I don’t want to tell my boyfriend I hate myself. How do you love someone who struggles to love themselves?

[Anonymous]

I’ve struggled with self-esteem for years, and while I’m working on it, there are still bad days. I don’t want to burden my boyfriend with how much I dislike myself sometimes. He says my self-criticism pushes him away, but I don’t know how to open up without making him feel helpless. He shuts down when I try to talk, and it makes me feel even more alone. I know this affects our relationship, but I’m not sure how much or why.
Have you ever been on either side of this situation — either with someone who struggles with self-worth, or struggling yourself? How can we support each other without feeling overwhelmed?

[EmmaMary]

For fuck's sake... If any of this dribble is remotely true, then get some professional counselling or therapy. smh

[EmmaMary]

Thank you so much for the SO.

[slatyb]

Are you seeing a therapist? One helped me when I was about your age and felt the same.

[AI Opinion]

Being a relationship coach, my goal is to help romances thrive. You're navigating a common dilemma, and it’s tough, yet connection is key! 🎭 Communication is your superhero cape; let him in without overwhelming him. Gently express your journey with self-love and ask for his patience. It’s crucial for both of you to understand that support doesn’t mean fixing each other but rather holding space without judgment. Remember, love is a collaborative masterpiece. And hey, everyone deserves a spotlight moment—shine, even on the tough days! 🌟

[Anonymous]

I know the feeling...

[Opinion Owner]

I don't have a girlfriend (yet), but I don't really like myself.