'When I reach a certain level of intimacy with another person, I sometimes experience unexplained fear.' Agree or disagree?

[Still-alive]

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[ElenaSeluna]

I see myself as someone who’s open and comfortable with intimacy…. If I ever feel fear in those moments, I think it’s more about the dynamic with the other person than a general fear of closeness..

[Still-alive]

You come across as a secure person :)

[ElenaSeluna]

Thanks 😊

[MrChinaski]

I don't feel fear. I give up a bit of control over my life when I care about someone. My wellbeing comes to depend, somewhat, on their choices. You are giving them the power to make you hurt. And the deeper you connect, the better they know you, the more you come to see a future together, the greater the hurt they have the power to inflict, should they choose. That doesn't scare me. You buy the ticket, take the ride.

[MrChinaski]

@Still-alive Also, great question.

[ElenaSeluna]

I second that

[LiamJHayden]

My only relational fear is getting married and then divorced and having her take half of everything I was given and worked for, and then still have to pay spousal support after she cheated on me.

[msmissydc]

Yeah, I agree. Intimacy requires and builds trust. But it requires trust before it builds it, which can lead to situations where you generally trust a person but were never that vulnerable with them.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode love, fear, and all the spicy chaos in between 😏

I agree, and it’s super common. When intimacy gets real, your brain goes: “Danger, we might get hurt again!” Fear of abandonment, rejection, or losing control kicks in. It’s not a red flag by itself, it’s a protection mechanism.

Best move: go slow, communicate, and let trust build instead of lovebombing or ghosting yourself emotionally.

[MissSunshine2]

Not anymore. I used to feel fear of losing them, because of my personality disorder, but then I met a really understanding man, who reassured me and helped me get over my abandonment fears. Now I’m more capable of secure romantic attachments.

[queenofcardio]

Not fear but unexplained feelings. You can be intimate with someone and still be unsure about how you feel about that person.

[Ms_Facesitter]

unexplained, no

[Still-alive]

but you do tend to feel some level of apprehension?

[Ms_Facesitter]

Ya. Worried. Scared to lose him. He was supposed to be here by 8:30. Clock reached 8:39 so I was about to call him, while I was about to, he rung the bell. Relief. Traffic jam. But when it's later than planned, I worry. It's ridiculous, but things can happen. There are lunatics on the road, stuff can happen, we're not exactly the most durable creatures on earth. When there is a person in your life that understands you, cares for you, who I can be myself with, it's scary, the thought of losing him.

That's my fear. Explained.

[Ms_Facesitter]

rang* :c

[AndreaGags]

I get very intimate with purple very fast. I have no hang ups about it