What do you think about revenge cheating?

Question

When your partner cheats on you, so you cheat on them in return for revenge/to make it 'fair'. What do you think of people who do this? Would you ever revenge cheat?

anniisa · Accepted Answer

No. I would leave my partner.
It doesn't make sense to me.

Why stay invested in a relationship when you still want to "be equal" and hurt your partner in return? It's two things contradicting each other and it makes no sense to not break up. Unless you're actually willing to make it work

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

It's stupid and just makes you as bad as they are.
Cheating on a cheater doesn't rectify the situation!!!

You leave him or her, find someone that makes you happy and doesn't cheat, and prove you're better off without them.

That's how you get revenge on a cheater.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

There are people who cheat and there are people who don't cheat. No excuse justifies the behavior. If you revenge cheat, you only prove that you are just as bad a person as your partner. If you don't like what they did (and who would?) just leave them.

InfobotsMom · Accepted Answer

I think that it's a childish and pointless response. It just compounds the problem, it solves nothing and it takes away the moral high ground. The only answers to cheating are to work things out and find a way to forgive or to walk away.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

Two wrongs don't make a right. I find it to be very classless and petty.

Not to mention, why use someone else to get back at your ex?

I think cheating is filthy, and would never want to be a part of it all for the sake of revenge, nor would I want to stoop down to the level of a cheating ex. I'd rather hold my head high and move on.

shimmeryns · Answer

I don't think it's worth the time. It makes the person to be the same level like the cheater.

No matter how much it hurts, look ok the bright side -- at least you didn't marry and have child with the cheater. Could have been worse.

ghostqueen · Answer

It's so moronic. Cheating isn't right and when someone cheats on you the adult thing to do is dump them and move on.

Paris13 · Answer

To begin with, I would have trust issues which would make me bitter, not revengeful, I might even plan on leaving because my attitude alone would be a killer. How much better can that be?

eviegurl · Answer

Waste of life to bring more pain and. Betrayal is t going to do anything other than poison your own soul and it's not going to help anything and really the only thing it does is show how little character you have and in the e. d your a cheater then to better to break it off and just be with someone else in a positive relationship then use someone to hurt someone who doesn't really care in the first place all your achieving is hurting the second person ND ruining what could have been a decent relationship why bother but if your that spitefully and want revenge why not just belt the cheater in the face and mo e o. That's gonna hurt more then trying to get revenge by cheating the worst is the fact you use someone to hurt another if that person you used is genuine and actually has feelings for you and you just use them that makes you just as shitty if not more so then the person that. Cheated on you

Browneye57 · Answer

It will never be what you thought. I guarantee it.
So, you got a cheating ass-wipe of a jerk and you want to be JUST like him? How fukkin dumb is that?
And anyway, 'under 18'? There's no such thing as 'cheating' at your age. Play the field, have some fun, none of y'all are ready to get married anyway, so it's all just for fun, entertainment, and experience. Chalk it up.

Oh, and the best revenge for a rejection is to simply be awesome. Being the same kind of dipshit surely isn't being awesome.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

No that's stupid. If you cheat you cannot be trusted, that doesn't change just because your reason is petty instead of just selfish. Besides which any one who would do that would lose my trust (I mean what are they going to do the moment they think I'm cheating? What happens if it turns out it was a big misunderstanding but they had already cheated? Well now they are the piece of shit.).

cgerm25 · Answer

I think the idea of revenge cheating sort of misses the point. You're not hurt by a partner cheating because you didn't get to do it too, you're hurt because they've violated your trust and don't respect the boundaries of the relationship. Adding more cheating to the scenario doesn't make anything better, if anything it further cements the disconnect.

Far better to either cut ties and find happiness elsewhere or to try to work through the issues that led to the cheating in the first place. I'd only go with the latter if you think you can handle forgiving your partner and are completely certain the behavior won't continue.

buuda1971 · Answer

Its a waste of your time if he cheats thats your biggest sign its time to move on and drop him faster then he dropped his pants cause if he cheated once and you forgive him or revenge cheat he will do it again and if you sleep with a guy for revenge thats playing with his emotions and can create even more problems but a lot of guys myself included are fine with meaningless sex and will be happy to particapate in your revenge but what about you how do you feel about sleeping with a stranger if your ok with it then no harm but either way you need to just break up and find someone who will remain loyal as you are to him!

lightbulb27 · Answer

Bad idea, stupid
Vengeful, unable to process emotions... I lose interest instantly.
No I wouldn't, why would I do that? why would anyone do that?

