How important is it for you to be physically fit, especially in a relationship?

[letuswaltzforthedead]

I've seen a multitude of people lisiting physical attraction as important before dating. Especially with online dating as usually you only have a few pictures to go off at first. Mostly on apps you see people listing a lack of clear pictures of the person's face and not having full body pictures as a red flag. There is also the idea of a excercise date (Studies have actually shown that couples like eachother more after physical activity together, but that's couples, not dates). Would you do it? Have you achieved your dream body before?

[Phoenix98]

It’s important for me both inside out and outside of a relationship.

The relationship reasons is I wanna stay attractive and fit for myself but also my partner. Working out also increases blood flow, stamina and testosterone which is good for your sex life.

reasons outside of a relationship are I need to stay in shape for my job I do manual labor so staying in shape is important for that. I’m also a martial artist and fighter and I benefit from working out in that respect. And it helps with just general health and fitness among other things.

And i just enjoy working out.

[bamesjond0069]

Im quite hot. Girlfriends usually are always afraid if they drop the ball ill replace them. So its a huge benefit to keeping a relationship to be sexy and confident as a man.

Also i can tell what girls truly care about me and which dont. Those that do encourage me to stick to my meal plans and hit the gym when im slacking... while those that don't care about me try and feed me junk food and get me to skip the gym. Then i know they are just immature and want to drag me down and are low quality women.

[EarthRealm]

Woah 😳 your Lusting for yourself that ain’t normal
Have you been to the doctor?

[bamesjond0069]

@EarthRealm not yet but ill have to soon since i got mysel pregnant. Lol

[EarthRealm]

Yeah probably best to smoke MugWort then to force a miscarriage to happen 😆

[Xoxocutekitty]

Less important now that I'm in a relationship.

When im single, I work hard to keep busy and 'productive' so I always have something interesting or improving to talk about. I work hard, lose weight, party more.

Now that life is pretty stable, I'm focusing more on relaxing, reading, eating good food, and keeping a cleanish house while clocking in and out.

[Sour-rose]

Well definitely important to me. I don't believe I could stand a person who doesn't exercise nor even just touch grass for a few hours. My mind will scream "they don't move... they have nothing but becoming a couch potato with no money. Leave. Now."

I mean if she keeps active and doesn't stop moving due to a small inconvenience, I think I'll stay with her

[EmyyWolf]

I used to not care, but then I learned that being unmotivated is a sign of depression, or social anxiety.

So if you don’t care about your physical well being, eating normal non packaged food, non fluoride water, getting enough sleep, enough sun, and daily exercise…

Then you need to check your mental health. See a therapist or psychologist and get on some meds. Get the help you need.

Also laziness could LEAADDD -> To Developing Depression. One doesn’t work without the other.

[sheenagwapa]

i remember when i join this ste before i think i was 28 years old at that time i was 47 kilos and i still feel fat. then i gain then lose then gain. i also keep changinh my body goals. when i was in elementary up to second yr college i struggle to gaij weight and there are times i would stuff my mouth with a lot of rice and then i would cry. i only gain weight when i had a boyfriend. but when i discover yt vlogs that's when i push myself that slim is better.


and that's also the time i keep experimenting what diet works for me. i never stop experimenting despite my super tight budget. i don't like a diet that is not sustainable. i think two years ago i lose around 10 kilod. my diet requires money ya know. money is something i do not have.


i also cannot go to the gym because of severe back pain i tried but i just end up wantinh to cry.


i am confident that one day i will get my desired body or at least the body fat percentage.

[Moose304]

As a man being physically fit does not mean I can bench press 400+ pounds. I do lift weights, but I do weight lifting to stay toned. In general, staying physically fit male or female means you eat right, limit junk food, and get plenty of exercise. I am spending the day with an American Airlines Flight Attendant who is 40 something. Both of us spend time in a gym. There is no real way to say this nicely, but I won't date a female that won't take the time to take care of her body. I simply refuse to invest the time.

[Moose304]

After some thought, I want to add more to this. I don't know what upsets me more. A person male or female that stinks because they won't take a damn bath. This can be a gross subject, but several weeks ago I was visiting a friend who was hosting his sister and her husband. She was wearing a dress and I was sitting about 5 feet from her. When she stood up the feminine order that came out of that dress almost gagged me. I came up with an excuse and left. This kind of crap is like fingernails scratching a blackboard.

[SaraSmithishere]

I am really into fitness and wellness. I don’t most people realize that if you don’t eat well, especially as a woman, your body can leech calcium from your bones, your health can deteriorate, and that you’re susceptible to so many other ailments. Also, if you have a strong back, core, and lower body, you won’t be in pain. I know too many people my age who think that being in pain is a normal part of life... like, they sit at their desk jobs, skip out at the gym, develop terrible posture, and Blame it on aging

[Bluethinker456]

That's so true! Which kind of workout or sports do you practice? And how often?

[Lliam]

Physical fitness is important for self esteem and attractiveness but it's also necessary for good sex. A person has to have flexibility and stamina, and guys, in particular, need physical strength for awesome sex. That doesn't mean that people have to have professional athlete/movie star bods or be gym rats.

[Jay3344]

I think it’s very important on an almost primal level to be in decent shape when trying to attract or create attraction. For most people we use our eyes to evaluate the world around us and so we look at perspective partners or our own partner and consciously and subconsciously take in what we see. More things are at play but the visual is usually first. So yes I think it’s important. But personality and feeling, chemistry and communication, these things should not fall by the wayside just because of looks. They are just as important and more important for sustaining a relationship with someone.

[Datboi65]

Extremely important. The way I see it, being fit as a man isn't just for attraction, but it has practical use as well. Fighting requires stamina. If I'm gonna be the protector, then I gotta be able to survive 12 rounds in a boxing ring without gassing out. Strength is needed to carry out heavy equipment.

