Why do some stay at home wives or girlfriends’ think chores at home is hard work?

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Whether single or not , chores at home isn’t hard work , it’s every day living , If you are a stay at home wife/ mother or girlfriend / mother , Your boyfriend or husband works a hell of a lot harder than you do period , Girls’ that say chores are hard work are talking out their ass , I would gladly switch places with her and let he Go deal with all the nonsense of going to work full time , while I stay home and clean the friggin house and take care of the kids’ , I’m not saying it’s easy , but it’s a hell of a lot easier than going to work full time having to deal with constant nonsense just to make a living. . Most stay at home wives and Girlfriends’ say they are busting their ass and complain that their life isn’t fair , when really they aren’t even really busting their asses , half their day is playing on their phone or watching soap operas eating bon bons etc.. while their husband or boyfriend is slaving away at some job. I just watched a video of a group of girls’ that actually said Men work a hell of a lot harder than stay at home wives do , and said if you come home from work and she is bitching and complaining , kick her to the curb , Do you agree or disagree? I agree lol

14gurlz2gagonit · Accepted Answer

I'm a stay-at-home house husband or as they say in the military... a male dependent.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/NUUPY3Vim-Q

I basically do whatever the fuck I want. Anyways...

Before I obtained this golden God like status of being like many of your retired Boomer parents except way fucking more awesome... I did work a real Job and served in the military and I stayed single mainly because pussy is easy af to get and I don't need someone to do shit for me.

Being paid to stay at home and do the same shit I did for myself before, just now with just a little extra effort to include a few other bodies, isn't that fucking hard to do.

I can wake up, cook up some potatoes, eggs, sausage, and make some breakfast sandwiches, get the kid off to school as well as the wife off to work, and then I clean up in like 15 to 20 minutes. I'll lay into some weightlifting for like 90 minutes and then eat the leftovers from that breakfast. If there is laundry, I toss it in the fucking washer. Basic cleaning don't take that long as well. Meanwhile I can do whatever I want. I can play video games, bang a hooker, do drugs, get on G@G and talk shit to you pussies. Toss some bullshit in the insta-pot, and bam... there is fucking dinner when they get back. Do a little cleanup after that and I'm right back to doing what I want just with some restrictions because there is a wife and kid around (the other kids aged out and is gone now). So I might watch the news on youtube, talk more shit on Twitter and call Brad Pitt a fag for trying to look like me. Drink beers, smoke weed, and eventually sleep wherever I pass out after I fuck the wife a couple of times.

I digressed big time here... fuck it, sorry, but you know... I got that big dick energy.

It just amazes me that I see these other dependents and they are provided everything I am... and they can't even keep their house clean. Who the fuck raised that woman? They just sit around, cheat like I do, but then do nothing for their own family. They order food instead of cook or can't be bothered with simple ass tasks like dishes or laundry. Some of them have stupid ass shopping addictions and they'll buy this shit and it never even gets used or even taken out of the shopping bag. So finally I'm going to give you my conclusion on these lazy getting fatter by the day bitches.

They're trash. They stayed just hot/sexy enough for long enough to trap a man, and now they don't give a fuck about anybody or anyone but themselves. They let their looks go and do nothing but complain about everything like dishes or laundry... shit that most of us that have worked and managed that shit just fine, they think is back breaking labor that makes them a slave. It is what it is, but like I said before, who raised them? Someone treated little princess like a real princess to the point that she thinks she is one. They were raised up like that, got treated like that from blue pilled beta bitch dudes that probably also subscribe to onlyfans, and they're not going to change because they're not reading self help books or any book for that matter.

The end.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

It used to be hard work. Pre WW2. Washing clothes was pretty heavy. Stirring clothes around in a copper of hot water and using a washboard the putting them through a mangle to squeeze some of the water out. Then putting sodden clothes up on a clothes line. was genuinely heavy work for a girl.

