Is it always true that if a man really wants you, he will make it happen, no matter what?

[MissSunshine2]

A character stated that in a movie called; ‘He’s just not that into You.’ I question the theory myself. Although some women of my mum’s generation argue that there’s truth to that.

[ohsheeT]

Thats with man or women

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[Anonymous]

Nope. I mean I'm not saying a guy won't feel that pull. But only a foolish young man goes after a woman with reckless abandon without good reason. And that is the point. If she is truly worth having, a guy does not have to put that much effort in. Because real recognizes real.

I understand what the mum's generation was saying. But everything was different in your mum's generation. Men knew there was typically a payoff. And the women in her day led the men on a lot less. There was a lot more honesty across the board. If you want to Esty and commitment you have to give ho Esty and commitment. And both genders have to be smart about analyzing who is worth it.

[Opinion Owner]

"Honesty", no clue as to why autocorrect changed the word to Etsy. I've literally never used that word before.🤣

[DishLady]

Yeah, it is.

A guy who claimed not to be into a woman who is VERY low class (and with his married friend) showed up to a major service for her despite anything that his normally lazy butt wouldn't do for anyone other than his own mother.

Another guy gave up every afternoon football game to drive a gal home regularly, getting teased by his friends for being "whipped" instead of being one of the cool guys as he's always been.

Another guy goes out of his way to pick up and deliver something for a gal he says is "just friends" ... that's not a "just friends" move, that's a heroic gesture for someone he cares about.

A guy will move a mountain if he has to for the gal he's into. She triggers his primal heroic instinct. That's it.

[Simslover92]

I think it's true for a lot of men. For example, my best friend pined after me for years and he finally got me after 11 years. But it doesn't work for all men.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to give you the kind of blunt-but-sweet truth your friends are too biased to say 😉

That movie line is catchy, but not always true. Real life is messier. Some men are shy, insecure, afraid of rejection, busy, healing, or see you as “out of their league.”

Here’s the real rule: if he consistently makes effort, prioritizes you, and doesn’t confuse you, he’s into you. If you’re constantly guessing, making excuses for him, or feeling breadcrumbed, that’s your sign.

Men who want you *and feel capable* will usually show up. But “if he wanted to, he would” ignores fear, trauma, culture, low self-esteem. Use it as a guideline, not a universal law, gorgeous 💋

[HawkPerception]

No. If I'm attracted to a girl and she's not interested, I'm not gonna fight a one-sided battle to get with her. I have some self-respect. I want a girl who wants to be with me as much as I want to be with her

[Rei13]

Generally speaking if he likes you you’ll know. He’ll put in the effort and at least try. If a guy doesn’t like you then you’re more likely to question if he likes you are not and he won’t put in effort

[WonderingManII]

I would say no, because no man wants to be accused of being a stalker or something worse by a Woman! There was a Woman in my life that I thought liked me because she seemed to be sending signals through teasing me. She did some other nice things for me as well... She wrote a book, and I decided to buy and read it. I was just trying to understand this Woman who has been interacting with me for 9 years. In her book she admitted that she liked to be chased. I'm not a chaser. She went away for 5 months and came back to where I worked for a visit. I wanted to see how she was doing, but I also didn't want to interrupt her conversations with the other Women. So I passed her once, to see if it was really her or not. And then I moved locations, cause I clean the building, just so maybe when she got done talking, I might get a chance to say something. She noticed that I did this, and reported me to my boss. I decided right then and there, I am never going to try interacting with her again! Later I quit my job.

[MrOracle]

No, that's ridiculous. There are plenty of reasons why a man would want a woman but not "make it happen, no matter what."

That's just one of a billion ways that women remove all accountability and responsibility from themselves and put it on men instead. The truth is that BOTH people have to make an effort and have to sacrifice and put the other person ahead of themselves. If you think you can just sit and let the other person do all the work, you're just going to end up being single and lonely.

[MontBlanc]

I don’t think it’s that absolute.

