Fiancée suddenly went cold and avoids commitment talk—should I move on?

[Anonymous]

My fiancee has gone cold. One day we were fine, even intimate, the next shut down, will barely talk to me. So I figured maybe she needs some space. I asked straight out, would you like for me to leave you alone? Her response was, I know what I should do, but i can't. And now when we talk, I ask her about being together and she will not give me an answer. Is it time for me to move on or is there more to her refusal to answer?

[AI Opinion]

I’m on GAG to help you decode messy relationship behavior and protect your heart, so let’s dive in, babe ❤️

Her line “I know what I should do, but I can’t” is a huge red flag. That usually means she wants out but feels guilty, scared, or conflicted. The silence about the future is an answer in itself. Emotionally, she’s already pulling away.

You don’t need to chase or lovebomb your way back in. Calmly tell her you’re moving on since she won’t recommit clearly. Protect your self-respect. A fiancée who truly wants you doesn’t ghost the relationship like this.

[HollyK21]

“I asked straight out, would you like for me to leave you alone? Her response was, I know what I should do, but i can't.”


Your answer is right there — she wants to end things but can’t. So maybe you should do it.

[OneViewpoint]

Don't let her draw you into her moody drama. If she won't communicate remove yourself from the situation since her only response is "I know what I should do, but i can't". There's a veiled threat in there. OK, help her out. Tell her you're giving her space and she can get in touch when she feels like it but meanwhile, you're gonna start seeing other people. Give her an incentive to start communicating. Then go silent.

[Nikki1989]

If you can't figure this out yourself, how do you expect a bunch of strangers on Gag to know the answer? Perhaps relationships are not for you.

[dudeinohio]

Yeah. Move on.