So I'm 28 anti social and a virgin looking for advice.

[Kaitou]

I was anti-social in high school and never really managed to get a girl friend, not that I've stopped being anti social however I've only had one friend that was a girl since then and I wasn't really attracted to her.

Honestly I've been trying online sites like e-harmony but that just seems to dead end more times then not and beyond the rejection dynamic I have a few insecurities that center around some dark patches in my life, things I think eventually I'd have to share with a partner but at the same time I'd find hard to disclose due to their nature and implications...

for the most part I'm an otherwise normal guy, just a bit of a homebody and gamer/internet junkie I do however keep in shape and have a wide variety of interests.

[killbenlanier]

Don't try to find someone on a dating site. Women only get on them because they crave attention or to talk sh*t because they're bitter from all their failed relationships. Don't share that you're a virgin though.

[Kaitou]

eh, the few site's I'm going through now don't display anything close to women talking about how this and that didn't work out for them, and yeah I haven't been disclosing that fact, its somewhat embarrassing... my main problem with the few sites I have used communication just seems to dead end.

[killbenlanier]

Well, are there any women in your work place? And what are your interests?

[Kaitou]

No, and mostly fantasy/sci fi anime manga and video games. my interests don't really get me out much save for the occasional comic con.

[killbenlanier]

Well, keep your eyes peeled at Comic Con. There's plenty of them there.

[Habakkuk]

that's simple, find a girl who's 'waiting for marriage' lol

[Kaitou]

yeah, its not like I'm not trying /sigh more to the point I guess I'm looking for advice in meeting those kinds of people I guess?

[Habakkuk]

hmm... well, what do you do for a living, what do you do outside of the house? for me it's easy because I have to go to school, where girls are abundant.. they literally find you if you're in the right place at the right time

[Kaitou]

I'm in the navy, more specifically the submarine force, kind of limited to guys only atm so at work encounters are rare, I only really go to the bar maybe 1-2x a year when I go out with people from work, otherwise I stay at home, most of my friends are from work and married, most of their wives are either friends with other wives or cut off ties with their single friends =.=

[Habakkuk]

oh god, the submarine force? I thought the army was bad, that sounds like a total sausage fest. Maybe you could turn gay? lol sorry, I'm terrible at this whole advice thing

[Kaitou]

lol its fine... yeah grew up hating school became anti social, did 2 years of college joined the navy, ended up in submarines furthermore I didn't get to see the world due to some details that take too long to explain, mainly I'm too much of a home body, and really the few times I do encounter the opposite gender I have no clue when I should and shouldn't try to hit on some one... much less if they are old enough for me to be hitting on >.< and yeah... guys really aren't my thing.

[Habakkuk]

funny, there's always that stigma that people in the military, specifically the navy get laid all the time

[Kaitou]

meh, think I'm a rare exception, stereo types are what they are because they are usually true...

[Habakkuk]

lol not for my brother, he's in the army and is an uber nerd

[landrys]

Don't be afraid to talke to girls. W love it when guys talk to us and even more when y'all listen to us, Just be yourself that special girl is out there somewhere :)

[Kaitou]

when's a good time to ummm ask for a girls number then? is it a bad time to try when they are working or w/e?

[landrys]

It honestly depends on the mood she is in, if she's at work amd has a good positive vibe going ...compliment her that she's doing a good job and then ask for her number , I'm prettty sure you will get it . Good Luck :)