And I wouldn't be on the other side of the cheat either. Also stupid.

Stupid means emotionally sick by the way..., they may be very intellectually intelligent.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I wouldn't cheat but id prob get them back after. So like we breakup and then i get with one of their friends who i liked long before them. Well at least thats what HS me did. I didn't sex em tho. Now i’d just be done with them and find someone nonrelated

Cryostatic · Answer

I don't think it's healthy, but I've seen it save relationships.

At least, for awhile.

It "works" by ensuring that the person who was cheated on can't hold it over the cheater's head forever, since they both acted like shitty assholes.

i1T2daty · Answer

It never really works. As opposed to the betrayal you felt when you found out, premeditated sex is never going to make you get over the feeling of betrayal. That doesn't mean he didn't reset things, he absolutely did. I would think that if there were someone you were already attracted to and the opportunity comes up, go for it but just doing it for revenge won't satisfy any issues.

JackSmy · Answer

Only losers do that. Why would you stay with someone that cheated on you in the first place?
If you think cheating on them makes you 'even' then may the gods help your confused soul! I don't even want to be friends with someone that thinks that makes sense, as it is just horrible!

camotedragon · Answer

Only way I think this is acceptable is if you want to stay with your partner and you feel like you "have to get even" in order to make it fair and move forward and you convince your partner of this idea and also you both forget about it and never bring it up again than I guess it could work but I wouldn't recommend it it most likely will just ruin everything just drop the cat and move on

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

So someone's partner cheated on them which pretty much sums it up that they don't give a fuck about their partner. You think 'revenge cheating' is gonna affect them in any way?

Don't put so much pressure about having a revenge while doing it and you'll enjoy it a bit more ;).

Lurdie · Answer

Guilty of this, but it doesn't help the situation honeslty if you can't get over the hurt or rebuild that trust just call it off for good. Or go on a break and then have other partners lmao either way don't revenge cheat unless youve written them off for good

Somethingwittty · Answer

Ha lol. I can tell your young on this. Just walk away from the relationship. You want revenge? Go fuck his worst enemy or rival. That simple.

themaker39 · Answer

If you get cheated on and want to pay back the same, then you should thank your partner for finally getting you to do what you were about to do anyway. You were not going to be loyal anyhow. This eye for an eye mentality can tell you someone is frustrated.

CreativeMumble · Answer

I think it's stupid.
The best way is to leave their sorry asses and get over them, being happy with your life without them.

I think it's completely stupid, to make yourself a cheater because of something like it.

MotoNik · Answer

If someone cheats on you. Clearly you deserve someone better for you. Dont stoop to their level. You got your whole life keep your morals. Youl love. Youl be heart broken. But one day youl find someone who makes you feel 100x happier and secure in the relationship.

crazy8000 · Answer

Childish.
Only proves the one doing revenge cheating is as low as the one cheated even lower in some cases.

If you're considering to do it. yeah. we can take it this way. If I was you I would drop my cheating partner and move on with life.
Life is to short to do small minded thing's like revenge or for that matter hate.

BeMuse · Answer

That sounds pointless. They already cheated on you so they have no emotion in the mix. Trying to hurt their feelings when they don’t care doesn’t do anything.

Unit1 · Answer

2 wrongs, that make a right. Cheat on a cheater and you'll stoop down on their level and in effect this is 2 cheaters in a relationship! Win-win!

Or you can be the better person and just leave.

Your call!

Unirocks · Answer

Sounds awfully toxic and silly.
If someone cheats on you, you walk away. Is it even cheating any more if the relationship has ended after they cheated? You’re just doing something to spite them. That’s extremely juvenile.

wankiam · Answer

its pointless. if your guy has sex with a girl he likes behind your back and you find out you should dump him rather than having sex with a guy you probably dont like that much just to get your own back

NYCstreetPhotog · Answer

There is no excuse for revenge, cheating or otherwise. I used to hold grudges, and get revenge, but as I've lived and learned, I've realized it doesn't do any good, and only degrades societal and personal relationships.

While I can't abide cheating, I would never act in a way in order to get revenge on the person that cheated on me.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

Kinda pointless, won't change the fact that you got cheated on then lower yourself to their level only gives them an excuse for you to longer be upset about being cheated on since you did it to them too.

