Is self-love a sin after all?

[Anonymous]

I'm very confused lately. I am christian, I do believe in God but I have moments when I'm in doubt. Nowadays everyone promotes self-love and how we shouldn't settle for relationships with people that are so called toxic.

But the Bible says that we shouldn't be arrogant , or say good things about ourselves and that we should care for others more. I'm confused, am I supposed to make myself unhappy in order to care someone else? Am I supposed to not care myself?

Does it mean that if I put myself first I'm doing against what Bible say?

I'm definitely not happy since I stopped to put myself first, I settled for less and even start to think that it's ok to be treated bad.

I wasn't thinking this way before, but lately i started to see that from this self love that social media promotes and having a big ego is a fine line. I don't know anymore what is good.

[jshm2]

You're confused.

Self love is not the same as "pride" as you're thinking. It's like trying to compare trading with stealing.

Most of the "toxic" malarkey is just name calling by kids and dimwits. Usually ones with little to no real life experience, but trying to rehash and secularize what religions say on a subject.

The prime focus of any religion is improving self, and bringing self closer to God and your fellow man. It's why it differs from "cult," which is about bringing self closer to an individual instead and hoping they will do better than you. Hence why cults get shut down pretty quick.

There is no religion which places demands to be "unhappy". But you're letting yourself be lead astray if you're taking social media as any sort of yardstick. Most of that is just noise and people trying to be more than they are.

[Asker]

Thank you for your insight. Social media can really mess with people's mind and beliefs.
I try not to follow those advices anymore , better follow my heart and God's word.

[sean1234]

Ephesians 5:29 Context

26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

[Paris13]

Put God/Jesus First. Love Yourself and Your neighbor. xxoo

[Paris13]

Thanks, Gag. xxoo

[Staximus]

Self love is not having a big ego, it's just treating yourself right and not tolerating abuse. The Bible doesn't say you have to accept shitty treatment from bad people. It's not ok for people to treat you bad. The Bible doesn't say that it is.

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

Narcissism is a sin. I think the misunderstood message is that self-love = self-respect and avoiding negative self-talk in favour of positive affirmations.

[strateguy632]

bible said love others like yourself, not more than yourself. arrogance is like boastful talk. but you should recognize your good qualities in your thoughts.

[slatyb]

Opinions on that vary widely. There are thousands of Christian sects. Most Christians pick one that allows the things they enjoy.

[ChicoFromThe305]

No God says to take care of your body, which is the temple of God, but pride is a sin, usually pride is toxic because it leads to many bad decisions

[ChicoFromThe305]

Loving yourself and pride are two different things.

[msc545]

Ask your religion provider, not us.

[strateguy632]

it was anon, probably an atheist playing games to make christian look like hypocrites.
but the real hypocrites are people who pretend to be skeptics about god but are not REAL skeptics, about other stuff.
people believe the world is a ball not skeptic to accept that, not say i won't accept until "i find tangible proof" so that is hypocrisy.

[Asker]

@strateguy632 I do not understand where this assumption came from. It was a genuine question.
I am a Christian myself, exactly as I explained in my post. Do even really exist people who ask questions here just for play games?

Anyway thanks for your opinion you gave in the other reply. It was helpful.

[Asker]

I definitely will. I just wanted to hear other people's opinion as well.