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What relationship boundaries feel fair when a partner follows Instagram models?

In the past I wanted to get married but I do have my own boundaries. People might say I’m insecure but it’s not it’s what I find icky. For example if I have a boyfriend he can’t follow Instagram models, but he can follow his female friends and he can look at women in public as long as he don’t keep staring at them. To me if I were in a relationship I’m willing to be dedicated therefore I expect him to be too otherwise it feels one sided. Instagram models use photoshop, filters and also plastic surgery to achieve those ideal beauty standards, in the past I used to follow 2 female Instagram models and 3 male models then after doing research that they all get plastic surgery because surprise men with tons of Instagram followers also get plastic surgery too I unfollowed them. In relationships communication is key according to my best friend who has a committed boyfriend. The thing is if women have a say in it when it comes to what they find a turn off they’re automatically be deemed as insecure as though women should keep their mouths shut about what they don’t like and accept it. Again there are women who are perfectly fine with their men following Instagram models or other half naked influencers so as long they don’t feel upset deep down why not? There’s no right or wrong answer for that it depends on the women. Some won’t mind while others do, the problem is when a woman says what she don’t find comfortable in a relationship she either gets gaslight or he pretends to agree with her then secretly does stuff behind her back. I’m not here to judge those who allow their men to follow those women since as long as their relationship is going well if they’re happy that’s fine with me I have no complaints. The thing is it’s not easy to find a man who understands me and respects me partly it’s because of temptation and other stuff but I don’t want to say all men are the same who can’t live without following Instagram models, etc because that will be generalising.

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There also men who chose not to do it and are willing to keep those promises.
If I found out the man I’m dating makes fake promises and follows those models I wouldn’t get upset or nag at him I will simply say we should break since we are not suitable for each other rather than argue and fight because it’s not right to have conflicts when the better solution is to break up.
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The reason why I choose to stay single is because of my autism and that only the extremely few men will accept me without judgement. But relationships comes with challenges, surprisingly I find being single is much easier for me and it keeps me calm and peaceful. If I receive any insulting remarks here I will ignore them since this will be my last question before deleting this account.
What relationship boundaries feel fair when a partner follows Instagram models?
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