Questions: Relationships

Should emotional puzzle pieces align just right.. after all... easy feels good...

If so, it means you don't have to change...

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I've had a friendzone that felt... so easy going, fun, no pain. I learned nothing... time went by... I don't recall changing as I wasn't challenged emotionally as I remained in my comfort zone... one conditioned from the wounds of life. Do you feel fine as you are? My "soul mate" as one described, was a match from hell. She enabled me to be suspended in my flawed state of being as time wasted away.

I've had two romantic relationships since wit lots of pain, the dangling friendzone was poison, but real issues resulted from my emotional flaws in intimate relationships.

My girlfriend today challenges me on moral, value, integrity. She saw foundation cracks early... testing my perceptions was hard, I denied when she tested... avoidance, perception. It hurt her greatly to struggle against "the waves" of my wounded subconscious. I changed, after hours or weeks of fighting.

Serious flaws in my deeper inner self were exposed like the archeologists uncover old relics. Wounds of long ago, stuff that felt "normal" in me, controlled me... limited me... guided me in the wrong directions. Fear... of intimacy, shame. Trusting the wrong people and mis trusting... traced to early life bonding issues with mother. Avoidant personality, passive aggressive... wounds from being sensitive and being hurt and inability to fight back. Just a few. The roots of all is deep emotional wounding in childhood. Point being...

I was warned about how relationships are... work. I didn't understand. Being challenged with love is good.. for your own and mutual growth! Does it end? Is life like a game of donkey kong... conquor one level to get to another, try not to fall down to the bottom... or jump when it's too hard.

Ghosting: the practice of ending a relationship/friendship abruptly without communication or closure and with passive-aggressively ignoring communication from the other party.

I have seen on instagram some really pretty girls are in a relationship with below average looking guys. And by seeing them anyone can tell they could've done better.

And don't say "looks don't matter, you should have beautiful heart ❤️".

coz it does matter! Even on GAG so many girls have confessed looks do matter.

So why do they marry such ugly guys? Is it for money? Why would they do it themselves?

Hi everyone, I'm new here, but I need some advice. I'd really appreciate advice from fellow Christians on this. As well, as non-Christians, too. Please be respectful to my faith, is all I ask.
I'm a 35 year old Christian male, I met this woman (31) through a Christian app called Upward, which is a very nice Christian app. We instantly hit it off, and went to snapchat, talked/video chatted every morning and night for around 4-6 hours or more for about four months straight. She was staying with her sister in TN. She's originally from Florida. I live in KY. Fast-forward to June, she left to go see her other sister, and then back down to Florida to empty storage units she had. I don't feel she has ever been a super loving, sweet woman, but when she got back to Florida her personality went from a 6-7 on harsh, to what I feel is like a 8 or 9. As June progressed, I started becoming very stressed about her. My bloodpressure started having bad spikes. She would say she's crying, and having bad dreams about her ex. When she was in TN, she'd always ask me to not leave, and leave the webcam on while she slept. I obliged, and done this A LOT, would just pray or read the Bible for an hour until I was sure she was sound asleep.(Just to be clear, we did no sexual activity together. I'm a virgin, and staying that way until marriage.) Everything I basically said to her as she's in Florida started to be wrong, not right, and this is the conversation, which was the last straw. I could no longer take it, and that night I blocked her, except from my phone. She wasn't able to sleep early morning of this day, and I was working out. I stopped my workout, and helped her talk about her ex for around an hour or two, for she could fall back to sleep. This was that afternoon, when I was exhausted, and wanted to take my shower and then sleep. This is just one conversation. This is the first woman I've ever dated. Is this normal?

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I am turning 27 in like a week, and I never had a real girlfriend before. I still live at home, and I am trying to gain more independence. I decided to purchase a motorcoach camper to live in.

I am seeking a woman who has never had her first love. I want us to he each other's first loves. Although, I am struggling to pick up any woman. Do you think this purchase today will guarantee me a woman?