If people are bound to constantly change throughout their lives, isn't love volatile?

[HawkPerception]

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Yes

No

A total of 18 votes were cast: 9 girls and 9 guys. See detailed results

[Altheavas]

In certain aspect yes, but does a person truly change. They might change goals and hobbies, but a person values, beliefs, never actually change. I don’t think their drives ever actually change.
I think we should choose people who have similar drives and values so you grow align. Maybe not simply choose partner base on surface level attraction, but with a compatibility that is foundational to the person core of self. Communication style, shared responsibilities, adaptability and growth, mutual respect and growth, trust, security and adaptability. Observe Communication style in all situation with strangers, families, friends etc. with coworkers that can be a facade. How the resolve conflict. Etc.
Compatibility and adaptability can be tricky it’s not only by professional and intellectual intelligence they are just ones of the factors.

[Crimsyjo]

Good answer. Tho I must say some of my core values/beliefs have changed over the years. Getting older gives you experiences and a more open mind to allow for things that you maybe didn't have the perspective for when younger.
I've learned to not see things so black and white in rules recently. Maybe in part due to my degree I am currently doing on philosophy bit definitely a lot from being on here and socialising with people.

Again.. you are right a relationship that lasts needs a strong alignment with all the things you list and an openess to adapt together too.

[Crimsyjo]

People change but it's slow as people don't like to change much. But some do more than others and it's good if you have a partner who you can grow and change with. A good relationship is two people wanting the best in each other and supporting change to better themselves. Problems occur when one is stuck and the other not.

[ohsheeT]

No we learn from it. And some don't. For them it has to be a night mare of a life Because they don't trust they can't love. All they do is have drama because they're afraid of? And that's a sad life to have

We read question on here all the time about relationships. Or second chances should I do this or that. In all the above you need to do one thing

Love your self first when you love yourself first no matter what happens in you relationship you are strong enough to say see ya ... your not goingbto treat me like this and you walk.. when you don't love yourself first. And you love the one that hurt you. Your never going to trust. And by staying in it you just told them it's OK to hurt you.. and least walk away.. and if they want you and they are sorry let them prove it to you

If things aren't working, you need to acknowledge it.
Accept it and know you gave 100 % that's all you can do and walk away knowing it's for the best learn from it and move on. People say they have trust issues . Why you didn't do anything. That's on the person who broke the trust if it happens again same thing it on them but that's when you need to put it together and ask what is making this happen And you need to figure it out so it doesn't happen again. You don't have to cause drama with it in your life or anybody else. All that is is an excuse to hold you back or make thing not work in your next relationship

[princeofromance]

No, love is a beautiful connection shared by two people.

[PeachyPie93]

Not really.. but as Gojo says "love is the most twisted curse of all".
Most people when they are actually in love with someone it is pretty damn hard to fall out of love even if they are the worst person in the world. Though many people "think they are in love" or mistake lust or another emotion for love, and those are the ones who "fall out of love" it's because they were never actually "In love" with the person in the first place.

[queenofcardio]

Healthy love is consistent. You can still change and have some things remain the same.

[alice55]

A lot of married couple when old don’t love each other anymore on the passion are sense but they still care greatly for the other, love does change when people grow older

[Jamie05rhs]

The whole point of love is that you choose someone to be your forever partner. It's only volatile because of wicked and deceitful people who lie to their partners. That's why we need to be extremely cautious and make sure we choose the right person.

[lightbulb27]

Define love.
That is the person you choose to love and prioritize.

[LazerBean]

No, and partially because people really don't change that much throughout their lives.

[thegreenyogi]

I'd say no because one thing is the love they share is one thing and how people change another.

[ProbablyClueless]

Not necessarily. Love is definitely volatile between some people.

[Dongie]

In the words of "legs" Tina Turner, "What's love got to do with it?" Learning brings change and understanding.

[LiamJHayden]

If love is defined as a commitment, not really.

If love is defined as the "feelings" then yes.