At this point I'm somewhat fit, but I'm trying to get to the next level.

[Staximus]

The average street fight doesn't last 12 rounds, smart guy. It lasts about 2 minutes. You don't get nice little gloves and mouthpieces or a nice cushy mat to fall on. You get broken hands and teeth knocked out, kicked in the balls and poked in the eye, tackled, falling in concrete, choked, bites, etc. Learning to fight for real you can avoid a lot of that by ending it quickly if you're good enough. There are no nice rules in a street fight like competitive boxing or mma. Anything goes. By training with rules you are programming yourself not to do certain things in a fight.

[Datboi65]

@Staximus And I'm totally aware. A lot of people might think that my mindset is overkill, but I don't care what anybody says. You need the stamina to survive, and fighting requires stamina. That's the whole point. Even if you weren't boxing and the person was trying to grapple you to take you down, you will need to have enough stamina to not get tired easily, and wrestle your way out of it, and that comes with training. I never mentioned rules either, in a real fight I can go for your eye, nose, neck or whatever, but that's besides the point. Physical fitness is important if you want to protect your spouse.

[Slartybartfast]

@Staximus you are correct, I've been in more street fights than I can remember. They usually last seconds. Honestly I survived by neighborhood by running away a lot lol.
At six two 220 pounds of muscle the last time I hit a man (just once) I had to check his pulse afterwards.

[Datboi65]

@Slartybartfast Believe me when I tell you I know. I've been in a lot of street fights myself, and I've knocked some people out unconscious before. However, not everyone you meet will collapse after one strike though, because I constantly have to think about the worst case scenario to be prepared. There are some people with a stronger chin who know how to fight. That's why I am planning on being an absolute beast before any of that can happen. Like I said, you might think it's overkill, but for me this is the goal.

[GurlMaster40]

I don’t want a relationship to define my self judgment and make me want to change the way that I am. I do care how I am fit physically but, if I was in a relationship, I would want to not have to care just to make my significant other happy or want to stay with me. No one deserves someone who will accept you how you are and how you will become in the future.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I'm working on my health habits. Namely diet, because my default mode is having two physically active hobbies - martial arts and rock climbing.

It's important to me my partner is fit. One, I want to rock climb with them. Two, I like hiking. Three, sex with an unfit person is fucking the worst - my ex-fiancé was so outta shape I had to let him win in-bed wrestling foreplay and he was so out of shape he then couldn't get an erection.

[DoctorSex]

Here's how I conceptualise fitness.

There is land (the body)

There is a house built on the land (mind)

There's is a sacred room in the house/a somewhat "holy of holies" where no one but you is allowed to go (spirit)

There is no holy of holies if there's no house, and there is no house without land.

Fitness is the foundation that everything else is built on.

I hope I explained that clearly.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[devilish-cutie]

very important but I am flexible in a way that as long as you look good/ok its fine, you dont have to be perfect. But looking after ysf is very important. No matter what people say, that its shellow or what, looks play big part in attraction. I dont desire sex with a man im not phsically attracted to and i dont like it when people let themselves go once in a relationship.

[Weapon77]

Really important. Too many people don't understand or reject the fact that the healthier your body is, the healthier your mind is, and the healthier relationships you'll have to enrich your life. Plus, girls barely notice me even though I'm pretty muscular. Imagine if I were twiggy or fat. I'd be single forever.

[DizzyDesii]

Im more so focused on healthy than phsyically fit. I like a guy to be lean to average in weight. The muscle toning is just an added bonus. I find boney lean dudes hot as long as their ribs aren't showing. Bones are hotter though than muscly veins

[MrCon10t]

Well I’ll be honest. I have a bit of a mental block with this. I see obese people in a relationship all the time, but I see myself as too fat to be physically involved with someone. Not sure why I do, but I do. Can’t see myself as attractive it’s a spare tire around my waist. Moobs aren’t the best turn-on out there for a woman, I’m sure. In any case, I don’t think you need to be physically fit….. unless YOU think you do.

[HighValue]

Stay close to the fitness level of your partner. If they stay fit, you should too. If they get lazy and fat, that is permission for you to do that as well.

Something people don't realize though is that skinny does NOT equal FIT. People can be skinny and very out of shape and not able to do much physical activity.

[andreasderjuengere]

I stay fit (in a natural way) for my own sake.

As I'm not longer hormone driven, I see no reason for ''gym'' or other vanity to make my beautiful mind more attractive by having a ''shape'' that consumerism suggests me to have.

(Digest this :) )

Anyhow - I successfully battled the belly-bulge that early Covid had imposed on me.

For myself - not for others necessarily.

[LilyoftheLake]

I know that I need to be physically fit. My experience in high school has given me a bit of a phobia over being overweight again. I need to know that he's attracted to me to feel secure.

[_Aragorn]

aahw so cute 😍 i wish your (future) man will deserve you 🙏

[NoUsernameSelected]

Very. I want my partner to want me. I want to be fit and healthy when I'm old.

Because old age is pretty fatphobic, old age is so fatphobic it kills people simple because of being fat. Old age is a bigot but we all end up with it in some way. So I need to avoid getting on its bad side.

[litty]

It's part of my identity. Unfortunately for a lot of relationships, people tend to let themselves go. They'll eat out more, and generally just try less hard to impress their partner over time. That's why fitness goals have to be independent, so you can hold yourself accountable.

[malwins]

LOL Not true im motivated by reactions from guys

[litty]

Doesn’t that mean you aren’t in a relationship?

[NathanDavis]

I do it for my own well being and my health... both mentally and physically, I need to be fit and in shape to feel better, otherwise I just start to feel heavy and a lot less energetic and motivated in general