What do you think about revenge cheating?

[Anonymous]

When your partner cheats on you, so you cheat on them in return for revenge/to make it 'fair'. What do you think of people who do this? Would you ever revenge cheat?

[anniisa]

No. I would leave my partner.
It doesn't make sense to me.

Why stay invested in a relationship when you still want to "be equal" and hurt your partner in return? It's two things contradicting each other and it makes no sense to not break up. Unless you're actually willing to make it work

[Cynicaldreamer]

It's stupid and just makes you as bad as they are.
Cheating on a cheater doesn't rectify the situation!!!

You leave him or her, find someone that makes you happy and doesn't cheat, and prove you're better off without them.

That's how you get revenge on a cheater.

[OlderAndWiser]

There are people who cheat and there are people who don't cheat. No excuse justifies the behavior. If you revenge cheat, you only prove that you are just as bad a person as your partner. If you don't like what they did (and who would?) just leave them.

[InfobotsMom]

I think that it's a childish and pointless response. It just compounds the problem, it solves nothing and it takes away the moral high ground. The only answers to cheating are to work things out and find a way to forgive or to walk away.

[Asker]

Totally agree.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Two wrongs don't make a right. I find it to be very classless and petty.

Not to mention, why use someone else to get back at your ex?

I think cheating is filthy, and would never want to be a part of it all for the sake of revenge, nor would I want to stoop down to the level of a cheating ex. I'd rather hold my head high and move on.

[shimmeryns]

I don't think it's worth the time. It makes the person to be the same level like the cheater.

No matter how much it hurts, look ok the bright side -- at least you didn't marry and have child with the cheater. Could have been worse.

[ghostqueen]

It's so moronic. Cheating isn't right and when someone cheats on you the adult thing to do is dump them and move on.

[luggulf]

I never cheat when I'm in a relationship I stay true to them

[dawinder]

i am single i am searching true love

[Paris13]

To begin with, I would have trust issues which would make me bitter, not revengeful, I might even plan on leaving because my attitude alone would be a killer. How much better can that be?

[Shamalien]

Even leave? :O

As if leaving isn't the obvious choice

[Paris13]

@Shamalien I probably wold stay, knowing me but my attitude? Not pleasant. Not known for grudge bearing but I can forgive and keep not forgetting.

[Shamalien]

You would do well to leave

[Paris13]

@Shamalien If I could, Yes. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[eviegurl]

Waste of life to bring more pain and. Betrayal is t going to do anything other than poison your own soul and it's not going to help anything and really the only thing it does is show how little character you have and in the e. d your a cheater then to better to break it off and just be with someone else in a positive relationship then use someone to hurt someone who doesn't really care in the first place all your achieving is hurting the second person ND ruining what could have been a decent relationship why bother but if your that spitefully and want revenge why not just belt the cheater in the face and mo e o. That's gonna hurt more then trying to get revenge by cheating the worst is the fact you use someone to hurt another if that person you used is genuine and actually has feelings for you and you just use them that makes you just as shitty if not more so then the person that. Cheated on you

[Browneye57]

It will never be what you thought. I guarantee it.
So, you got a cheating ass-wipe of a jerk and you want to be JUST like him? How fukkin dumb is that?
And anyway, 'under 18'? There's no such thing as 'cheating' at your age. Play the field, have some fun, none of y'all are ready to get married anyway, so it's all just for fun, entertainment, and experience. Chalk it up.

Oh, and the best revenge for a rejection is to simply be awesome. Being the same kind of dipshit surely isn't being awesome.

[Asker]

This question isn't about me or any situation I'm in, it's just a general question.

[Tomsta]

There is cheating under 18. They still have a realtionship amd therefore can still cheat

[Browneye57]

@Tomsta - What, like puppy love? Uh, no.
And it appears asker simply made up some pure bullshit. What a story. And a waste of time.

[Asker]

People ask general questions on here all the time, it's nothing new.

[Browneye57]

Uh, no, you're a child and you came her to just make shit up. Consider reading more and asking less. You're clearly not ready.

[Tomsta]

@Browneye57

It may not be a adult relationship but its still a relationship

[Asker]

Nowhere did I say this was about me in my post, think you're the one who needs to read more.

[Browneye57]

@Tomsta - More children on GAG. They simply don't belong here.

[inchesfrommadness]

@Browneye57 that comment really isn't helpful, it's just rude. Though I agree that revenge cheating is wrong, there are a lot nicer ways to say it. You need to think about that next time and maybe YOU should be the one trying to act more like an adult.

