The man I believe to be my twin flame and I have known each other for 3 years. I fully believe that he is my twin flame. We've never discussed this nor have we gotten physical with each other aside from 2 hugs.
The problem is that he is married with children. I really don't know if he believes in the twin flame concept or not, but his behavior fits the mold. Our friendship has been intense with a lot of push and pull. We're drawn together like magnets and can't seem to break away.
In the past he has been the runner and I was the chaser. We would get close and poof, he would cut contact for months. I would message to check on him with no response. Eventually when I gave up, he would return. We'd get closer and again he'd go cold... I'd text, etc to get no response. Well, the last time this happened I decided enough was enough. He's back again and being sweeter than ever. I'm behaving as I've always done except I'm not following his social media nor am I putting effort in to initiate contact. I've decided it's time for him to put the work in if he wants me in his life and to my surprise he is. The issue is that he's still married and while I do love him unconditionally and would do anything for him, it's getting to painful for me under these circumstances. I've decided to distance myself further because of this. I'm NOT afraid of him or the connection, it's seeing them together. It feels like a dagger to my heart. By moving on like this, does this now make me the runner? I feel like I'm moving on to protect myself from the pain of seeing them.
The other question is this. I KNOW after time goes by that he will reach out and wonder why I'm not so available for him anymore. I don't want to hurt him. I feel he deserves the truth, but at the same time I don't want to be "that" girl making love confessions to a married man. I'm sure he probably knows how I feel about him already, but to have confirmation of that would be different. Do you think I should tell him?
The problem is that he is married with children. I really don't know if he believes in the twin flame concept or not, but his behavior fits the mold. Our friendship has been intense with a lot of push and pull. We're drawn together like magnets and can't seem to break away.
In the past he has been the runner and I was the chaser. We would get close and poof, he would cut contact for months. I would message to check on him with no response. Eventually when I gave up, he would return. We'd get closer and again he'd go cold... I'd text, etc to get no response. Well, the last time this happened I decided enough was enough. He's back again and being sweeter than ever. I'm behaving as I've always done except I'm not following his social media nor am I putting effort in to initiate contact. I've decided it's time for him to put the work in if he wants me in his life and to my surprise he is. The issue is that he's still married and while I do love him unconditionally and would do anything for him, it's getting to painful for me under these circumstances. I've decided to distance myself further because of this. I'm NOT afraid of him or the connection, it's seeing them together. It feels like a dagger to my heart. By moving on like this, does this now make me the runner? I feel like I'm moving on to protect myself from the pain of seeing them.
The other question is this. I KNOW after time goes by that he will reach out and wonder why I'm not so available for him anymore. I don't want to hurt him. I feel he deserves the truth, but at the same time I don't want to be "that" girl making love confessions to a married man. I'm sure he probably knows how I feel about him already, but to have confirmation of that would be different. Do you think I should tell him?
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