Give him another chance?

[Anonymous]

I caught my boyfriend messaging other women behind my back he had met on a dating site and had confronted him with proof which he denied (that’s the hard part for me). We have been working on our relationship since all this came out, things such as better communication again, being more affectionate, making each other laugh more again, etc, but I’m struggling to get over the fact he denied it when I had proof, some nights it’s still affecting my sleep and eating habits which I know is not good, I want to forgive him but the denial hurts.
I keep thinking maybe he just wanted some form of validation that became complacent in our relationship and we’ve been working on (doing things I used to earlier in the relationship again etc).
Thoughts?

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11 mo

He has also been talking about taking me places in the future.
I asked him what our song was to see if he remembered and he didn’t, I sent it to him and he said that wasn’t it (when I have proof in messages it was the one we agreed on). I asked him if it bothered

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11 mo

him not knowing our song and he knew one that makes us think of how we met we both agreed on, but had said no. He asked if it bothered me and I said yes, he asked why and I told him I never doubted myself on knowing a song with anyone before, he said we’ll pick a new one and there’ll be many

[Finchie40]

No , you deserve way better than that , if he truly loved you and cared about you , he wouldn’t be flirting and hitting on other girls’ period , so dump his Selfish ass and find yourself a guy that truly values you, unfortunately he doesn’t truly value you , he just likes the convenience of you , he will string you along until something he feels better
comes along, so do yourself a favor and dump his ass , you have the proof , so that’s all You need. Because If you take him back , and give him another chance , understand you will be writing SUCKER on your forehead without you realizing it’s there. I use to give some girls’ I dated second chances , until I realized I had SUCKER written on my head , i eventually realized if someone truly loved and valued me , there wouldn’t be Sucker written on my head at all. Life is too short to be someone’s convenience, be someone’s priority the same way you make them yours’ and you can thank me later 😊

[AviatorTom]

You have proof... so what? What's truly important in your relationship?

[Anonymous]

I’ll say this, when that man leaves you officially for one of these women he’s cheating on you with — because he Is cheating and you got proof — you’re going to feel like a goddamn fool.

[Asker]

He was emotionally cheating yes and I don’t condone that at all but I did catch it early so hopefully it can be resolved between us

[Opinion Owner]

Cheating is cheating. Cheating is wrong. He met these women on a dating app and most likely still has it without your knowledge. So like I said, WHEN that man leaves you for one of the women he’s cheating with you’re going to feel like a goddamn fool. If your self esteem is so low that you’re willing to be blatantly naive with this dude then go ahead, but I don't know why you’re asking if you should give him another chance in the first place.

[Nikki1989]

Men are a dime a dozen.

Have some self-respect, dump this creep, and find someone worth your time.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, my aim is to guide you through love's roller coaster, even when it's a loop-de-loop like this. Catching your partner playing cloak and dagger on dating sites is a punch in the gut! 😬 Denial adds a sprinkle of salt to the wound, making trust restoration an uphill trek. But hey, if you're both genuinely working on communication and rekindling those initial sparks, it's a start. Healing is a journey, love, and it may take some time, trust your heart but keep an eye out for any red flags. Find moments that make your soul smile and see if he's all in. 💕

[bowenw]

He appears to want to make amends and work on the relationship, unlike some people that would be in denial. I suggest seeing how it goes for a few months or longer before deciding anything.

[lorenzomichael]

Yeah everyone deserves a second chance everybody and it’s not his fault men are told to always deny deny deny. But it give him a second opportunity if he fucks that up well I don’t think I need to tell you what to do after that.

[slatyb]

He's a liar and will likely always be a liar. Are you ok with that?

[Asker]

No, up until this I always thought he was honest and would like to get back to that point

[slatyb]

What has he said about it? Messaging women on dating apps is a sign he doesn't see you as a permanent partner. Being with you is better than being alone, but he really wants something different.

[Anonymous]

No! Dump him and move on, he will for sure do it or worse again. ”When people show you who they are believe them the first time”.

[Asker]

I’ve heard that before. Was thinking maybe it was something I wasn’t doing anymore that caused him to look for validation somewhere else to feel better about himself or something

[Anonymous]

10/10 he doing it still or will do it again just hiding it better.

[Anonymous]

Leave him , the trust can’t recover from that

[Sevenpointfive]

no. the reason that you don't know is the reason.