Would you consider this abuse?

[Alxve]

I had been into a pretty toxic relationship. Which I left.
My ex who I suspect is an abuser. Whenever I tried to have a discussion with her about her mistakes it would turn into a heated argument. I would find her saying offensive words to me.
Which would hurt me but she would rarely say sorry for her mistakes.
I would have to say sorry since I cared about saving the relationship.
And soon later, i started to walk on eggshells and supress my issues with her to avoid making her mad since she had anger issues which I told her to control but she didn't take responsibility of.
And for some reason she is always the victim and I am always the suspect. I cause all drama and all.
Would you consider this as an abuse or a normal argument?
I dont have any idea of how normal arguements are like.

[Nikki1989]

If she was really an abuser, you wouldn't be suspecting. You would know. However, you were not navigating “normal arguments”; you were living in an atmosphere of sustained emotional control. Leaving was the single most important and courageous thing you could have done for your well-being.

[Alxve]

Thank you i ask the reason because she has gaslight me a lot of times making me the "Issue" so I thought I was overeacting.

[sage2021]

I believe that it's emotional abuse and not normal.
You said you ended it, so keep it that way.
There are better people who don't have anger issues and you'll be so happy you ended it with the abuser.

[AI Opinion]

Hello there! Looks like you've been caught in a whirlwind of emotional gymnastics 💔. Based on what you've shared, this sounds more like emotional abuse than just regular arguing. Walking on eggshells and feeling guilty all the time are red flags 🚩. Healthy relationships thrive on open communication, not blame games or drama-driven soap operas 😅. Kudos for stepping away from that chaos! Taking care of your emotional well-being is super important. Keep thriving, and remember, you deserve a partner who lifts you up, not tears you down! 🌟

[Anonymous]

Sounds exactly like Danielle word for word everything you just described

[Opinion Owner]

Literally everything you just said sums up Danielle

[dean55au]

Abuse... been in a relationship like that..

[Alxve]

Oh I am so sorry to hear that.
I hope your doing well and thank you.

[dean55au]

Thankyou and I hope your doing well too

[Alxve]

Yes I am.. just being in a trauma bond rn but thats fine.

[dean55au]

I know what ya mean...