Why is my love life so hard? Am I cursed? Any way to break that curse?

[Anonymous]

I'm very attractive, talented, educated, have a good job,financially independent with a kind heart. However my love life has been very rough, I've been in a few relationship with some emotional abuser.

After that I've been dating and those guys are either in long distance or they are emotionally unavailable.

I asked a person out which I believe there's mutual attraction. He was blushing when I ask him out but he is not allowed to socialized with clients so he had to say no to me I can tell he wish he is allowed to go out with me as well.

Why is it so hard to meet someone with mutual attraction?

[martyfellow]

You need to break out of your work life, which commonly has the sort of restrictions you mention..join new clubs for people with your interests, travel, study a new skill...

Guys you meet randomly and aren't attached, are likely to be emotionally unavailable for a variety of reasons..that's why they are unattached!

Classes are good places to find the type of people that aren't abusive.

[Asker]

Actually I met all the emotional abusive ex from college ><

[martyfellow]

Try classes for people who aren't just enrolled, but who have a real interest in the subject. Foreign language classes for adults, for example!

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Because you continually make bad choices. You have to identify what in your personality is making you choose these unavailable (or worse) people and work on those aspects of your personality. Be aware of the cycle you are in and do the opposite.

[Asker]

I don't choose them on purpose.. but it seems like the eligible one always comes with some sort of issue.. or the perfect one like the one I just asked out is not allowed to soliceze with client or he lose his jobs... just bad luck with this particular guy I guess... :(

[Anonymous]

It's not hard at all. To break this curse, you need to move out of town. That's the best way to meet new, fresh guys.