Cooking in summer was genuinely very hot when wood stoves was all there was. Cleaning carpets was very physical.

Of course it isn't now because all that has to be done is shove clothes in the washer and press a button. Then lift clothes out that have the water mostly spun out of them out of the washer into the dryer and press another button.

Kitchens are hot no more. Even skill has been taken out when you can tell the oven what it is cooking and it figures out how long etc. My oven has 5 cooking modes and it also figures out how to as well with multi function modes.

Vacuum cleaners make it easy but why wouldn't you get rid of all carpet and buy a floor robot cleaner instead? (Pro batching tip. Air blowers are good for dusting and far more fun).

But women will still trot out the line they have been slaving over a hot stove even when they haven't. Inventing low labor household appliances has been a complete bust on stopping them whinging.

Totally agree women are lazy little shits now.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Considering you haven’t done both you should keep your mouth shut. I have done both and being a stay at home mom is WAY more draining and exhausting than working full time ( I have had both office jobs and physically demanding jobs). I’d still choose to be a stay at home mom anyway because I find it more rewarding, but it’s harder than working. It’s not the tasks themselves that’s hard, it’s the never ending tasks along 24/7 year around no breaks, vacation, sick days or weekends, the never ending screaming, tantrums and catering to others needs and also receiving no appreciation for anything, people like you who think they know things they have mo idea about. You don’t even have time to go to the bathroom or eat lunch in peace. While eating I have to get up and do other things 2-8 times the food is always cold and stale at the end, kids even follow into the bathroom and if not they get into trouble in the 2 min it takes to shit or get into physical fights with each other in the 30 sec it takes to pee. Most days you don’t have another adult to talk to all day.

But, if it’s no big deal you can just donit all then. No problem. Come home from work and do all the chores and child rearing while your wife lays on the couch and complain, that’s what a lot of men do anyway so that should work.

I know a few men like you, all of them changed their minds after being on parental leave for a longer period of time. My cousins partner got into an accident and can’t do chores now, she’s stuck in a wheel chair for a while, and he said now he has noticed how much she actually used to do at home every day and that he’s exhausted doing all of that now. Previously to the accident he would often complain that she’s not doing anything, that she’s only on her phone instead of doing things around the house, that she hasn’t got anything done when he gets home from work etc (she works but gets off work before him, and a while back was home with the kids for 2 years). I’ve heard men say after 6+ months of parental leave that getting back to work has been like a vacation and they enjoy the peace and quiet, set break times and adult conversations.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This is fair enough. If anyone cares to know, I can offer my perspective on this but have you factored kids into this? Also I think you’re referring to a participant kind of stay at home wife in this particular situation - someone who only does these duties and nothing else even for herself. Generally speaking, stay at home wifes/husbands of this day and age do it because they want to and would never complain THIS much about something they want to be doing.

Chores are boring and a total pain in the ass but they’re not hard in the sense that they don’t take much thought to do - howber they CAN be physically taxing depending on what needs to be done and how it can be done in this household specifically. Add in a couple of kids and it is that bit more difficult but still mostly manageable.
The chores I mean. The only time you’d not be dealing with the kids would be when they’re off to school - unless they’re homeschooled in which case you’re taking care of them pretty much 24/7.
The kind of kids you have will either make taking care of them fairly straightforward or extremely painstaking and time consuming.

The work itself is at a bare minimum, is not difficult. But you’re not expecting to do just the bare minimum when you’re staying at home - so you take on more shit. Still fine, as long as you know your limits and keep the required work consistent.

