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I’m 41 and I’m still in excellent shape. Reason being I exercise daily and I usually stick to a very healthy diet.

Anyway I became more self conscious about not showing my body off in pics or in public by my mid 30s. I don’t really feel comfortable going shirtless even at a beach/pool.

I do have one shirtless pic showing my abs off but it’s never something I will show a woman right away. I usually will show it once if she shows me a few suggestive pics (I don’t like nudes tbh but it’s nice to see what kind of body she has). Definitely not something I keep on social media though

Anyway I am well aware of the “creep” element guys my age have to watch out for. We got a lot less leeway vs guys in their early 20s on all of this.

But at the same time I’m wondering if I’m sometimes shortchanging myself by keeping an attractive asset I still have hidden. Is there a way to let a woman know about this without looking immature/creepy?

And yes I am well aware how women care about personality, drive, humor, money etc. Don’t need a lecture of on that. But this is one thing that can make me go from a 7 to an 8 on a pure physical attraction scale. But if done wrong it can look very bad.

From my observations this is more possible for women but for men I dunno.

I am really struggling right now because I could date a woman I really love (as a person) and deeply respect. She’s honest, smart and hard working. She definitely likes me. She’s also a in her late 20s which is an ideal dating range for me

But I just feel little physical attraction towards her and it’s for reasons that are out of her control (facial features). Makes me feel like crap with self-frustration.

I hate judging people on things they have zero control over. Different story if it was a solvable problem i. e. she was obese.

Is attraction to others supposed to stop when you commit to each other in a relationship? I'm not talking about actually pursuing a sexual relationship with someone else; I am strictly talking about feeling the stirrings of a physical attraction. Do you think your partner has done something wrong if they feel attracted to someone else?