Daniela1982 · Answer

It is just lowering yourself to their level, so what good does that do?

Vesuvius87 · Answer

I think you're wasting more time with someone worthless; too much plot and drama. That's more time, effort and stress your body is generating when you could easily be single and seek someone better.

ShadowofRegret · Answer

Never let them drag you down to their level, just because they did something like that does not mean you should too. If they cheat on you, just leave them.

ZELLxoxo · Answer

If my partner cheats on me then it would become clear to me that they don't care about me. There would be no point to cheat but rather to break up asap. That's what I'd do.

Cactusqueen · Answer

Seems quite immature. If you’d be so willing go slip into another’s bed, clearly there’s little respect for each other

angelgirl7 · Answer

I wouldn't even stoop to that level. You're just as bad as the person who cheated. And I truly doubt that it would help you feel better, in the long run.

Heathnotae · Answer

If you are hurt by being cheated on because you actually care about the person you are with, it does not make sense that you would want to make them hurt too.
I wouldn't ever want to see my love in pain. It would just hurt me more to see them hurt.

g0sunnyg0 · Answer

I think that is very childish I would rather leave someone who cheats on me than going as far as cheating that person back

boumka · Answer

Useless. Better revange is ingnoring and going on happier.

boredguy01 · Answer

I think it's extremely idiotic and immature so I'd never do it

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I wouldn't stop that low. That's pretty shit in my eyes.

Ogopogo · Answer

The point is not to get back at them, but to be just as terrible. If you're both terrible then you get to stay together.

TonyBologna25 · Answer

Why stoop to their level? Cheaters are garbage, and everyone should hold themselves to a higher standard. I think it’s immature, petty, and hurts the person even more.

R4vedave · Answer

The most childish shit ever. If someone cheats on you, don't waste time and effort on them, just fucking break up and move on like an adult.

mrcov28 · Answer

The first thing I would ask is why? What's the point of getting revenge. Your degrading yourself. Move on with your life

SarahsSummer · Answer

Pathetic. Two wrongs don’t make a right. If someone cheats, leave. Your “revenge” should be a great life without the cheater in it.

markscott · Answer

I can understand why people revenge cheat. But in the end, all they accomplish is to hurt themselves when they do it.

ErikKantor · Answer

Nope, how on earth would it make me feel bettter to take advantage of another person? I would say that 99% of those people are either 15 years old or are emotionally at a kid stage.
Two wrongs doesn’t make a right. Grow up

Anonymous · Answer

Makes you as low as them. Two wrongs don't make a right.

Agape93 · Answer

Childish. Once you do it you lost all high ground and ability to complain. You’ve effectively shown the act of Cheating to be ok

Anonymous · Answer

I think it is stupid what's the point off revenge cheating if someone cheats on you break up with them and learn to have self respect for yourself and show that person you won't tolerate cheating

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

I'd just leave them and fuck other girls guilt-free. "Revenge cheating" doesn't make a couple "even", it just makes them both equally shitty people.

boggboss · Answer

Retards at that point you might aswell just break up with them lol

Carbon-12 · Answer

I think it is worse than cheating. You are not only hurting your partner, but you are hurting whatever poor soul that thought someone is interested in them.

qefvzhkvnk · Answer

Why would you do this. It's pointless and it's not making it fair, or even making a difference. If someone cheats on you, most of the times, they don't like you anymore.

whitehide · Answer

That would only make me like her, I would never do that. Revenge cheating wouldn't make it 'fair' either. I wouldn't take anyone who did that seriously.

Frankiealaplaaja · Answer

Nothing will ever make cheating fair. Two wrongs don't make a right, right? People who do it anyway haven't learned this lesson, are just incapable of empathy, or just downright bastards.

Blackrosezoa · Answer

I think, more than damage to the relationship, that it damages oneself depending on that person's views on it. Of course being cheated on destroys the cheated on partner too. Probably what damaged me as far as relationships go.

PondyPand · Answer

Its stupid and makes the person as bad as the cheater. Only scum cheats.

YourDreamsComeTrue · Answer

If you catch you partner cheating then its time to call them your ex an move on even if you loved them more than they loved you, its only going to hurt more

Avicenna · Answer

No, that's immature. Just leave them if they cheat.

Ripper_E · Answer

What's the point? It's not going to change what happened.

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