Is being a good communicator 70% of what a woman wants?

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I think it's more like 70% of what gets the door open but then other stuff becomes more important.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

Not at all. Being trainable is 100% of what women want from men. She will teach you what you can and can’t say. She will teach you what you can and can’t do. She will teach you what she wants to think you’re thinking and what she wants to think you never think. That last one is a toughy for a lot of men because our poker faces aren’t as good as they need to be to fool suspicious women. No matter how good you are at managing your words and behavior, your thoughts will always be your own. So don’t compromise on the deal breakers and you should be fine until she changes the rules. Which she will, at least once, usually about every seven years.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

In my experience, most women don't want a communicator, they want someone to listen to them... and their long boring stories. Oh, and someone to reach the glass that's way up on the top shelf. 😏

Bitter_Sweet94 · Accepted Answer

Communication is a big part of it, but it’s not the whole thing.

A woman wants to feel understood, respected, and emotionally safe , good communication just makes all of that possible.

But you also need consistency, empathy, and real effort.

So no, it’s not 70%.

It’s the foundation that lets everything else actually work.

msmissydc · Accepted Answer

Yes, thats one of the best takes of generalization of all women I have seen. As always not correct for everyone but I feel its closer to reality than most other takes into that direction. Communicator is a broad subject, and itself individual though. That helps tremendously.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach on Girls Ask Guys, I've seen this come up a lot. Being a good communicator is definitely a big chunk of what opens the door, but it's like setting the stage for the main event! Once you’ve nailed the talking game, you’ve gotta walk the walk. Building trust, being supportive, and showing genuine interest play a huge part once you’re in. But hey, good communication can send a few love signals out there! 😉 Keep up the talking, but let actions do some chatting too!

HawkPerception · Answer

I think women are inherently more attracted to men who listen and do rather than talk. The dynamic is they do the talking 60-90% of the time and men do the listening 10-40% of the time. Part of being a good communicator is being a good listener.

And women tend to be more emotional. When they speak, they tend to take longer in getting to the point. That also adds time to their speaking time.

Summeroflove · Answer

Good communication is amazing. But if you’re a good communicator whose a mature adult you should find a woman who is also…. Just saying. Don’t waste time on people who play games.

OneViewpoint · Answer

NO, absolutely not. Most women suck at communicating and aren't going to make any effort to change that. Most women are indirect communicators.

That means they expect to be vague and inarticulate but expect men to read their minds and know WTF women want even though the women don't know themselves.

What women want from men is to sit and listen to them bitch about their friends, their job, their boss, their parents, etc., ad infinitum. And of course to read their minds or suffer grudges that will never end.

If men let that dynamic become established, those men deserve the hell that will follow.

Set boundaries, standards, and expectations for her early on if you ever expect a woman to respect you. She needs to KNOW you are willing to walk if she steps out of line. And she needs to know crying, whining, and drama isn't going to get her anywhere but the rear view mirror.

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

Not to mention a caring soul @telekinetic-potato and a considerate soul.  Same goes for women - couldn't she see maybe i'd want some help with X task before having to drop Y hints or even say still cheerfully "would you like to help me please" and she's like "nah I'm too busy" or "flips off" kind of attitude  Now as I've gotten older, I've realised how valuable those things are to climb any job ladder 🪜 it's not just a work ethic, it's also a personal considerate thing - no wonder people who climbed the ladder, actually did chip in without being told

Zionne · Answer

Being a good communicator is huge, probably closer to 50–60% of what makes a woman feel secure and attracted—but it’s not everything. Confidence, shared values, humor, and consistent actions matter too. Strong communication sets the foundation, but it needs to be paired with other qualities to really “click.”

If you want to level up quickly, a dating coach for men in the US can break down exactly how to combine communication, confidence, and attraction skills.

aaron13547 · Answer

If we assume 100% of women are good women... But there are about as many good women as men who are good communicators... lol

When you look at it like that its probably not 70% we are all still learning to be better so 70% might be a little hopeful.

However I really like the idea. Im hopeful we will be able to get higher then 70% one day!

Phoenix98 · Answer

Communication is a two way street not a one way road. Honestly @AviatorTom is right though a lot of women do want that.

Though we as men naturally don't wanna sit there and listen we'd rather just fix the problem and be done with it.

snermcger · Answer

There is no 50, 60, 70% of anything because their wants are an amorphous blather a hormonal off gassing.
Stop wasting your time. Establish yourself, acquire assets and they will come to you. When they come to you, you dictate the terms.
Till then stop trying to pacify a volcano. Sisyphean.

NathanDavis · Answer

cheesecake... is 69% of what women want...

queenofcardio · Answer

Yes. Effective communication is so important

ABC1x1x · Answer

Ha ha ha ha ha ha. Lol. Absolutely not. Tell a woman you are having a hard time or that you were sexually molested by a female when you were 6 and she will call you a pussy. All woman wan it a good laugh. Lots of money and steady reliable dicking.

Anonymous · Answer

We say we do. We say we want a man who communicates and shares his feelings but really we want a strong man that really listens or pretends he's listening.

Vegasrunner · Answer

No. It's probably about 5% they simply tell you that because women understand if you share everything it allows them to hold the sexual leverage

RavVid · Answer

They always want more but it is the first project gate you need to get through.

Anonymous · Answer

A good communicator and listener certainly goes a long way.

Anonymous · Answer

Only if he's communicating what she wants to hear.😆

Anonymous · Answer

What's sad is what women want in men, the communicator/listener, they are TERRIBLE at.

Malwi93 · Answer

woman wants a sense of security in my opinion

noohair · Answer

If you actually know what women want you can rule the world.

PsychoBarbie90 · Answer

Communication, consistency, honesty. You know, the things most men can't do.

Anonymous · Answer

It's very important, but probably not the most important.

Anonymous · Answer

nah it’s someone who is loyal and provides

boundless · Answer

Nope.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

I'd say so.

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