I need space from my boyfriend but we live together has anyone been through this?

[birds]

Lately I’ve been feeling like I need some space to breathe and think, but we live together, so it’s hard to get that distance. I still love him, but constant closeness is starting to feel overwhelming.
Has anyone else gone through this while living with their partner? How did you find balance without hurting the relationship?

[Salaciousrouge]

Ohhhh, so many questions!

Kids? Previous marriages? First relationship? First live-in mate? How long together, and cohabitating? Social outlets?

Speaking for all men (sure... why not! 😁), I would say go for it and grab some of that isolationism. Separation creates longing or it awakens your need for freedom. Either way it will be a guide for you through the rest of your relationship with him and others who may follow. It may be a doorway opening new expectations down the road whereby you both honor the need for an occasional sabatical. Who knows, maybe he is feeling the same bit given your age he's too afraid to bring it up.

At your age, still being single may be the driver of this feeling, esp. If you've never been married or had a previous commitment of this level. You may be accustom to a life of selfishness (not a bad thing unless it makes you a social wrecking ball).

It could also be a lack of socialization outside of your home. If such is the case then one or both of you need more freinds. Then (both) get a hobby that takes you out of each others space but is not so selfish it invites jealousy.

If you do not find peace via a short break, say a few days, long weekend, or two weeks then at some point one of you is going to break. Most likely this will be you by the sounds of it, and Statistically speaking.

All of this is hypothesis. You haven't provided enough details so maybe thats a good sign your just needing a quicky selfish weekend.

Figure this out before you go any further. Then figure out why you have this urge to be away from him. That is the biggest issue. Is it something about him, or you? Either way, don't think its something you can fix but it may be something you can both compensate for.

[Finchie40]

You shouldn’t need space from someone you claim to be in love with , but since you aren’t married to him , then just tell him you are going away for a few days and reassure him you aren’t doing anything that will jeopardize the relationship, if your boyfriend loves you and cares about you he will understand , but if things haven’t been good between you both than taking space is not a good idea whatsoever because all it Will do is add more fire into your relationship. So before you talk to him about needing some time away , understand by you doing this , gives him a right to do this to you as well, so if he decides he wants to go away without you , do not have a hissy fit over it whatsoever

[DawnB]

I'm feeling the same way I have known him for a very long time but now I just sleep on the couch we don't even talk to eachother. We are just roommates at this point.

[MrChinaski]

It sounds as though you need a break too. To work out what you want.

[DawnB]

@bddddd yes very true

[Gwendoline]

Yes, I'm send him fishing or hunting or give him chores to do

[AI Opinion]

Navigating relationship dynamics like needing space while living together can indeed be tricky, trust me, you're not alone in this. It's about ensuring your own comfort while keeping those warm love vibes alive. 😊 Maybe creating a dedicated "me time" routine could help, like setting aside time for hobbies, exercising, or even just a solo walk. Communicate openly with your boyfriend about how you’re feeling, but reassure him that the L-word still holds strong. Cuddles wait for no space, right? Love, communication, and some personal space can work wonders! 💕

[Summeroflove]

That’s a conversation you need to have with your boyfriend. That’s what couples do is have hard conversations sometimes respectfully but it’s better to get it out respectfully then build resentment and he doesn’t even know why.

If you love and respect him you’re going to need to have the conversation and just be honest. I think it’s normal maybe you’ll both work through it or end things on best terms possible. But not talking about it will make it worse.

[OlderAndWiser]

"I need space" is an ambiguous expression that people use to avoid stating their real feelings. You need to be honest with yourself - and your boyfriend - about what you really want.

[princeofromance]

You need to just let your partner know that you need space.

[PeachyPie93]

Not usually. I love being close with my partner even after years I could always be with them everyday. Though when going through rough patches where I felt hate/anger, not heard by him then yes, I have wanted space. To get space I used to just avoid him, spend time in my room, not hangout with him, sleep in a different room or on the couch. He would sometimes check on me but he generally didn't care as long as I was pleasant to him. Then when I was feeling better I would go back to normal lol.

[molonski2]

See the problem is the term " partner " everything is so final , the way people assume things , what you want is space from him , you can't do it in the same house , and it needs to be for at very least a month.
You can't just move in the spare room that's a ludicrous suggestion.. Find somewhere to go for one month..
Sit down and have the conversation , make sure it's a minimum of one month of freedom , don't rush back " I love him and everything " = I suspect you don't , he is annoying the crp out of you.

[Miristheiss]

It depends on what you mean by "space".

I am married and when I was new to it and was aware that the alone time I was used to getting was suddenly gone. At times I did miss just having no one around and total peace and quiet to chill and do whatever I wanted.

You just have to work that stuff out. I just can go out and grab some lunch at a deli and sit and read or I can go to anther room of the house from time to time to just chill alone or go out on the deck.

It won't be as much alone time as I used to get and it won't be as often but if you talk it out and make a plane you can find ways.

If you mean you want to not see your mate for 2 weeks straight or something like that then I don't know what to tell you. Go be single. You cannot have it both ways.

[lightbulb27]

It's ok and good to take some space, balance is healthy. you probably like chocolate cake but don't want your head stuffed in it all day all week, starts to make you sick.

Space to do other thing, hang with girlfriends or do whatever is good. just make sure all that flows well. if there's challenge with "needs" and conflicts of interests, that can be issue. so pay attention.

[capriVib]

From what I understand, you're not in love with your boyfriend and are seeking new excitement. You should communicate this clearly to the other person.

[Nikki1989]

Talk about your expectations regarding alone time and together time.

What feels like a good balance for each of you?

[Anonymous]

Either you're an avoidant and aren't really sharing what's on your mind, with him, or you're starting to wonder about what you want in the relationship.
Either way, distance isn't normal. At least, it shouldn't be normalized.

[MrChinaski]

What do you need? Girls' weekend away? A month or so in a rental? Whatever you need, do it. It's not going to be cheap, but nothing worth doing in life is cheap.

[katiesmuff]

I didn't have to be living with them to get that feeling!

[Alex-Snow]

Can you do something with some girlfriends where you get out of town for a bit? Or just tell him you need some alone time. Is this messing with your sex life with him>?

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

Is he doing anything specific to annoy you, or do just literally not want him to be around you as often as he is?

Is he too clingy?

[WonderingManII]

Living with someone and being married to them is almost the same thing. Go for some long walks.

[bowenw]

Spend time doing things with friends as often as you need to not feel smothered.

[Staximus]

You moved in together, the I need space phase is over

[Staximus]

Go sleep on your parents couch for a few days but don't go out looking for strange dicks

[Iron_Man]

move to the other bedroom for a while or to the couch

[Jeff51]

Maybe visit family for the weekend and see how it feels after.

[Godihateyou]

Lol. You don't need space. You need strange dick. You are a typical woman.

[MinaV]

So tell him about it and figure it out together maybe?

[chocolatetwopointo]

this is why i won't live with a partner

[Gaylordslav]

Space means a break up. Just cut it off

[jahaims]

Unhealed trauma is why you feel trapped

[In_Trance]

Why do you need space?

[Pterodon]

Go to a motel alone for a weekend

[January_Sixth]

Keep faith in god

[DCVsMarvel2]

Why?

[Sam1133]

😂😂🤣🤣

[senol]

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