Me and him have dated for a year, lived together for 6 months. We met at a time when we were both ready to get on the property ladder and after some debating we considered buying together since we are both high income (same salary) so we can potentially flip the house or pay it off very quickly. We of course would have lawyers and contracts in place to prevent any issues. He seemed excited to buy together at first and even arranged all the viewings. Then as we start closing in on the property he randomly starts acting weird. He doesn’t tell me why at first but after me pressuring him, he tells me he isn’t ready because he feels like he hasn’t lived enough having just gotten out of a 5 year relationship prior which was very very settled. He tells me he wants to experience life and travel for 6 months and asks me to come with him.
Whilst I understand his need to travel, I am not so certain as to whether that is the real reason he is putting everything on pause because: 1. we already have a long vacation coming up and other trips can be arranged if needed 2. his reasons for why he put it on pause changed, the next day for example he said, it is because he feels like I want the house for practical reasons and not because I want it with him. Then he tells me that he was afraid of the commitment because he wants to be my last and only and I kept coming up with contracts and plan Bs for the house if things fall apart. Then he said it is because he doesn’t want to be stuck in the same location and job for another few years. 3. He also mentioned that he feels like we moved in together too quickly although he said he enjoys living with me.
I can understand his fears but I feel like a lot of them should be overridden by the fact that he likes me. I’m afraid that if I join him on that trip I will just delay the inevitable (him realising he is not ready to commit). Besides all I said, in the relationship itself he does treat me really well so now I’m confused.
