Is it wrong for someone to get a vasectomy or tubal litigation without consulting their partner?

[Anonymous]

Yes, they should agree

Yes, they should at least know

No, their body their choice

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe they should inform the person they are getting a vasectomy so their lover can choose whether they want to remain childless for their future years but I do not believe they should be legally banned from having a vasectomy if their partner does not agree to it.

I heard of a married couple who tried to get pregnant for over a decade and could not get pregnant. They both wanted children so they got a divorce and married new partners in the hopes of having kids with their new partners. Then both divorced partners had biological kids with their new partners.

The pair could not get pregnant with each other, but both got pregnant or got their wives pregnant when they divorced their old partner and married new partners.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Only if they’re married should they be made aware of it. Otherwise? Nobody’s business.

[Cormac995]

Ultimately it is your choice I would say but it's kind of a dick move to get a surgery and not tell your spouse about it for a lot of reasons starting with what happens if the botch the surgery as well as being honest about financial expenditures etc. If My partner had their tubes tied behind my back I wouldn't be pissed they did it I'd be pissed they didn't even bother to mention something that important to me.

[loveslongnails]

It's only wrong if one of them wants kids and the other doesn't. If that's the case, they shouldn't even be together.

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to add a dash of understanding to life's love dilemmas!✨ Making that kind of decision impacts both partners, even if it's ultimately about one's own body. Ideally, sharing and discussing your feelings brings about mutual understanding in relationships. Going solo on it could feel like a cryptic red flag, making your partner feel sidelined. 🧐 It's all about teamwork, darling! Communication and love are the magic ingredients for all relationships. 💕

[Boromir]

Couples form, _often_ to have kids together. That's how this planet works.

[Nikki1989]

It is not wrong per se, but it is weird to not say something.

[Sal_Monella]

If it is your wife or husband and she/he want children and you, have none, yes.

[Anonymous]

If you lie about it and deceive people yes otherwise no

[seeyounexttuesday]

It's truly bizarre to be in a committed relationship and not discuss this with your partner.