Do you think it's a good idea to take revenge for cheating?

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D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I did it. Revenge cheating. I went all out extreme and fucked so many girls that I'd say my revenge was a lot more than seven fold. What was the end results?

1) It did make her realize this is a game she's going to lose and that I can easily replace her with wealthier and better looking women.

2) It made her realize she can easily lose me if she fucks up again.

3) It humbled her ass in that department... playing games simply stopped.

4) Unlike her, she came to find out I don't get butthurt when a side chick moves on, and just get another one or two.

... as for me internally it had some damage that I basically did to myself.

5) It redpilled the hell out of me about women. Most of the chicks I was bagging were cheating themselves. I'm not playing a stupid game that one gender is better or whatever, but however "bad" you think men are, women are just as bad. I'll probably never slip into that fairytale happily ever after mode or think I found the perfect one ever again in my life.

6) I thought that me being worse would justify the stupid bullshit she started. Even though she quit and actually changed, I'm probably never going to the forget phase of "forgive and forget." So even though it isn't on the surface, if she says or does anything that reminds me of the past... it's right back in my mind. A white lie about money for instance could send me into a rage, because it reminds me of that time she lied about another thing... that thing... lying at all is off the table for her.

That's the results. She begged me to stay and that's the prices that were paid on both our parts, she got the revenge part and a whole lot more. I would suggest, if it's possible, to just end the relationship... because I've done that before and it sucks for like about as long as it takes to meet someone new (maybe half a day). After that you'll forget it hella quick and feel righteous in ending that relationship because you are. They're the one that fucked up and you were the bigger person that just did the right thing, picked yourself up and moved on. That in itself is revenge too if you think about it. That will forever hang on their conscious... and I know that from experience as well. Cheated on my ex Japanese fiance with another ex Japanese girlfriend... it didn't feel like cheating because I was seeing both of them at the same time for about 3 years, but I guess breaking up with one suddenly made me exclusive. But she took it as cheating and that hurt me doing that to her.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

Depends on how you define “revenge”. If breaking up and never talking to them again is revenge, then it’s perfectly justified.
Otherwise, it’s probably just a petty, vindictive response to feeling hurt. It’s perfectly human to feel compelled to lash out in such circumstances. In the long run you will feel better about yourself if you remain “the bigger person”.

Genie23 · Accepted Answer

Never. I've been cheated on and I never even thought about taking revenge because I feel it's petty and it's not exactly going to take away my pain. It will cause me more distress instead tand trust me, they do end up regretting it when you just walk away rather than make their life miserable by taking revenge. I forgave them but never gave another chance. I'd rather focus on healing than giving someone a hard time.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Revenge is never a good idea. If someone is an inveterate cheater, something is wrong with them and it's best to let them go and move on to someone who has, as Cool Hand Luke would say, their mind right.

Forgive them for not taking care of this part of their life sometime after you get over being hurt and find someone who has their life straight.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I'm here to sprinkle some relationship wisdom and maybe a giggle or two. Revenge can be tempting, like that extra slice of cake when you're on a diet. But honestly, it rarely ends well and can leave a bad taste. Focusing on healing, self-love, and moving on to someone who deserves your fabulous self is a better recipe for happiness. Besides, karma has a pretty good track record for dealing with cheats! 🍰✨

Finchie40 · Answer

2 wrongs don’t make a right , unless you want to be classified as a cheater as well , best thing to do is just walk the other way and move on from them

HawkPerception · Answer

No, that's petty and lowers you closer to their level. Just move on and find better. Live your best life without them as a beautiful soul. Success is the best revenge.

AviatorTom · Answer

It's rarely a good idea to take revenge on anything. Revenge for cheating may make the person feel good, for a short time, but eventually they will regret it.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Nope, it's too much time and energy wasted.
I just moved on from my exwife who I caught doinking the land lord.
She asked what are you doing here and I replied I use to live here and left.
My life got better and better, while her life went down hill.
They never ended up together, he lost everything in the divorce, she eventually got married again, he was lazy, didn't want to work, so she was the main breadwinner and struggled to make ends meet, and divorced him, and while I felt bad for her, I figured it was karma.
It was a long time before we ever talked, she called me out of the blue one day.
While she never apologized for what she did, she did say she screwed up.
Probably because I because pretty successful.
Im thinking because I just moved on.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Not for cheating, but for other reasons I had moments to think about ''revenge''.

Anyhow - each time (in my case) ''time'' had done the revenge instead and by itself.

And each time it was satisfying to me to see those go down who had wished myself to go down.

