Friends vs Girlfriend/ Boyfriend. Who is more important overall? If you had to choose between the two who would you choose and why?

[thegreenyogi]

[NathanDavis]

what a question... lol

it really depends on the details and the context, so... there could be a bit different scenarios and circumstances... and let's assume these do push you to choose between them after you already tried everything possible to avoid this and still happens anyway

first of all... my friends are not just friends, they're about the closest and about the best thing I have in my life, so they're part of me too, not just my life

let's say I meet someone new, who I really REALLY like her so much, that I am considering and wanting a relationship with her... if she happens "not to like my friends" that is going to be HER problem and for her to deal with, because my friends have NEVER been a problem before, to none of my ex-girlfriends, so... she can avoid them, she can tolerate them when that's not possible and she has to be intelligent enough to be able to socialize with someone that is not of her like, simple... and if she is not capable of that, then I don't want any relationship with that kind of people... lol

now... let's consider the other scenario, in which is one of my friends who are the problem or being problematic towards this new person in my life, then... I put a complete stop to that... I just would not tolerate for any of my friends to antagonize my girlfriend, they would be wrong to do that, so I would just simply ask them to cut it out, and if they don't stop then okay... to the freezer they go, well.. it is my who are going to avoid them and keep them at a distance if they don't change their ways... lol

but... you also said, who would be more important over all... so this is more of some sort of priority and in this case, my relationship takes the priority and they're more important to me 99%

because this is a partner I chose TO BE WITH and bond with and to do the best possible in the best way we can too, and so... that's why they become my main focus, and that's just how it is when you're in love with someone, or very much into someone... and, my friends don't have a problem with that either... never have, lol

and my friends are the same or similar... most of their time, and attention and focus is dedicated to their partners... and then from whatever is left, we keep our friendship afloat... just like we've always had over and through the many years since school days...

[OneViewpoint]

If a friend tries to come between me and a good woman I'm attached to I guess they aren't much of a friend. That would resolve itself instantly in favor of the woman who by the way, would also be a friend or I wouldn't be involved with her. Friends aren't that hard to come by. Girlfriends, not so much.

[thegreenyogi]

Great answer!!

[OneViewpoint]

Thank you.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Honestly, non-romantic relationships can and should take priority over romantic ones. How many times has someone talked about the frequency of their break ups? How they just get numb to it over time? But the loss of a friend is somehow ten times as devastating. I get that society is amatonormative, but at some point you need to ask why it is the way it is

[Simslover92]

For now it would definitely be my bestie. We've been through so much together and our bond is much deeper than the guys we are dating. Now it may change once we're married, but for now I would have to say my bestie!

[AI Opinion]

Balancing friends and romantic relationships can be like juggling hot potatoes. Ideally, they should complement each other, but if forced to choose, it often boils down to the depth of the bond and personal values. Friends can sometimes outlast romances, offering a safety net for emotional rollercoasters. However, a partner might be the one riding the roller coaster with you. Whatever floats your boat in the rollercoaster of life, my friend! 😄💕

[HawkPerception]

Partner comes first in most scenarios. They're the person you're ideally going to be spending your life with for the rest of your life. A partner can get to know you better than your friends in a short period of time because they spend so much time with you and talk about all the deep stuff (ideally).

However, it doesn't mean you should completely neglect your friends. You should allocate some time to spend with your friends once in a while.

[Finchie40]

The right thing to do is choose your boyfriend/girlfriend over your friends’ if you want your relationship to survive the long haul , your friends’ should be supportive of your relationship as well , if not, then they aren’t your friends’

[AviatorTom]

I am totally committed to my partner. She always comes first.

[DonaldDarko]

Definitely friends because they actually like me for me. A girl likes what I can do for her and choses me for the job of reproduction. So, with her it's not friendship it's a job despite the veneer of romance attached to the brutal reality beneath. When was the last time your friends wondered if you could protect, provide, make a lot of money and so on? They don't, they just hang with you because they genuinely like you. Maybe the bond isn't even that strong, maybe they drift off and you never see them again or see them 15 years later, but they genuinely like you and you get along because of that. No alterior motives involved.

