I've known this guy a few years and we've always both been interested in each other but are both really quite shy in the relationships department. So, it took two years to get to us both expressing interest in each other and since then we've seen each other on and off and neither of us is seeing anyone else. Then a few months ago he went totally weird on me about commitment - although I had never suggested it. So, we didn't speak for a few weeks because I said I needed to get over him if it was never going to really go somewhere. I didn't do a very good job of getting over him and then last weekend we ended up in the same bar. So, before I knew it we were both at his flat having this really intense chat about how he feels like he's crap at relationships, he's afraid he'll get hurt, I am too good for him, but he can't stay away because he cares so much. Now, he never normally talks about emotions and has a ver strict religious background (which I am not a part of) so, as a result, has never had a girlfriend and he is 31. I stayed at the flat (no sex - just lots of hugs and closeness) and we had a wee kiss and cuddle in the morning. Now he is being totally weird about all the commitment stuff again and is sure I'd dump him in the end. Any suggestions about how to handle this guy most welcome. I love him so walking away is not an option for now. Although I will say I am currently standing back for a few days and not contacting him to try to allow him to sort his head back out again. I just don't know if that's the right thing to do. Help!
Do you think you're confused on these matters and your feelings?
He wants assurance and to be honest to be in relationship with you at the moment may not be ideal. You should support him on his emotions by firstly helping him direct it to where it matters most, you. Then tell him how you feel. He should be able to communicate if he is either receptive or rejective of the emotions surrounding the two of you. But this will only happen if you can both be honest with each other.
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Simply spend more time with him.
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