[Browneye57]

@inchesfrommadness - I'm not here to babysit you. You're just a kid. Go away for a couple of years, come back when you actually grow up.

[inchesfrommadness]

@Browneye57 I'm 16. This app is for teenagers; it literally says it in the app description. Maybe you should just fuck off and go to a bingo game or something with the other old people.

[hellionthesagereborn]

No that's stupid. If you cheat you cannot be trusted, that doesn't change just because your reason is petty instead of just selfish. Besides which any one who would do that would lose my trust (I mean what are they going to do the moment they think I'm cheating? What happens if it turns out it was a big misunderstanding but they had already cheated? Well now they are the piece of shit.).

[cgerm25]

I think the idea of revenge cheating sort of misses the point. You're not hurt by a partner cheating because you didn't get to do it too, you're hurt because they've violated your trust and don't respect the boundaries of the relationship. Adding more cheating to the scenario doesn't make anything better, if anything it further cements the disconnect.

Far better to either cut ties and find happiness elsewhere or to try to work through the issues that led to the cheating in the first place. I'd only go with the latter if you think you can handle forgiving your partner and are completely certain the behavior won't continue.

[buuda1971]

Its a waste of your time if he cheats thats your biggest sign its time to move on and drop him faster then he dropped his pants cause if he cheated once and you forgive him or revenge cheat he will do it again and if you sleep with a guy for revenge thats playing with his emotions and can create even more problems but a lot of guys myself included are fine with meaningless sex and will be happy to particapate in your revenge but what about you how do you feel about sleeping with a stranger if your ok with it then no harm but either way you need to just break up and find someone who will remain loyal as you are to him!

[lightbulb27]

Bad idea, stupid
Vengeful, unable to process emotions... I lose interest instantly.
No I wouldn't, why would I do that? why would anyone do that?

And I wouldn't be on the other side of the cheat either. Also stupid.

Stupid means emotionally sick by the way..., they may be very intellectually intelligent.

[DizzyDesii]

I wouldn't cheat but id prob get them back after. So like we breakup and then i get with one of their friends who i liked long before them. Well at least thats what HS me did. I didn't sex em tho. Now i’d just be done with them and find someone nonrelated

[Cryostatic]

I don't think it's healthy, but I've seen it save relationships.

At least, for awhile.

It "works" by ensuring that the person who was cheated on can't hold it over the cheater's head forever, since they both acted like shitty assholes.

[i1T2daty]

It never really works. As opposed to the betrayal you felt when you found out, premeditated sex is never going to make you get over the feeling of betrayal. That doesn't mean he didn't reset things, he absolutely did. I would think that if there were someone you were already attracted to and the opportunity comes up, go for it but just doing it for revenge won't satisfy any issues.

[JackSmy]

Only losers do that. Why would you stay with someone that cheated on you in the first place?
If you think cheating on them makes you 'even' then may the gods help your confused soul! I don't even want to be friends with someone that thinks that makes sense, as it is just horrible!

[camotedragon]

Only way I think this is acceptable is if you want to stay with your partner and you feel like you "have to get even" in order to make it fair and move forward and you convince your partner of this idea and also you both forget about it and never bring it up again than I guess it could work but I wouldn't recommend it it most likely will just ruin everything just drop the cat and move on

[ItsTheNephilim]

So someone's partner cheated on them which pretty much sums it up that they don't give a fuck about their partner. You think 'revenge cheating' is gonna affect them in any way?

Don't put so much pressure about having a revenge while doing it and you'll enjoy it a bit more ;).

[Lurdie]

Guilty of this, but it doesn't help the situation honeslty if you can't get over the hurt or rebuild that trust just call it off for good. Or go on a break and then have other partners lmao either way don't revenge cheat unless youve written them off for good

[Somethingwittty]

Ha lol. I can tell your young on this. Just walk away from the relationship. You want revenge? Go fuck his worst enemy or rival. That simple.

[Asker]

Nah this question isn't about me, I'm just curious about people's thoughts.

[Somethingwittty]

Ah lol. Yeah just walk away.

[themaker39]

If you get cheated on and want to pay back the same, then you should thank your partner for finally getting you to do what you were about to do anyway. You were not going to be loyal anyhow. This eye for an eye mentality can tell you someone is frustrated.

[CreativeMumble]

I think it's stupid.
The best way is to leave their sorry asses and get over them, being happy with your life without them.

I think it's completely stupid, to make yourself a cheater because of something like it.