[aaron13547]

Friends. They dont let you forget who you are. Friends will hurt your feeling and also take care of you when you are sick. A girlfriend or boyfriend relationship can get to be bais. They are thinking how to be a certain way so you will continue to love them.

I friend loves you because love just is.
A girlfriend or boyfriend loves you because you love them.

Its easy to get off track of the purpose is you, in a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship.

Friendship have more of a boundry where you get what you give without the bias.

[Miristheiss]

This ENTIRE scenario is a red flag.

WHY would a choice need to be made?

If a person has good friends then it is a red flag for the mate to have an issue with them them hanging out with those friends.

If they have bad friends, trying to break the couple up or always trying to get them to act single, trying to get them to go out drinking at clubs and do borderline thi gs then it is a red flag that the boyfriend/girlfriend wants to hang out with people like this.

One caveat, opposite sex friends are always a red flag to any relationship.

If they expect to have a committed, devoted relationship but still go hang out alone with an opposite sex friend... dump them.

[Zack-Bann]

My best friend has seen me at my lowest and he never flinched.


That type of loyalty has earned mine forever


I wouldn’t trade him for a girlfriend


That being said my partner will need to be someone very close to me as well (logically) so they will eventually have to get along at least a little

[Noredcarpet]

I think everyone should chose their partner first but important the partner too knows his, her friends are important and care for their friendship. That is if you don't truly know a friend or friends are toxic to them but even then it is not up to you who your partner chose to have in his, her life.

[AgentG111]

That's excellent question and it would also depend on the level of each friend or girlfriend/SO that is discussed.

At times friends will be at a higher rate of importance based on years of friendship and level of friendship as well.

The girlfriend/SO importance would be based on time and level of closeness and how much they are at that inner circle.

[Zionne]

i think a healthy relationship on both ends won't let you choose between the other, i'd rather choose myself first and make sure to be in a healthy friend group and healthy relationship with a partner

[Keyboardkat]

If your SO is trying to drive a wedge between you and your friends to isolate you, this is someone with control issues, and you need to dump them!

[sage2021]

Friends are okay until they get a boyfriend and you never see them again. Then wadda you do?

I'd say boyfriend, although I don't trust either of them.

[Alex-Snow]

That is a difficult question. I love having a girlfriend or currently a friends with benefits. But a true friend will be there with you and for you for a long time. I can always jerk off for a sexual outlet if need be temporarily.

[msc545]

A friend is far more important than a girlfriend. A good friend is going to be with you your whole life. A girlfriend will stick around until she finds someone richer, taller, and better-looking.

[RichardCranium6201]

It shouldn't have to come to that. Your s. o. should always be your choice. Your friends will understand

[PeachyPie93]

I'd say a partner.. but I never had a friend I ever trusted 100% so that's probably why..

[itsannalee]

Boyfriend/husband, I don’t really care about people who don’t give any benefit in my life.

[Shiprex]

Girlfriend for some things but friends are forever

[TonyMetal___86]

The girlfriend because if i'm with a girlfriend, it means a serious relationship which will lead to marriage!

[msg321]

I think if it is a serious relationship girlfriend/boyfriend is more important but if it is not a serious relationship friends are more important.

[Anonymous]

Your partner ALWAYS comes first. But your partner also has to earn that right. And that only comes with time and shared moments. Otherwise, family comes first. Friends comes next.

[Twalli]

My girlfriend. My friends aren't there for me any time I need them. My girlfriend is. Plus, I know that she genuinely loves me.

[jahaims]

Partner comes first until you have kids. Shouldn't even date if you put friends over your partner.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Girlfriend because I can get a b. j. and lay my #blackboyjoy on her !!!

[Anonymous]

I'm single but if I had a girlfriend, she would be the most important.

[GreyfurtSuyyi]

I don't want a male bestie

[KostasKouvalis]

definitely girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Boyfriend/Husband.

[Bloodparadise]

Depends on the situation..

[Jerre]

I’d go with girlfriends

[Jerre]

@thegreenyogi Thank you for the Like

[WhitneySnow]

They are equal

[Koricon]

Depends on the situation. I would need context.