It’s easy to find them more draining and difficult than they are if you’re doing the exact same thing day in day out. Depending on how homely the woman is, it really might be all she does. Not even going so much as to see other people or social activities. Although that’s on her, it’s important for mental health.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the age-old battle of who works harder. As a relationship coach, I've seen both sides of this debate. Let's spice it up with some humor and reality check, shall we? A stay-at-home partner's life can be non-stop chaos, like juggling flaming torches while riding a unicycle. Kids can be adorable little bosses, full of demands, and the house can be a never-ending source of surprises. No real-time to chill with bonbons or soap operas without interruptions. The work outside of home has its own challenges and stresses, but they are just different beasts. It's all about understanding and appreciating each other's roles. Keep the love flowing and keep those battle lines friendly, because you're in this together! 😉

TrueConfection · Answer

Doing chores for yourself is simple. Taking care of a family is exhausting. There aren’t any 10 minute breaks, no stopping for lunch, hot food or hot coffee is not going to happen ever again, sleeping late on a day off won’t happen and there are no days off, there’s no paycheck, no office assistants or foremen to help run things, and constant complaining and undoing of all those “chores” from dirty shoes and spills. There is no picking up where you left off yesterday, it just starts all over again day after day after day.

Listening to whatever you want on your way to your job where you interact with adults, get uninterrupted toilet breaks, and look forward to your lunch break or punching off the clock to go home to a meal someone else cooked for you is a lot easier.

Apple1996 · Answer

Staying at home is way harder than working any job. It's never ending, no breaks and extremely under appreciated. I'm just glad my husband is grateful for me and admits what i do is harder. He's stayed home for a couple months after each of our kids were born. We were splitting things maybe 50/50 then and he couldnt handle that so I can't imagine him having to do 100% like i do everyday

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

I disagree. I think you might indeed benefit if you were to switch places... especially with kids. It is a lot harder than you think, I think. But I don't think it makes sense for a couple of guys who have never been stay at home parents to argue about this with one another. So I'm not looking to pick a fight here. But I do indeed disagree strongly with your views on this particular topic.

AviatorTom · Answer

Maintaining a home IS hard work. Constantly cleaning, picking up after the family members, making sure food is prepared (along with going to the store to buy it), bathing the kids, being soccer-mom to the kids, and all tjhe other things a stay-at-home mom does... it ain't easy.

I've been in situations where I had to do some of those things, because "mom" was away for a few days. Let me just say I was glad when she got back home, cuz I was exhausted.

MzAsh · Answer

It’s not hard, but chores are shitty and I’m glad I’m not at home all day doing them.

sage2021 · Answer

I was a single Mom and worked full-time for 30 years.
My sister's husband made enough money so she never had to work and was a homemaker (not a housewife please?).
What she could never understand that she had all the time in the world to be a homemaker and I only had a couple of hours after work and on the weekends to do the same chores and things that she had all day and night every day and night to accomplish what I had to do after work, on my lunch hour, and the weekends.
I would have loved to be a housewife and stay home. 🏡 I was never able to do that even when I was married.
Thankfully I did work outside my home for 30 years otherwise I wouldn't have been able to get any social security benefits and I would have NO money!!
So there you have it! It all comes out in the wash!!

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I would rather work than be a stay at home mom. I left my ex because it literally made me suicidal living that life. I now work and feel much better than being tied down to that shitty life of feeling constantly lonely and having responsibility that I never actually wanted. It is hard because you don't get to do what you want most of the time and you usually end up being alone. Then if your partner never helps out at all like my ex (even after telling him multiple times), never put the seat down, threw his clothes beside the basket or left it in the bathroom on the floor, shaved getting hair all over the sink and fucks up the bathroom every morning. There will always be work and doing the bullshit mundane tasks that is everyday multiple times like the fucking dishes used to just make me want to blow my brains out.

