Right now we're about 4 hours apart when driving, for most of our time he was about one hour away when at school. There's a chance that he's going to be getting his first real job and it's going to be in a different part of the country and the driving time would increase to about 11+ hours.
As I said, I love and am "in love" with my boyfriend. However, I've known that he's not "the one" for me for a variety of reasons. We have different views on politics, family size/ rearing, settling down locations, career goals, life style vs. income, religion/ spirituality, etc. However, I believe the ideas that you can learn from every relationship and not every one is meant to be a lifetime - either friendship or romantic. I don't feel like we're "done" yet and I'm not afraid to keep this going if it lasts another 3 years or however long - if there's love, why end it? We do have things in common and have introduced new things to each other and started new interests together, but I know there's more things against us lasting than staying together in the long run. We work for now, and we have a healthy/ loving relationship, so that's good for now.
However, the distance has always frustrated me. I'm really scared the increase in distance will make us more disconnected. I doubt we'd be able to afford to visit each other as often - which is only once a month or less. I've never had a serious relationship that was close by, but I know that I long to be able to randomly meet up or cook dinner with each other - the "little things".
PERSONAL EXPERIENCE AND ADVICE to share about long distance relationships?!? Success stories? Warning signs? TIPS? Should I end it because I know he's not "the one" for me? Should we tough it out until it doesn't work? Should we reevaluate if/ when he moves? How long have some of your relationships lasted when they're completely long distance - never having lived close together and no plans to move for each other? PLEASE HELP! :(
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Long distance is hard but if you really love this person, it doesn’t mean anything. My boyfriend lived 12 hours from me and I would jump on a bus/train every chance I got to just be with him because I love him and he’s worth the brutal rides. But you’re unsure about your future and that’s going to be your downfall. If honestly, you don’t see a future with this person there is no reason to pursue the relationship. But just because you have different beliefs in a lot of life changing events, doesn’t mean the relationship is over. It’s all about compromising. He gives a little, you give a little. At the end of the day, love is love and in today’s society it’s really hard to find someone that you can click with on all levels. If you feel in your heart, he’s worth it, just stick with it. It always works out.