I believe that we have a duty to be grateful to God and that means thinking about the good things God has given us and the good people God has given us.
Rabbi Manis Friendman says if you invite somebody to your home and cook for them and then they don’t appreciate anything you make for them, you will never bring them to your home again, because that friend is a terribly inconsiderate guest. He said God works the same way.
If three people do good things and one person does bad things and you spend all your time bad mouthing the one who hurt you and never thank the three people who’ve helped you, than you are being ungrateful to God.
One of my enemies that I hate slandered me saying I tried to date a married man I had no interest in because he was a doctor and I dressed up when he lectured in my community centre to show respect for the doctor. I hate the woman because she is a pessimist.
She never talks about the selfless doctors who are saving lives or the missionaries who are risking themselves to create infrastructure or the people who donate and volunteer to food banks or the nurses who wear make up to work to honour and show respect for their patients.
She spends all her time talking about corrupt police officers, stupid quarantine breakers, disrespectful shoppers, self indulgent rich people and disappointing events.
It’s like for her, bitterness and hatred and anger is some kind of sick game she plays in her mind to give herself an ego boost.