A pastor I saw on YouTube said if God refuses to open a door for you, it's because there is an issue with the door you want Him to open, thoughts?

[jennifer_bloom]

I think this is true.

And I mean this is true for those in the religious world: Not those outside the religious world; since the lives of those outside the religious world is far more complex than the lives of those inside the religious world.

I find every time I liked a guy and could not date him because he was out of my league, I would later learn he had personality issues that made him undesirable as a husband, and the same, every time I did not like somebody and turned them down, I would later learn they had personality issues that made turning them down absolutely necessary to my mental health.

[Anonymous]

It’s about perspective. In the partner selection you’re talking about, the vast majority never find their dream perfect person anyway. Also, those who wait for the perfect person usually end up alone. Most of the time, the person we choose as a partner will have aspects we don’t like or even find off putting.

What needs to be done here is a cost benefit analysis if the good sides we love outweigh the bad sides, then they are a suitable partner candidate.

Speaking specifically about religion, I think most religions were created to motivate people and keep their psychology strong. The idea that not getting what we want is because it wouldn’t be good for us is not something that can be explained statistically, so we can never fully know.