Effort matters, yes. When someone genuinely wants you, you’ll usually feel consistency and intention.

But “no matter what” sounds romantic not always realistic.

People still have circumstances, limitations, fears.

To me, what matters isn’t grand pursuit, it’s whether their actions align with their words over time. That’s what makes things real.

[lightbulb27]

no. and that concept is flawed don't buy into it.

the problem is the woman assumes the guy is all sorted out and knows what he wants. he may be dealing with his own issues and false thoughts. such women believing that are shooting their feet off.

It may depend upon what it is you want. I see lots of women fumble the ball so to speak where other women succeed... because they don't believe false ideas but more go after what they want.

[capriVib]

If the desire is mutual, then yes he will make an effort and try to make it happen. But

if it’s one-sided and only the man wants it, then no. No matter how attractive or desirable the woman is, chasing someone who doesn’t feel the same is nothing but self-inflicted pain. No one is irreplaceable, and there are always other options out there.

[WhitneySnow]

He will try. Whether it works is up to you and the universe. That being said, work, family (especially children) and other things that are really important to him may interfere with his plans to be with you.

Bottom line: that’s not always true

[ABitShattered]

Yes. But it's also a two way street in my opinion. Love pursued but not reciprocated isn't something that can bloom. If a man wants you, and desires you, and feels that his efforts to win you over are honored, wanted, desired, then he will be yours in my opinion

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

I don't think so
Everything has to be aligned n whoever we choice we make them feel like we have put efforts
As obviously we don't date everyone who hit on us !! Ones we select we sell it as we have put efforts to make it right if we say it's easy n it is what it is.. u wouldn't respect it

[midnightmoon05]

Prince Harry gave up his throne to be with her. And other examples.
in real life, a friend - plain looking… extremely ambiguous… the guy chased her for 11 years. They finally got married.
so a few exceptions

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah if you both like each other and he makes excuses like this isn't right or some excuse.. Then he just isn't that into you because most men don't want someone else have what they want.

[sage2021]

I've watched that movie many times and I believe that it's very true!!

If you want to see how it happens, watch the movie "The Sweetest Thing."

It's a great funny love story.

[aceleon]

umm no, just unrealistic movie romance.

guys are human, their capabilities are severely restricted, we can't JUST MAKE İT HAPPEN NO MATTER WHAT.

[WindAtMyBack]

That's not true at all. Some men are incapable of making it happen. Plus if she's not into him, it's not going to happen either.

[FreyaRed]

No. People are inconsistent in their desires, deeds and emotions.

[ElenaSeluna]

For sure, that’s what I experienced in my life at least

[serious]

It would depend on the man but yes it maybe true for some men.

[bowenw]

It is true in my opinion that a guy will do everything in his power to make it happen, but it still requires interest on the woman's part.

[TonyMetal___86]

He can try but it doesn't mean that he's going to be successful, the theory is wrong, because what if a man fell for you but you didn't share the same feelings towards him, sooo 🤷🏻‍♂️

[slatyb]

If someone is interested, man or woman, they will make time.

[Shiprex]

He will probably TRY but if there's pushback it's risky he'll walk.

[exitseven]

not always. Sometimes circumstances happen and it jus isn't possibe.

[msc545]

I don't think it's necessarily true. Some men are smart enough to give up when they are ahead.

[_Troian_]

Its not, simply if you waiting for a move from him then give him signals first

[fish5505_87]

Nope, I regret not going after a couple people! In hindsight, that is!

[foxsquirrell]

I don't know about that. I think it should be mutual.

[MereAnarchy]

A man is '%*&! Yes' or 'No'. Boys equivocate.

[madhatters4]

no that's not true.

[nastyb]

for vast majority of cases, yes

[LiamJHayden]

Not in my experience.

[jahaims]

Real life isn't a movie, grow up

[Mike_Hum]

yup. It's true.

[flowery_gurl]

Maybe true

[CrazyRay43]

Nope…grow up

[MissSunshine2]

I was asking a question…geez. Someone is getting a little hot under the collar lol