This may vex atheists now, but.. from somewhere in the Bible:

''Vengeance is mine; I will repay, says the Lord''

Turned out that it works nicely (in my own cases).

loveslongnails · Answer

To what end? What do you hope to accomplish? Does it benefit you at all? Surely you've heard the saying " When seeking revenge, be sure to dig two graves".

Surely the best "revenge" would be to remove your presence from his life and leave him longing for what he could have had.

DangerouslyCute · Answer

revenge is something that taints your heart and soul... so it never is a good idea...

berrytired · Answer

I think it's understandable. I don't think you can cheat on a cheater for an example unless the cheater has truly changed and has been for years. Then again I struggle to see that any relationship can recover from that and become truly happy for both parties, well depending on the level of betrayal

SotiCoto · Answer

Do you really not have enough hostility and strife in your life that you need to add more? Especially for the sake of a situation that was probably caused by insufficient love in the first place...

alice55 · Answer

Better to walk away without doing anything and just ignore the person as if they never existed

BriGinny · Answer

Yes. This has been the only way I was able to forgive. I know everyone is different but cheating back worked for me.

RavVid · Answer

No. You are participating in a nasty situation. Trust is broken on cheating and trust doubly broken is doesn't restore it.

msc545 · Answer

I don't think it's a good idea at all since it's likely to provoke an even worse reaction from the other person. I think the best response to cheating is to leave the person who cheated and find someone else.

beenherebefore · Answer

Best revenge is to have self-respect and disappear. Leave them, block, delete and never talk to them ever again. If they reach out ignore.

Makeushiver · Answer

I was in that situation once. It never seems to make up for the betrayal but I had a lot of hot sex and learned a number of things as a result

dustybiker2 · Answer

The best revenge is living a happier life without them.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

No, revenge is never the way, because ultimately it only creates a cycle just for a second of easing the pain..

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Nope! It can backfire, and is not worth your time, but rather walk away and.. Regroup!

chrissykerdock · Answer

you have nothing so saying that might as well move on you lost your trust and that's severe

alli-112 · Answer

No. Don't sacrifice your morals just because theirs are shit.

spartan55 · Answer

That's immature, stupid and will make everything worse.

Vevv123 · Answer

No, it feels better showing them you are better than them!

justarandomperson_55 · Answer

According to me, there's literally nothing you would achieve by taking revenge. I would rather break up and move on than take revenge.

lilBigPotato · Answer

No, only proves that you also have a shitty character

genericname85 · Answer

no. cause them having wronged you doesn't make it ok for you to wrong them. leave them and move on.

Jennz6 · Answer

Ask John Wayne Bobbitt , his wife Lorraine Bobbitt took out revenge…

Nikki1989 · Answer

Revenge is for cowardly, weak, insecure types.

WonderingManII · Answer

No. I knew someone that did that. Seems like the problems never ended for them.

LightingBugg · Answer

No. Please just don’t get married if you don’t love each other.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No. Better to leave. Taking revenge might feel very good initially but afterwards you can seriously regret what you did.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Why shame yourself. End of the relationship and get on with your life.

TheoreticallyGreat · Answer

I feel like vengeance feels good in the moment, but is just as much a moment of weakness.

LiamJHayden · Answer

The best revenge is to move on and be happy.

Dorothy90 · Answer

When I was 20 I got with girl my exes sister after he got with my ex friend.

SamWinchester058 · Answer

Depends on whether or not you are staying with the person who cheated on you.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

The best revenge is to let them go so the can see the grass isn't always greener on the other side

Demi89 · Answer

I just move on best revenge is not paying them no mind.

Kokishin · Answer

If the snake bites you, it would be very unwise to bite back.

jjj101010 · Answer

Depends on the situation and what revenge u r planning

Anonymous · Answer

Wait for him to be at peace at home and then with all you strength hit him in the balls that fuvkstick deserves it for cheating

serious · Answer

It is never good

NathanDavis · Answer

not at all, no...

Chelsdope0 · Answer

Legal revenge yes

anon1903 · Answer

This isn't wattpad

exitseven · Answer

Living well is always the best revenge

RHK36 · Answer

Waste of time and energy

Staximus · Answer

No, why not just leave?

Wise4myage · Answer

No, two wrongs do not make it right.

nawtee_me · Answer

Two wrongs do not make a right….

RedInnocent69 · Answer

It’s definitely a slippery slope

Sabretooth · Answer

just move on.

katiesmuff · Answer

No just leave!

Bricealan · Answer

@julie4 No.

TheLovelyWoman · Answer

Yes. Equality.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

No, move on

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.

robocop666 · Answer

No dump them.

eagle1951 · Answer

yeah

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