to have consistency in her habits and routines.

She should not skip her medicine like that, and additionally she should take therapy. She needs to work a lot over her mental health and well being but it can only be possible only if she would be able to realise it and she herself would be willing to do it for herself.

It must be very stressful for you to be in this situation. And I appreciate that you care a lot about her. And you want her to be okay. My good wishes are with you. You have to have to stay strong. It is most difficult task what you are trying to do. I appreciate you.