I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over 2 years and living with him for 1.5 years. For various reasons I don't feel comfortable with our situation and part of me really wants to break up with him. He has big temper tantrums and often explodes at me over nothing and then tells me I am pathetic and a weak person for not standing up for myself more. He sometimes even makes me cry but is always super apologetic later, and I forgive him but I'm starting to get sick of this cycle, it's really tiring. I've talked to him about marriage, he's not down (at least not yet) and I'm not totally cool just living with someone forever and not getting married, I totally regret living with him in the first place but at the time I had nowhere to go.
The sex is really unsatisfying too. He is a big premature ejaculator and most of the time sex is only a minute or less, I'm serious. I've tried talking to him about it but he gets really defensive and offended and makes me feel like he can't control it at all and I'm a terrible person for being that shallow and bringing it up. But I just don't want this to be my sex life from now until forever.
I feel really stuck but I don't know how to move out because I live with him. I feel so overwhelmed. I know I made him seem not so great, but he has his great moments. A lot of the time he is very sweet and kind. He cooks a lot, cleans and is a hard worker and never late with rent. I feel like I don't have a good enough reason to break up with him? But I have noticed I don't feel I love him like I used to and I have started to get really big crushes on other people. I don't know how much of this is normal in a long term relationship. But I'm feeling like I am just too young to feel this stuck and I would like to get out. Does anyone have any suggestions?
The sex is really unsatisfying too. He is a big premature ejaculator and most of the time sex is only a minute or less, I'm serious. I've tried talking to him about it but he gets really defensive and offended and makes me feel like he can't control it at all and I'm a terrible person for being that shallow and bringing it up. But I just don't want this to be my sex life from now until forever.
I feel really stuck but I don't know how to move out because I live with him. I feel so overwhelmed. I know I made him seem not so great, but he has his great moments. A lot of the time he is very sweet and kind. He cooks a lot, cleans and is a hard worker and never late with rent. I feel like I don't have a good enough reason to break up with him? But I have noticed I don't feel I love him like I used to and I have started to get really big crushes on other people. I don't know how much of this is normal in a long term relationship. But I'm feeling like I am just too young to feel this stuck and I would like to get out. Does anyone have any suggestions?
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