Does getting slapped during an argument with your SO count as domestic abuse?

[exitseven]

This question was inspired by @katiesmuff.

[katiesmuff]

For all you yes it does folks! When is the last time you ever heard of a man or woman going to prison for slapping someone in anger one time, NOT MULTIPLE TIMES?

[exitseven]

@katiesmuff You are right but the majority of people that abuse their spouses neve go to prison. The cops might arrest them but they are usually out the next day,

[Beckybooboo]

@katiesmuff I know a lot of people that have been convicted of first offense DUI. They can potentially face up to 90 days jail time but I don't know anyone that actually did time for a first offense but it's still a conviction. Same goes for domestic abuse. It's two separate arguments. You can argue the penalty isn't harsh enough but it's still gonna be a prior conviction and that's what courts look at, a pattern.

[Beckybooboo]

@katiesmuff I should add, if you don't consider a one time event as domestic abuse, I accept that. I'm talking more about the legal standard. A lot of times a couple will work it out without authorities getting involved and that's fine.

[bddddd]

You are right. There is no prosecutor in the world that is going to take that case unless there is serious bruising or physical damage. There just are not the resources available. For one slap? Even if they did the Judge might give them a fine of a couple of hundred dollars, whereas it would cost the prosecution many thousands of dollars. They could seek a restraining order instead, maybe.

[dustybiker2]

Sir. Are you thar far gone down the fox hole you've lost all common sense? Come back to the light.

[exitseven]

My WW2 vet uncle used to say that fate favors the one that digs the deepest foxhole

[dustybiker2]

That is a gem to remember.

[exitseven]

@dustybiker2 I had some cool uncles.

[dustybiker2]

Sounds like it.

Thanks for mho

[exitseven]

no charge kid.

[Finchie40]

Laying your fingers on anyone is considered abuse , so you have every right to report her to the police or knock her the fuck out if she lays a finger on you , I know most guys’ will say they don’t hit a girl , which is the respectful thing to do , but I’m sorry if a girl is out to physically hurt me in any way , I am going to defend myself , I won’t hit her, because I know I will knock her out , but I will restrain her ass until she calms down by restraining I mean grabbing her arms and taking her to the ground , pinning her down until she calms down, which sadly I had to do a few times with my crazy ass mentally ill ex that lost her fucking mind. She would throw things at me and attack me , so instead of knocking her out , I just restrained her crazy ass and told her to calm the fuck down and I called the cops on her a few times and had her 302’ed. And removed from my home and sent to a psych ward , one of the craziest relationships I ever been In

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, it does, and it would be grounds for a judge to issue and injunction against the offender.

[AviatorTom]

Yes it does, but one should be careful about ruining an otherwise good relationship over a momentary lack of control.

If it's something that happens multiple times, that's another story.

[RageBabe]

Yes, the moment a person slaps their spouse, it is physical abuse.

There is never any excuse for physical violence between a couple – or anyone, for that matter. But physical aggression between a couple is a huge indicator of a lack of respect and a lack of boundaries.

Hitting your partner, your child, family members, friends, etc. – never acceptable. To put it differently, if you wouldn't slap someone else, why would it be acceptable to slap your partner?

Once one partner raises their hand to the other, it has already escalated into abuse. The best thing to do if a disagreement is becoming heated is to walk away and take a “time out” before escalating to physical aggression.

People should just keep their hands to themselves in general, unless displaying affection to their loved ones or defending themselves or loved ones from a direct threat of harm.

[Beckybooboo]

I took a course on domestic abuse. As healthcare providers, we were given details on how to recognize it and then document it. By the legal definition, yes, slapping a spouse, significant other or someone you share a child with, is domestic abuse/violence. I'm sorry this happened to you, @exitseven but sometimes you get a little lippy, so, I can't entirely blame her. #girlpower💪

[exitseven]

😊😊😊😊

[Lliam]

I think so. It's ignorant, thuggish, brutish behavior for a man or a woman to resort to physical aggression. There is no excuse. You can't resolve anything that way and will only destroy the relationship completely.

[jazzy34]

Absolutely and he’ll be leaving in handcuffs. “I’m sorry”, my ass.

[Lucy68]

As someone that has happened to them personally according to my friends it does count as

[sage2021]

I have to say definitely yes! That's assault and it's against the law. Period.

[beenherebefore]

ABSOLUTELY! Violence should never be excused or tolerated.

[SotiCoto]

Yes, would say that is pretty clearly domestic abuse.
Then again... why wouldn't you just block it?

[ilistengood]

Sort of depends on why, or maybe it doesn't, good question

[Screenwriter]

Weeellllll... A single slap could be warranted due to the cause.

Repeated hitting sounds more like actual abuse. I believe context is important.

[Anonymous]

I love how these women say a slap is abuse, yet that is most women's method of fighting back on an argument..

To answer your question though, regardless of gender, no matter the circumstances, unless said slap is to resolve an unconscious state (he or she is passed out), hitting is always abuse unless it's self defense.

[Danielle93]

Which women? Slapping anyone (man, women, child, elderly, etc) is abuse.

[Anonymous]

I think it does, whether the abuser is male or female. My girlfriend went through a period where she would get pissed off and slap me in the face or the side of my head. I finally hauled off and slapped her back once and knocked her on her ass. It has been more than 3 years and she has never slapped me again. Sometimes a little abuse can be solved with more of the same.

[Ariesman81]

I would say it's the response to verbal and emotional abuse. All of which constitutes domestic abuse.

[Danielle93]

Verbal and emotional abuse are good reasons to walk away, not escalate things further. By scooping to their level, it makes you no better than them.

[Ariesman81]

@Danielle93

True. But what if you don't believe in divorce.

[Danielle93]

Then there is separation. If it's too toxic, divorce is better than setting a bad example to the kids and them having, abusive partners... basically repeating the same cycle.

[Ariesman81]

@Danielle93

That's why you do it in the shed.

[Jennz6]

I have been slapped and spanked but I don’t think it’s abuse

[ProbablyClueless]

100%
If someone, anyone at all, told me that their partner has slapped them during arguments, I would tell them to bounce out of that relationship as soon as humanly possible

[MemeSupreme]

doesn't matter if it's an argument

dont ever hit your partner

[MemeSupreme]

so yeah lol

[Wiredone]

It could be considered domestic abuse. I for one have never been slapped by my wife. We only give each other love taps

[Anonymous]

Like on the bottom really hard until you cry?

[Jeff51]

Yes but would you turn the partner in for it?

[alli-112]

Pretty objectively yes.

[goaded]

Oh, a member post.

[dustybiker2]

😂😂

[goaded]

@dustybiker2 I didn't report it, I thought that was up to you.

[dustybiker2]

Oh I'm not on the sites admin side anymore. That was my old account before they...



@exitseven is a big boy. He can handle a woman's slap.

[Iron_Man]

I’ll put a stop to that instantly

[Iron_Man]

I won’t allow anybody to be slapping me in the face every time they get mad

[alice55]

it does

[Dongie]

Sure it does and you shouldn't slap her.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

lets use our brains here.

[FenixG45]

Assault can be any unwanted touch

[Anonymous]

I don't know, I never had a relationship.

[douride2]

I would say it does.

[Hellraiser1984]

Yes. Always.

[Anonymous]

Yes it does

[slatyb]

It absolutely does.

[DrPepper12]

Of course!!!

[Emmytexrex]

Yes ofc it is

[beefcakebradybatson]

Yep.

[Ironco]

Yes it does

[msc545]

Yes.