How to be self efficient and isolated?

[Anonymous]

I am just sad, i have few friends.
But they don't understand me.
I want to fall in love, and I don't know how to find it or get it. I think I am just burnt out by rejections and unable to find anyone new online or offline.
And the type of girl I like doesn't go to bars or pubs, most of them are in their home, studying.
I am not outgoing.
And I don't have any talent other than academics.
I love deep talks, and I build relationships or friendships using that.
And now I am tired of trying and hoping.
I need to get rid of the need for more 2-3 years after that if I get a job.
I'll get a pet dog

[HollyK21]

If you don’t even have a job right now I’d say your priorities are in the wrong place. Find work, so that you have money to be self sufficient first. Get yourself together, then worry about your loneliness and finding a woman.

[Asker]

I was working as a developer for a couple of years. Ill get something soon

[HollyK21]

Can’t always control when you’ll get a job, of course it happens sooner than later but regardless, make that your main priority. Once you’re busy you won’t have much free time to worry about feeling lonely other than the few hours of downtime you have after work, and even then you may just hop online with your friends or something.

[HollyK21]

**of course you hope it happens sooner than later

[Mariogirl09]

You won't find a girl who stays inside... its impossible. Maybe try a library

[Asker]

Oh I just get ignored. My hi and hello's are completely ignored

[Asker]

Maybe I am too annoying or creepy.
I don't know I think it's time for me to put on a hoddy and sit in the most corn place far away from people.
Until I get a job and get a dog to keep me company

[Mariogirl09]

Are you attractive? If not work on your appearance

[Asker]

Oh i did, got new style, got new teeth, new hairstyle, even trained my body a bit just a bit (gym didn't work for me, I was getting fat , so I stopped after reaching my ideal weight ) didn't respond well to it.
Teeth were the worst. Day in day out pain. Removed 5 tooth had breaces in my 20's.

[Asker]

But I think that didn't work out as well.
I think I am just too ugly and mis shaped

[Mariogirl09]

If you're fat you have to lose that weight. Not a lot of women like fat guys

[Asker]

I am skinny tbh

[Asker]

I am 62kg at peak at 5.8

[Asker]

I am short I know that

[Asker]

Way skinny as well

[Mariogirl09]

If you're short that might be a disadvantage as well... sorry

[Asker]

Ya that is like something I can't change even if I wanted to

[Asker]

Maybe love, hugs , kisses and care is not my luck.

[DonaldDarko]

Volunteer at something, you'll meet all kinds of people I worked on boats one day at a yacht coop in Ventura. I worked hard and they took me out on a huge racing yacht.

[Asker]

Oh i want to but currently occurred with some time bound task

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the love labyrinth can be a tricky maze to navigate, but you're not alone! Getting over loveburnout doesn't mean having to isolate yourself completely. It's vital to keep your heart open for those deep connections you crave. Instead of focusing on where you haven't found love, focus on personal growth and explore activities you enjoy. Building self-efficiency could mean diving into hobbies or interests you've never tried. Falling in love with yourself first will make meeting someone special that much sweeter! 😊 Keep that spark alive, and someday you'll be walking a pup and a happy heart. 🐶💕

[In_Trance]

I don't think you understand what isolation means

[Asker]

I do.
I just mean being far away from people.
I don't want to get isolated by others. I want myself to do that

[Asker]

Like I want to distance myself from all the people.
Mostly women
Cause i think I am a creepy guy.
I don't know why I feel it but someone told me to be a bit far.
And It was the person who I liked.
Now I am questioning my whole personality
And my actions.