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In January 2025 I was chatting to a man briefly on an app. I liked him and he suggested meeting up. Things were going fine, we talked about expectations etc. prior to meeting. He also mentioned that he’d had a stillborn baby in his last relationship. It left me speechless but I offered a lot of empathy. After that admission, he retreated a few days later and said he didn’t see us going anywhere, which contradicted everything we’d chatted about and our similar values.

Fast forward to September, he reached out again and we ended up chatting for a couple of months every day. He arranged a date with me. The pace was slower this time, we didn’t jump right into talking about the serious stuff. Consistency was there, he was incredibly kind. We met for the first date and it was nice. We laughed, he told me a little more about what he’s been through (loss of brother, rehab, stillborn baby, loss of partner, rehab and then turning his life around). We made physical contact and hugged and he told me I looked lovely. He arranged a second date before the first ended and I met him again. We chatted a bit more, not too much in-depth but enough for me to know he liked me. We admitted we liked and were attracted to each other. We hugged again and before that date was over he arranged the third. We met for our third and went to the cinema. When he said goodbye I could feel more closeness in his hug and goodbye. This time he never arranged a fourth date.

I noticed more intimacy in his replies after this date and he said he hadn’t been sure whether to kiss me. I said I was happy for that to unfold naturally. But after the kiss question? I noticed a slight stall, things weren’t moving. When I asked if he still had time for dating, he deflected the question back to me and side-stepped. Basically saying we’d been busy and that distance doesn’t help along with us not being ‘excited’ to talk to each other. A bizarre reply, because it contradicted his actions completely.

This has happened for the third time
The first time was someone I worked with he was obsessed with me we had sex for around two weeks then he just went weird. The time we had sex first he lasted 3 seconds then the next time was about 5 mins and much better.

Then I had a date from someone who messaged me who is never met on social media and we had sex. He lasted about 3 seconds and I accidentally laughed at him. He did try to come over again but I was alseep by the time he got to my house. Then he tried again but I was fed up with him taking ages to reply.

Then the third was someone messaging me again and he lasted a lot longer about 5 mins first time maybe less. Then we had sex multiple times that night but again he’s ghosted me

Why does this keep happening? They all say I’m super pretty and the sex is amazing but then it ends like this. I do have 3 kids and don’t want a relationship and have said I’m not closed to it but not seeking it.

Am I that bad looking and the sex that bad?