Tough call. You can keep him on a short leash for a while and see if he was giving in to curiosity weakness. He may have never done anything physical, but cheating is almost always mental long before it becomes physical. The internet has created a lot of temptations that didn't exist 15 years ago or so that pique the curiosities of a lot of people. Probably more often than not it leads to nothing, but it is never good, and it does cause real changes in behavior and stresses in relationships even when it is not known by the other partner. I know, this happened in my relationship. My guy is great, but for a while he was being kind of shifty and he was kind of distant, if you know what I mean. It turned out he was getting into online porn, chatroom stuff, and I think he also signed up for some of those sites, but never actually did anything because they seemed too much like actually crossing the line. At least that is what he told me, and I gave him the benefit of the doubt, and thus far he has not disappointed me. I think he has changed, because since then our relationship has improved quite a bit, but occasionally I wonder if he has had a little relapse. It is serious, and I say proceed with caution. It may be premature to end things for good, but be on guard.
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Regardless of if he met this women or not it's still disrespectful to you. If this is something you don't think you can work through than I would not move in with him. After 8 years, that sort of thing should not be happening. Not only that but he lied to you by omission. That is one of the most annoying ways to lie in my opinion because now you will be asking yourself what else he has lied to you about. Can you see yourself trusting him again?
"...respectful, gentleman, sweet, always listened to me, in general...I thought he was the PERFECT man."
1. I would be careful with someone who wears a facade as "perfect" as this. When someone says s/he comes from a perfect family, an experienced listener knows that what the person is saying, is "I come from a dysfunctional family".
This is only one of the things you discover. With things like these, what is spotted is often the tip of the iceburg. Where is the rest of the iceburg ?
2. Did you ask him why he did those things ? What did he say ?
So in these 8 years you didn't understood the guy well.
Shy and quiet personality always possess a naughty part in their mind.
Their desires and goals are already fulfilled in mind.
Its hard to understand such guys.
I think you must let it be OK since he never let you down in your mind.
If you have strong love towards him he will leave all these craps and will start a new world with you.
Thnx
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