Shiprex · Answer

I have not said this exactly but am 100% in favour of feminists offering to support MEN in the home more than they do now. It's men doing most of the sustaining and maintaining of society as it is and essential provisions for the common good. It's always been said that it was oppressive to be kept tied to the kitchen and bedroom while I reckon most guys would jump at that notion to send her off in the morning with her packed lunch and a smack on the backside to get into the rat race and bring in the bacon so he could get the laundry started, vacuum, tidy, sort out the furnishings to a style of HIS taste and preference as well as repair things that need to be fixed.

nastyb · Answer

It has to do with the fact that caregiving is a 24/7 job. Housewives dont only sweep the floors, they have to watch and be on call for their kids 24/7. This means she will miss out on chance to talk to her coworkers at work, miss out on going outside to enjoy the sun, can't leave the house that much at all. Or having NOBODY to talk to at home. If you are a parent, you know how much a hassle it is to bring young children everywhere on the streets. Its you and your kids 24/7. No social life. No stimulation, no hobbies. Your husband comes home then you have to wash his underwear and do more dishes.

housewiving isn't stressful but its hard in the fact you never get any time off. You have no freedom

Plus, most moms dont have the luxury of staying home. They need to work full time jobs then come home to do 90% of the housework and child care

Housework and childcare is still primarily a womans duty

Caroline91 · Answer

Doing a good job of raising small human beings is a very weighty job that I have given up another career to do. Doing it well is a mentally and emotionally challenging job and often exhausting. I am fortunate that, unlike so many people, my husband recognizes the value of what I do for our family and appreciates it deeply.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Wow, you try wrangling 2-3 rug rats of different ages while grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, doctors appointments, enrolling kids in school, taking care of them when they're sick, read to them, help them with homework, socialize them into healthy adult personalities, etc. Do all that and do it well. Do it from 6AM to about 9PM. 7 days a week. For 20+ years. And maintain your looks and fitness.

Seriously, I'd like to see how well you'd do.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I don't think it's reasonable to pose as a judge defining what is hard and what's not, because, obviously, this information is out of your league unless you're all mighty. So I'll return the question, why thinking that you have the tools to measure people's hardship?

Purpleronnie · Answer

Agreed !

Having been single through large periods of my life , holiding down a demanding job i STILL had time to do any chores required to keep my apartment / house in clean , tidy and in good order and STILL had plenty of time left for a social life and relaxing.

It’s not double the work looking after a house that two people live in compared to living alone and nowhere near as mentally taxing as making a career.

Anonymous · Answer

Most household chores aren’t difficult until you add a kid or two in there.

NicholasRedone · Answer

@finchie40 I do my chores and they are work - shopping, a list, washing dishes, laundry, helping out with lifts, 🛗 🚗 lol and more - man you gotta appreciate Finchie what's a walk in the park and what isn't at your wise age even, can't we expected more wisdom of you owl 🦉 kindly said to wisen you 🙃🥲

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

doing simple chores is easy, but taking care of a family isn't. when her husband comes home while she's worked ALL day and then has to continue work while he naps on the couch, stay at home moms are on the clock 24/7, while the husband works a 9-5, see the difference?

exitseven · Answer

It depends. A lot of guys have really cushy jobs. They take two hour lunches and mostly stream Netflix on their computers. I never had one of those but know many that do.

Sparklight · Answer

I disagree. Many other factors exist. Where does he work. How many kids do you have. Is she cooking a cleaning? Different stressors. Different jobs. Different factors.

EmmaMary · Answer

Congratulations on winning a  Troll  of the day award.

caitycat21 · Answer

Why would anyone agree to be a stay at home girlfriend

Anonymous · Answer

I agree, especially when pretty much every household chore is automated- dishwasher, washer/dryer, etc.

Jeff51 · Answer

Some it is. She should not do everything tho. If she does laundry ma6be you make dinner

fivebyfour · Answer

Yes I agree but perhaps difficult to motivate yourself when you're alone,,,

Godihateyou · Answer

Spoiled and lazy. Thays why Americans are going over seas to marry

slatyb · Answer

Why do you think it is not?

loveyouoak · Answer

Because it is very hard.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Do BOTH like 70 % women

Sal_Monella · Answer

Because they see it as enslavement.

Anonymous · Answer

Because it's not easy for them?

robocop666 · Answer

Yup complaining like shit.

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